Abagabo akenshi ntibatekereza cyane kubyo bavuga, kubera ibyo bafata inzika cyane no gutukana. Byongeye kandi, abahagarariye igorofa bakomeye ntibabyumva cyane, bahumekejwe ko nta muntu bavuze. Ariko abagore bifata interuro zumugabo muburyo bwabo kandi bagatanga imyanzuro yabo. Kandi uko abagabo batarakara bavuga ko ibitekerezo byabagore ibitsina byigitsina gabo, amwe mumagambo ashotora nibyiza kutabivuga, ikindi gihe kigoye mubucuti.
1. "Umugore agomba kumvira umuntu we muri byose."
Umugore ntakintu na kimwe gikwiye umugabo we, nka we. Ibikorwa byiza byose, kwita no gutoroka bigomba kuba bivuye ku mutima, kandi ntibihatirwa, bitabaye ibyo ntabwo ari urukundo. Umugabo ntagomba gutegeka umukunzi we, kumuhatira gusohoza ibyo ategeka, amusakuza aramutse atumviye, kuko mumaso ye yashoboraga guhita ahindukirira umunyagitugu wuje urukundo mubanyagitugu. Kandi iyi nteruro ya Narcissste ntiyazatsindishiriza ibikorwa byumugabo, ariko izasohoka mu mugore gusa ikanakomeza gutekereza ku kuba atari mu nzira n'umunyagitugu.2. "Abagore bose ni bamwe."
Icyamamare cyane, ibicucu na mantle kumagambo y'abagore. N'ubundi kandi, niba abagore bose ari bamwe, kuki umugabo yahisemo umugore mwiza, wiyongereye kandi wiyoroshya, ntabwo ari we wamumanitse igihe cyose, yakundaga rwose kunywa no kugendera mu kigo cya Neisy? Hariho rero itandukaniro? Kandi mu isura no mu magambo yo mu mwuka, abagore bose baratandukanye kuri mugenzi wabo, bijyanye n'inyungu runaka ndetse n'imico imwe. Niba umuntu atumva ibi, agomba kwiyumvisha uko umugore we avuga ikintu kimwe kuri we. Azaba mwiza? Biragoye.
3. "Niki ushobora gusobanukirwa, uri umugore!"
Niba umugore adakunda kujya kuroba, reba umupira cyangwa kwishora muri siporo, ntibisobanura ko ari ibicucu, ntabwo rero bizashobora kubimenya. Burigihe ntibikwiye kwerekana umuntu mubitsina, kuko nta nyungu zumugabo cyangwa abagore gusa, ahantu hose hari ibitavuzwe. Kubwibyo, hari abagore beza kurenza abagabo benshi basenyutse mumashini. Kandi hariho abagabo badashobora kwihanganira uburobyi, kuko bahitamo kumara umwanya. Umuntu wese afite inyungu zabo nibyo akunda, ntugomba rero kumushinja niba ntacyo yunvikana.4. "Iki ntabwo ari ikintu cy'umugabo."
Abagabo bamwe bemera cyane ko bataremewe kugirango bameshe hasi, gukaraba imyenda cyangwa guteka ibiryo, kuko rwose ntabwo rwose umwuga wumugabo. Ariko, niba umugabo agumye kubaho wenyine? Azaguruka buri munsi mumukungugu numwanda, ni ibiryo bitabishaka no gutwara isake hamwe nibipaki biva mubicuruzwa biteka vuba? Imvugo nkiyi isobanura gusa ubunebwe, umwanda nimyitwarire kuri umugore nkumugore. Hano hari imyitwarire kandi ntabwo ari ubucuruzi bwigitsina gabo.
5. "Nibyo, niba numva ..."
Umuntu mwiza ahora ashyigikira umukunzi we kandi akenshi aramufasha, ashimira, urukundo no gusubiza ibikorwa. Ariko ntazigera avuza umugore mubyo yamukoreye imyaka itanu ishize, nubwo iki gikorwa muburyo bwiza cyagize ingaruka mubuzima bwe. Nyuma ya byose, urukundo ruvuye ku mutima ni imyumvire ya altruistic idakeneye ikintu na kimwe mubisubizo. Kubwibyo, ibitutsi nkibi kuruhande rwabatandukanije, umugore azajyana muri bayonets, kuko adashaka kumva igisubizo cyubuzima bwanjye bwose, sinshaka ko hagira umuntu uhagarariye igitsina cyiza.