Nigute wubaka umubano numuntu wubatse, niba uhisemo kubikora

Inkuru zurukundo rwa kera nkisi, nubwo, nubwo ibintu bisa nkibishoboka, ntibishoboka kubireba wenyine kandi mumaso amwe, gukwirakwiza inama imwe. Reka tugerageze gusuzuma imanza zikunze kugaragara nuburyo ari ngombwa kwitwara neza.

Ibintu ni ibyambere. Bya kera

Bibaho ko umugore atsemba umutwe kumuntu, akundana n'amatwi ye ntarabona (cyangwa ntashaka kubona) ko amasezerano ye yose yerekeye gutandukana numugore we ntakindi uretse uburiganya. Izi manza zirakunze kugaragara, ariko mubyukuri umwe mubasomyi yari abarebaga ibintu nkibi cyangwa rimwe mu ruhare abitabiriye.

Umugabo yemeza umugore mubyukuri kuba ari mubi mumuryango kuburyo umugore wabo adakora ikintu cyose, ariko kubana na we munsi yinzu kandi ntane ubutabera gusa kubera abana. Arimo gushakisha urukundo rwinshi kandi arashaka rwose kumena umugore we, ariko icyarimwe hari ibintu byateguwe nibi: Bigiye kubyara, abana bato bigoye kwimura ikiruhuko cyumuryango , umugore ararwaye kandi ntibishoboka guhangayikishwa nabandi benshi. Ariko ibintu byose bikimara gukemuka, byanze bikunze aratandukana kandi arongora urukundo rwe runini. Kandi umugore yemera rwose amagambo ye.

Akenshi, abadamu bahura nuburebure nkaya, babayeho igihe kirekire nta mibanire, abambiwe gukurura ibibazo byose kandi bagashaka guhagarara inyuma yumugabo ukomeye kandi wizewe. Abagore nk'abo bakunda gushonga mu mugabo burundu, kugira ngo badakemura umubano na we. Byongeye kandi, bakora ibishoboka byose kugirango batabireke.

Iki kibazo ni gipimo kandi, nkuko amategeko abiteganya, umubano nuwo mugabo umara imyaka, kandi ntabwo yita ku mugore we.

Mbega ukuntu psychologiste atanga inama

Ntabwo buri mugore mubihe nkibi azabona imbaraga zo guca umubano. Mubisanzwe, ibi bisaba igihe kinini kugirango utsinde mugihe cya euphoria, urukundo kandi tugamenya ko inzozi zo kubana zizaba inzozi. Muri uru rubanza, abaterankunga ba psychologue batanga inama zoroshye cyane - kugirango bakomeze kuba bahanga kandi ntibashonga umuntu. Ibi bizagufasha kubireba neza, gupima amagambo ye, kubigereranya nukuri kandi ndakumva hakiri kare, hamwe ninde itumanaho.

Niba ushaka kuva mumibanire, ariko ntabwo ikorana n'imbaraga hanyuma ugahitamo, urashobora gukoresha imyitozo ya nengam. Aho gufatanya umufatanyabikorwa, ibuka kandi uhora wihuhura imico mibi yacyo, irangingi cyane muri yo, ibihe bibi cyane bihuye na we. Hamwe nubu buryo, urwego rwo kuramya ruzagabanuka vuba.

Ibintu ni icya kabiri. Byose ku masezerano

Muri ubwo buryo, abagore bakunze gutangwa, bareba ubuzima mubyukuri kandi mubyukuri babyumvise, kubwimyuka bakeneye umugabo n'impamvu bamukeneye. Muri iki gihe, bombi bumva impamvu zijya hamwe, urashobora rero kubyita umubano wamasezerano. Gusa byombi byishimira imyidagaduro ihuriweho, ntakindi. Hano abagore bari mumwanya watsinze, kuko ashobora kuba afite umufatanyabikorwa utari umwe.

Umudamu arashobora no guhura numukunzi we kumukunzi we, ariko icyarimwe akomeza kuba inyangamugayo. Ntazashaka kumuvana mu muryango we, ntazubaka umwuka ku nsanganyamatsiko y'ubukwe n'ibyishimo mu muryango, kugira ngo ajugunye umugore we amusange. Ntabwo ari ugukenera.

Mbega ukuntu psychologiste atanga inama

Mubihe nkibi, ntabishobora guhinduka, kuko bategura byombi. Abagore nkabo bakunze kurangwa, muri yo bumva bitameze neza, kandi umwanya wa nyirabuja uko watsinze - bahabwa imibonano mpuzabitsina ishimishije - impano zitandukanye, gutembera muri resitora), na bouque yindabyo), na bo Gushyingirwa ntabwo bitanga iyi mibare imwe.

Nk'uko byatangajwe na psychologue, umugore muri uru rubanza ni muburyo bwunguka, kuko atubakira ibitekerezo kandi, kubwimpamvu, nta gisubizo, ntaterwa no kwiheba kandi ashimishwa nuko umuntu atava mumuryango. Ntabwo bafitanye isano nubucuti nkuyu, gusa wishimire inzira.

Ibintu bya gatatu. Femme Stale

Abagore bo mu itsinda rya gatatu ntibabyitayeho rwose kumugabo mubukwe bwemewe cyangwa batabikora. Barareshya rero gushyikirana nabagabo ko badashobora kurwanya igikundiro kandi hano biratitayeho, bafite umugore cyangwa utayifite. Kubwabantu nkabo, abagabo barwanywa byoroshye numugore umwe kandi biteguye kurongora hamwe nikintu gishya cyo kuramya. Kubona mu mutego w'umugore wica, umuntu agomba kubabazwa, kuko ava mu muryango we wahoze atuyeho kandi aho, ahari, hari abana.

Mbega ukuntu psychologiste atanga inama

Guhindukira kuri iki kintu, bigomba kwibukwa ko ibyago byo gutandukana mubagabo biriyongera byinshi. Ariko mugutanga umugore nk'uwo, kuyatandukana no gusa kandi vuba ntazabigeraho. Niwe uzahitamo igihe umubano warangiye.

Urebye ibivugwa haruguru, psychologue abiteganya - niba wakundanye numugabo wubatse kandi nta mbaraga zo gutumira ishyaka, hanyuma uhitemo kimwe muri ibintu no gukora ukurikije gahunda. Ibyo ari byo byose, ntuzigere wemerera umugabo kugukoresha, reba kunegura wahisemo kandi hakiri kare, ukureho ibirahuri byijimye.