Mu mibanire myiza, umuntu azahora abona inkunga ikenewe, ubufasha n'agakiza, kuko urukundo rutera kudacogora no kunangira. Ariko mubihe bimwe, umubano utera kurakara gusa kandi ugahatirwa kugenda buhoro buhoro. Ubumwe nkubwo buragoye guhamagara urukundo, abishaka abishaka cyangwa gushinyagurira.
Ariko abantu benshi ntibabona uburyo babaye imfungwa zubusabane bwubuhinzi, bityo bakeneye inama zimwe na zimwe, amaherezo bazatuma batekereza kubibera.1. Igice cya kabiri nticyanyuzwe nibyo wagezeho.
Niba uhisemo gusangira numugabo wawe ukunda ufite amakuru ashimishije kubyerekeye intsinzi yawe, kandi mu gusubiza inseko ngufi no kubashimye bigufi kandi bikaryama, birakwiye gutekereza kumibanire yabo. N'ubundi kandi, umuntu wuje urukundo azahora yishimira igice cya kabiri kandi yishimira byimazeyo gutsinda. Kandi mugenzi wawe akwego gusa kandi ashaka kugera kubindi byinshi kugirango yerekane ko ari indashyikirwa. Ni Urukundo? Biragoye.
2. Umufatanyabikorwa aragerageza kugutera kwanga ibintu bihenze kuri wewe.
Itumanaho ninshuti nziza, hafi, ibyo ukunda bihenze cyane kuri buri muntu. Kubwibyo, mugihe igice cya kabiri gitangiye gusaba ko ureka kuvugana nabantu bihenze kandi ugakura ibyo ukunda, ntugomba kubigeraho. N'ubundi kandi, ibyifuzo nk'ibyo ni ukugaragaza Egoism, bitagereranywa n'abantu bakunda. Niba umukunzi atagirana umubano nabakunzi bawe, ntamuntu umuhatira gukomeza kuvugana nabo, ariko akabibuza. Nta burenganzira afite.3. Nta mbaraga ufite.
Gahunda imwe y'akazi, ibyo akunda, ibyo akunda, n'imbaraga biraba bito buri munsi. Ahari uruhare rwabo rukinishwa nabatoteje amavuta ya buri munsi hamwe nuwo ukunda, bigatera amarangamutima mabi no guhitamo ingabo zanyuma. Muri iki gihe, birakwiye ko twajyanywe kure yubuzima bwawe, kuko ibi bishobora kuzanwa kwiheba.
4. Umugabo ukunda akenshi arangiza.
Mugihe uri kukazi cyangwa muri sosiyete hamwe ninshuti, urumva umuntu wishimye, ariko ugomba guhura numukunzi uko imyumvire iguye ako kanya. N'ubundi kandi, igice cya kabiri kikubonana no kwishyura burundu, ibisebe bike hamwe nishyari ridafite akazi. Umuntu nkuwo aragora cyane gukunda, ariko kwiringira urukundo rwe kandi na gato burimunsi biba byose ni umuzimu.5. Wimukiye kure y'abantu bahenze.
Umubano wawe nta hungabana kuburyo wimukiye inyuma yabakunzi n'inshuti kongera guhungabanya amakuru yabo mubuzima bwabo bugoye. Kandi mugenzi wawe na we, na we aragerageza kugukuraho abantu bahenze kugira imbaraga kuri wewe.
6. Umufatanyabikorwa akunze kuvuga amakosa yawe.
Abakundana bagerageza kudatesha agaciro amakosa ya mugenzi wabo, gufata gusa imico yayo. Niba igice cya kabiri cya kabiri kigusonga gusa kandi ntugerageze kubona imico myiza, birakwiye gutekereza kubikuye ku mutima ibyiyumvo byuyu muntu.7. Uhore uhanganwa rwose abashakanye.
Wishimira gusa inkuru zinshuti zijyanye nigihe cyo kwishima zamaranye nigice cya kabiri, kuko urukundo rwabo ruvuye ku mutima, kandi umubano urahuza kandi wishimye. Birashoboka ko ukeneye guhagarika ishyari, n'imibanire yuzuye ubumara no guhura nibyishimo byawe byukuri?