Mbega ukuntu byumvikana nabi, uyumunsi hafi kimwe cya kane cyabana bari munsi yimyaka 18 babana numubyeyi umwe. Muri icyo gihe, imyumvire itari yo iramenyerewe cyane kuburyo abana bakura mumiryango ituzuye, mugihe kizaza ntabwo batsinze nkuko abana baba mumiryango ifite ababyeyi babiri. Mu muryango nk'uwo, umuntu umwe gusa hakuze ari umubyeyi, umurimo usanzwe uragoye. Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, hari inama nyinshi zizafasha kurera umwana wenyine kandi ntukakure mubitekerezo.
1. Ntukirengagize witondere wenyine
Ni ngombwa guhita umva ubwawe ko ukeneye kwitaho bihagije kubyo ukeneye. Gusa iyo umuntu yumvise aruhutse neza kandi afite ubuzima bwiza, arashobora kwita ku bana be.Ababyeyi benshi bakunda kwishyiriraho ibyo abana babo bakeneye mbere na mbere, nonyine kubwami, ariko ibi bizakugezaho kuba bahora bananiwe. Witondere gutanga umwanya kuri buri gihe kandi ufite akamaro, kuruhuka no kwishora byibuze murugo kwishyuza.
2. guhuza imbaraga nabandi babyeyi barera abana
Nukuri umuntu wese wahuye nikintu nkubwo yasaga nuko umuntu wenyine uzi icyo kuba umubyeyi usobanura. Ariko, imibare ivuga ko hariho abandi bantu benshi bazi neza icyo aricyo.
Urashobora kubona ababyeyi barera abana kumurongo, mwishure yumwana wawe, kubintu bidasanzwe cyangwa no gusaba bidasanzwe. Hariho kandi imiryango myinshi kumurongo ishobora gutanga inkunga ninama binyuze kuri Facebook cyangwa imbuga nka mama umwe.
3. Kora abaturage
Usibye gushaka inkunga kubabyeyi barera abana, urashobora kandi gushyiraho umuryango ugizwe n'imiryango isa. Nkuko babivuga, hamwe nintimba byoroshye kwihanganira. Kandi ingingo rusange ihuza abantu nkuko bidashoboka.4. Fata ubufasha
Ntibikenewe kugerageza kuba intwari no gukora byose wenyine. Nukuri, ijoro ryijoro hazaba abantu (bene wabo, inshuti, nibindi), bashaka byimazeyo kwita kubwigunge n'abana be, kandi bashaka no kumufasha. Birakwiye kubitangariza ibikagombye kuba ubufasha bukwiye kugaragazwa, byaba ubufasha bubi nibicuruzwa cyangwa kubona umwana mwishuri.
Ntakintu giteye isoni mugusaba ubufasha no gufata ubufasha kubakunzi. Muri icyo gihe, uwasabwe ntazafatwa nk'intege nke cyangwa adashoboye, ahubwo azafatwa nk'umubyeyi mwiza.
5. Waba kurera abana
Uburezi bwumwana mumubyeyi umwe ni umurimo utoroshye kubera ikiguzi kinini cyo guha akazi Nanny, nibindi mubyukuri, hari uburyo bworoshye, niba usaba byibuze guhanga.
Niba murugo hari icyumba "cyinyongera", urashobora gutanga umunyeshuri we muguhana abana bisanzwe. Cyangwa urashobora kugerageza gushyikirana nabandi babyeyi barera abana kureba abana nabo. Hariho ubundi buremere bwongeyeho muri ibi - abana bazashobora gukina, kandi kukwitaho bizoroha.
6. Tegura mugihe cyihutirwa cyihutirwa
Niba urera umwana wenyine, hagomba guhora ari gahunda yo gusubira inyuma cyangwa ebyiri mugihe "hari ibitagenda neza." Ugomba gukora urutonde rwabantu bamenyereye bashobora kwitwa igihe icyo aricyo cyose. Ibyo ari byo byose, uzigera ukeneye ubufasha, kandi ni ngombwa kumenya hakiri kare uwo ushobora kwishingikiriza.Birakwiye kandi kwiga mbere aho ushobora gutumiza serivisi zihutirwa za Nanny cyangwa yincuke. Kumenya umuntu ushobora kwita ku mwana mugihe byihutirwa, birashobora kugabanya impungenge mubihe bitesha umutwe.
7. Uburyo bwumunsi
Gahunda ni ingenzi cyane kubana bato, kuko ubumenyi bwibishobora gutegurwa bibaha igaragara. Ni ngombwa cyane mugihe hari umubyeyi umwe gusa.
Birakwiye kwishyiriraho uburyo hamwe numwana ushoboka - igihe cyo gusinzira (mbere na nyuma yishuri), ibibazo byo murugo, igihe cyo kwakira ibiryo ndetse nacyo gihe cyumunsi muri wikendi.
8. Komera
Niba umwana afite abarinzi benshi, urugero, undi mubyeyi, sogokuru, sogokuru cyangwa nanny, ugomba kubasobanurira neza uburyo bwawe bwo guhana kugirango umwana arezwe mu buriri bumwe.Iyo umwana asobanukiwe ko amategeko amwe "akorera" hamwe nabantu batandukanye, azabakoresha gusa ku nyungu zayo, azotera ibibazo byinyongera kubibuza, imyitwarire na disipuline mugihe kizaza.
9. Kuba mwiza
Abana bazashobora kuvumbura ndetse nimpinduka ntoya mumyitwarire no kumena ababyeyi babo. Kubwibyo, birakenewe kwibanda kubihe byiza byubuzima, nk'inshuti n'umuryango. Ibi bizakora ahantu hahamye murugo.
Witondere kandi urwenya kandi ntutinye kureba ibicucu.
10. Reka kureka ibyahise kandi ntukumve ko wicira urubanza
Mu muryango ufite umubyeyi umwe, nubwo byarageragezwa gute, ntibishoboka gukora nkababyeyi bombi. Birakenewe gusa "kubabaza" ku kuba udashobora gukora wenyine, ahubwo, tekereza kubyo ushoboye guha abana bawe.Birakenewe kandi kwibagirwa gusa igitekerezo cyuko ubuzima bworoha cyangwa bwiza hamwe nababyeyi babiri. Ntabwo ari ukuri. Hariho ibyiza byinshi kumuryango mubihe byombi, kwicuza rero nicyo ukeneye cyane.
11. Vuga neza Ibibazo
Abana barashobora kugira ibibazo bijyanye nimpamvu ibikoresho byabo byo murugo bitandukanye na benshi mu nshuti zabo. Iyo basabye impamvu aribyo, ntukeneye kwigisha uko ibintu bimeze cyangwa kubeshya / kubura.
Ukurikije imyaka, birakenewe kubasobanurira ukuri kubyabaye nuburyo ibintu biriho byateye imbere. Mubisanzwe, ntibikwiye kubwira ibisobanuro birambuye kuruta ibikenewe, kandi ntabwo ari ngombwa kuvuga nabi kubandi babyeyi. Ariko icyarimwe, birakwiye kugerageza kuvugisha ukuri no kuba inyangamugayo.
12. Reba abana nkabana
Mugihe habuze umufatanyabikorwa, benshi babona ko abana babo nkumuhuza kugirango bavugane cyangwa impuhwe. Nta rubanza rudashobora gukora ibi - abana ntibagenewe urwo rwego.Mu mibanire yabantu bakuru hari amakuru menshi abana badashobora kumva cyangwa gusobanukirwa, kandi bizatera urujijo nuburakari.
Kandi, ntukeneye gukuraho abana bawe uburakari no gutandukanya ibyifuzo byawe namarangamutima yuruhare rwababyeyi.
13. Shakisha intangarugero
Nigiye kubona ingero nziza zo kwigana abo mudahuje igitsina. Ni ngombwa cyane ko umwana adafite amashyirahamwe mabi afite kubura umubyeyi wabuze.
Kugirango ukore ibi, urashobora kubona inshuti magara cyangwa abagize umuryango bashaka kumarana umwanya nabana. Birakenewe gushishikariza abana gukora umubano ukomeye nabantu wizeye kandi bashobora no gutanga nkurugero.
14. Gira urukundo kandi uhimbaze
Abana bakeneye urukundo no guhimbaza buri munsi. Birakwiye kuvugana nabana igihe cyose bishoboka, nkina nabo, kujya gutembera no gutera inkunga ibiganiro bifunguye.Witondere gushimangira ibyo umwana akora neza, niyo yaba ari bato. Ugomba guhimbaza imbaraga zabo, ntabwo ariho ibyagezweho. Bizashishikariza abana kudakenera kwiyegurira nubwo akazi katoroshye, niba utabonye intsinzi.
Aho gukoresha amafaranga yimpano, nibyiza kumara umwanya n'imbaraga zo kwibuka igihe kirekire.
Umwanzuro
Kuba umubyeyi wenyine ni inshingano zitoroshye. Hatabayeho ubufasha bwumufatanyabikorwa ushobora kwiringira, ababyeyi barera abana bazagira impungenge nyinshi.
Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko iyo umwana akuze mumuryango hamwe numubyeyi umwe, ntabwo agira ingaruka mbi kumikorere ye kwishuri. Mugihe umuryango ari ibidukikije bihamye kandi bifite umutekano, abana barashobora gutsinda mubushakashatsi bwabo nubuzima bwabo.