Umuntu wese arashaka ko urukundo rwe ruhoraho, ariko ntabwo ibintu byose bizi uburyo ibyo bishobora koroherezwa. Mubyukuri, 7 "Amategeko yose" yingufu, ashoboye (niba akoreshwa mubuzima bwabo bwite), yatejwe imbere (niba akurikiza mubuzima bwabo), kandi burigihe bukomeza ubuhanga, umunezero nurukundo.
1 Amategeko yo gukurura
Amategeko yo gukurura avuga ko gukurura ibintu bisa, n'imbaraga zinyuranye, bereke hafi. Mugihe cyamatariki menshi ya mbere, abantu bari mubihe bishimishije, byiza, kandi imbaraga zibyishimo zirashimishije kandi zikurura. Ariko iyo umuntu atangiye gufata mugenzi we nkuburyo "bwo gukemura ibibazo bye, ibintu byose biba bibi cyane.Kugira ngo ukoreshe amategeko yo gukurura inyungu zawe bwite, birakwiye kwibuka icyo aricyo - gukunda mugenzi wawe, kandi gerageza ntuzigere wibagirwa ibyo byiyumvo.
2 Uruhushya rw'amategeko
Iyo umuntu ahura nuwambere numukunzi wubuzima, ashishikajwe abikuye ku mutima kumenya umuntu icyo aricyo. Byombi nibisangira amakuru kuri bo nta manza n'ibiteganijwe. Ariko, nkuko ubuzima bwabantu bombi bugenda bukomera, imiterere karenga zamakuru zihinduka zihinduka mugusubiza igisubizo cyikintu runaka cyangwa mugusubiza ibyifuzo n'ibyifuzo byumufatanyabikorwa.
Kugira ngo ukoreshe uruhushya rw'amategeko mu nyungu zawe bwite, birakenewe kubona ko buri muntu azakomeza gutera imbere nkumuntu, atitaye kumibanire. Birakenewe kwemerera no gushishikariza imikurire yumukunzi wawe, kandi ntukananire ibi cyangwa kubiseke. Kubaho kw'inyungu nshya zizagumana umubano "mushya" kandi ushimishije.
Amategeko 3 yubushobozi buhagije nubwinshi
Amategeko yo guhaza n'ubwinshi afasha kumva ko inzira yonyine yo kubona byinshi mubyo nshaka ari ugushima ibimaze, utibanze ku kindi kintu. Kumva gushimira bizatanga inguzanyo ijana.Mu ntangiriro yumubano, mugihe ushaka ibyiza gusa murugendo rwawe, biroroshye bidasanzwe kwiyemeza gushima, kandi bikaryama. Ariko igihe, iyo ugaragaye kubyerekeye ubusembwa bwose nibibi byumukunzi wawe, ugomba gukora ubuhanga bwo gusuzuma neza.
Ugomba gukora ishimwe kumufatanyabikorwa kubintu byose ubikunda, bityo umenye urukundo rwose hagati yabantu bose hagati yombi kandi batera inkunga uru rukundo gukura.
4 Amategeko yo Kumanika Kurema
Iri tegeko rusange rishingiye ku gusobanukirwa ibyo uyobora imbaraga zawe. Inshuro nyinshi iyo umubano ukuze kandi uhamye, utangira kumva ko "wageze" aho ujya kandi ntagikeneye imbaraga zose. Iri ni ikosa rikomeye cyane.
Mubyukuri, buri mugabo n'umugore bahora bakora kandi bagahindura umubano wacyo. N'ubundi kandi, abantu babaho muri leta zihoraho zo kubaho. Niba kandi ushishikajwe no kudashyigikira iri terambere, urashobora kuzana umubano nurupfu rwabo.
Kugira ngo ukoreshe amategeko y'irema nkana yo gushimangira urukundo mu mibanire, birakenewe kubitekerezaho nk'umurimo uhoraho kuri gahunda. Rimwe na rimwe, birakenewe cyane kwitabwaho n'imbaraga zishyigikira neza imikurire yumubano, kandi ushyireho imbaraga kugirango ubigereho.
5 Amategeko adasanzwe
Kubahiriza amategeko y'ibidasanzwe ntibisobanura ko ari ngombwa "gufunga" umufasha wacyo, kwitandukanya cyangwa kubuza intege nke cyangwa kubuza intege nke cyangwa kwihagarika ibibazo cyangwa ishyaka. Ibi bivuze ko ukeneye kubusa kubusa umutwaro wo kwishingikiriza no gutegereza cyane.Kugerageza kugenzura imyitwarire yundi nuburyo bwihuse bwo gushyingura umubano. Niba ukuyeho ibisubizo runaka utegereje kuri mugenzi wawe, ntuzashobora na gato amahirwe yo kugera kubisubizo, ahubwo bitandukanye nibinyuranye.
Kugira ngo ukoreshe amategeko menshi kugirango utezimbere umubano wawe, ugomba kumenya neza ko byombi bifite umwanya nigihe cyo guteza imbere inyungu zabo bwite.
6 Ubushobozi bworoshye
Iri tegeko rusange rirashobora gufasha gufungura ibitekerezo byawe n'umutima wawe kubintu byose isano ishobora guhinduka.
Igihe kirenze, birashoboka gutangira kuvura mugenzi wawe nkuko gukomeza uwo ari we wahoze ari kera, ariko biganisha kuri monotony kandi bishyiraho ibibujijwe kubintu bitagira imipaka biboneka mubucuti.
Kugira ngo ukoreshe amategeko yubushobozi bwuzuye, ugomba gutekereza buri munsi hamwe na mugenzi wawe nkintangiriro yinkuru nshya ishimishije, itagarukira ku kintu cyose cyari mbere. Kwitabira ahantu hashya. Reba firime nshya (na zitandukanye). Buri gihe shyiramo ibihe bishya kandi uhora umenya ibintu bitagaragara byambere byumuntu ukunda.
Amategeko 7
Amategeko ya polarity afasha kumva ko buri muntu, ibintu byose hamwe nibintu byose byubuzima hari impande ebyiri. Byose kandi byose bigizwe nimpande nziza kandi mbi.
Ugomba gukora ikaye cyangwa ikinyamakuru kugirango uyobore urutonde rwibintu byiza bya mugenzi wawe, kimwe no gusangira buri gihe ibyanditswe.