Umubano muri couple ntabwo wigeze utugeraho neza - ndetse no mubice byiza hari ibihe byikibazo kandi bigwa. Byongeye kandi, kuko ibi bitahora bakeneye ibihe bikomeye. Ku marangamutima, abashakanye bafata icyemezo cyo kugabana kugirango batagibonane, ariko igihe kirekire kigiye, ibuka ibihe byiza nubusabane bwa kera nshaka gukomeza. Ariko birakwiye gukora ibi?
Mburabuzi, bizera ko abagore ari amarangamutima n'amarangamutima ko bahuguwe cyane muri veher yumukobwa wumukobwa. Ariko mubyukuri, abantu bakunze kuba bakunda ibi byose, hamwe nitandukaniro ryonyine bagaragaza amarangamutima yabo ntibagaragara cyane.
Nyuma yigihe runaka icyuho, buri wese mu bitabiriye amahugurwa atekereza ko akomeza umubano washize. Nubwo nubwo akenshi ibidukikije bigerageza kwanga bivuye mu ntambwe nk'iyi, icyuya ubwacyo cyoroshye cyane kubyo yatakaje.
Mubihe bigoye cyane, abantu barashaka ubufasha mumitekerereze, ariko ibi, ikibabaje, ntabwo buri gihe gutanga ibisubizo biteganijwe. Kubwibyo, ntabwo ari ugutakaza igihe cyabandi mbere yo kugerageza gutanga amahirwe ya kabiri mumibanire, fata intambwe nke:
• Ni buhoro buhoro utekereza kubyo byatumye habaho gutobora umubano. Bikunze kubaho ko bombi basenyutse kubusa, gusa kumarangamutima no kutumva nabi. Kandi muriki gihe, biroroshye kugarura umubano. Kandi ibintu biratandukanye cyane, niba icyateye gutandukana ari ubuhemu no guhemukira.
• Niba uhisemo gusubukura umubano, witegure kuberako ugomba kwibagirwa ibintu byose bibi ibyari hagati yawe kera. Niba utangiye ku kibabi gishya, gutukwa umufatanyabikorwa wa kahise - bizakongeraho ibintu gusa. Wibuke, uhereye kurupapuro rwera - bisobanura nurupapuro rusukuye.
• Mu kuvugurura umubano, ni ngombwa cyane kumenya kutavuga wenyine, ahubwo utwite witonze kandi wumve uwo mukunzi.
• Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze basabwa kutaba umunebwe no gusubiramo umufatanyabikorwa kugirango basubiremo ibyo ushaka kubigezaho. Hariho imanza mugihe umuntu atumva ibitagenda neza, kandi impamvu gutongana no gukomatanya kwabaye, bikaba byarangije gukora ikipe. • Kandi wibuke, niba rwose umuntu ari mwiza wawe nigice cyawe, ugomba kugira akazi gakomeye kugirango ukomeze umubano wacitse.