Ntabwo abana bose bafite ibintu bisa na firime ivuga "umuntu wimvura" cyangwa gutembera muri Amerika chan. Akenshi abandi batekereza ko umwana ashimishe gusa, ntagerageza, yazamuwe nabi. Abizera ko ababyeyi batazi uko bakemura umwana barashobora gutangira gusuzugura inama, ibitekerezo ndetse no gutukana. Ingaruka z'ibitero ku buryo bunoze zishobora kuba zifite bitandukanye, kuva mu burakari bworoshye no gutinyuka, kugeza igihe Sisitemu yo mu bafite ubwoba irenze, izahinduka hysterics cyangwa gushimangira imyuka cyangwa imbaraga zidasanzwe mumyitwarire.
Twabajije mama benshi, abana basa nababana nundi bakiri bato, nuburyo babana numwana usanzwe mu buryo bwo kunegura buri gihe.
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Mfite umwana w'imyaka itanu ufite "amaso yubwenge." Kuri we no gutegereza imyitwarire isanzwe: itagira iherezo "Kuki", ubwoko bwincuke. Kandi ntitonsesha ibiganiro kandi mubihe bitoroshye (nibyo, hamwe nabanyamahanga) hafi rwose Echolalia.- ukunda ice cream?
- Nkunda ice cream.
- Kandi urashaka kuba nde?
- Urashaka kuba.
Nibyiza, hano abantu basa nkibidasanzwe ... kuri njye. Kandi kubera ko atari ittenna ibibera, kandi niba mvuze "autism" - bahitamo ko ari ururango rw'umuhungu nk '"Umuhungu w'umunyabwenge," bavuga ko ndimo Umwana, cyangwa ku musaza ntabwo yabifashe, cyangwa imiti runaka ntiyabisanze - muri rusange, kubitekerezo bye byiza abana bafasha.
Numva inama zikurikira, ariko kubwimpamvu ntamuntu numwe wumva uwanjye - uburyo bwiza bwo kuvugana numwana, kandi biracyariho itumanaho.
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Umukobwa w'imyaka itandatu asoma vuba, azi Encyclopedia y'abana bake, igwiza kandi igabanywa mubitekerezo. Kandi icyarimwe, ibibazo byo murugo birashobora rimwe na rimwe kwibagirana kandi bisobanurwa, ariko ntibisobanura amasasu, bigoye kuranga buto ndetse na buto (biragoye, biragoye kubitangaza). Urashobora kurira gitunguranye, nkabana iyo unaniwe. Irashobora gutangira gusubiramo amagambo kugiti cye numuntu, akunda cyane kutumvikana cyangwa kubanyamahanga no kuzunguruka muruziga.
Birarakaye cyane iyo mbwiye ko byangijwe mubitekerezo kuko namugize bike kugirango nige. Sinigeze myihatira, we ndasoma, kandi ndagwiza hari ukuntu yize.
Vuba aha muri Amerika autism, ariko sobanura ubwoko bwiterambere ritaringaniye kuva autism, ni nko kuganira kubusa. Ako kanya, Autism byabaye kubera ko umwana yize gusoma.
Akeneye kandi kugoreka mu ntoki igihe cyose cyo kumva atuje, kandi aragerageza gufata ibikinisho bye kubikora, kugira ngo atabe umugozi.
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Mubisanzwe bibaho rero - abantu bararakaye baravuza bagatangira gusakuza.Rimwe na rimwe, barashobora kumvikana ("umuhungu wawe yazamuye umwana wanjye kuva mu ijosi ry'umusaraba"), rimwe na rimwe oya ("Kuki umwana wawe acira amacandwe mu iduka?!")
Niba rwose umuhungu wanjye ari we nyirabayazana, ntabwo rero ndi mubi, kuki Krestik yashyizwe mu ishuri rya Aikido, ndasaba imbabazi, ndabaza indishyi abantu bashaka.
Muri rusange, iyo uvuze utuje utuje "umwana ufite ubumuga, autism," akenshi abantu batuza, basaba imbabazi ubwabo kandi bagende. Ariko rimwe na rimwe oya, komeza usabe ko biba ryiza kurubu. Ugomba kubaza "kandi niki ushobora gutanga kugirango uyashizeho?"
Ariko abantu bakomeye ni priudorovative. "Uku niko Imana yakunyanije," cyangwa aho Imana yakunyeganyega, "niho" Ni ukubera ko ababyeyi bavutse, abana nk'abo hari "mu rugo nta rusengero ruhagije, kandi ni ngombwa gukora buri munsi, kandi Ibintu byose bizashira, abadayimoni be bazarekurwa. " Hano nkunze kumena igisenge kandi ntangira mvugana nabi, nka "ubuzima bwiza, cyane cyane ibitangiza." Nibyiza ko abantu nkabo batahura buri munsi.
Mubyukuri, kugirango turebe rudasanzwe, umwana "gusa" ni mubyukuri atuje, utitayeho, agasuzuguro kandi utyaye; Ikarito nkaya muri Cuba. Eka no mu maso, cyangwa ku gishushanyo, cyangwa mu buryo bwije ku budahangarwa mubuzima ntacyo ubitayeho.
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Ibyerekeye umukobwa wanjye imyaka yatangaje ko atagerageje hano kandi ntageragezayo. Kuki ufite isura nziza, kuki utumva urwenya, nigute ushobora gutinya ibiruhuko, kuki ufite igihe cyose cyo kurira, uraganira gusa ... gerageza, guteranire, shaka byose Inzira no kumwenyura, kandi uzaba inshuti kandi ntukabe inshuti kandi ntuzarebe.
Nigute ushobora kumva ko ushonje, urwara, urakubabaza, uri iki, umuswa? Ibi nibibazo.
Birashoboka ko byasaga nkaho ibintu byose byari byoroshye, kuko umukobwa ubwe yahoraga ari umunyabwenge cyane kandi ari mwiza mubigaragara, ikinyabupfura, soma byinshi (none, birumvikana ko gusoma). Ariko birenze urugero cyane none ntabwo byoroshye. Mbere, umukobwa kamenene gusa, ubu atangira gushakisha uko yakwirukana, niba arengewe, cyangwa byibuze gukuramo. Mu myaka yashize, inzira zabo zateye imbere.
Ariko rero, nibindi byose bitujuje, nkuko umuntu ashobora gufatwa nkibicucu kandi afite ubwenge icyarimwe.
Yari azi kumwenyura, mugihe uhangayikishijwe nimpamvu runaka, ntabwo akurura kumwenyura, kandi byumvikana. Kandi amarira yarwo afite agaciro kanini, ntibashobora guterwa isoni, amarira arakomanga iyo ari mubihe bitihanganirwa, ahubwo agerageza gukomeza gukora, kuganira nabantu no kubimenya kubera imipaka. Ntabwo batemba, gusa mu mfuruka z'ijisho ryinjijwe. Nkuko ushobora gufata umuntu amarira, sindabyumva.
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Umuhungu wanjye ni muto, harimo mubunini, kandi na charismatique cyane. Birashoboka ko niyo mpamvu ibitekerezo byatanzwe byumwihariko byatsindiye Passyow bidahenze. Bidatinze, uko byagenda kose. Ahanini abantu barapfa - umuhungu wanjye wimyaka itanu asa nkimyaka itatu kandi rimwe na rimwe yitwara kimwe.Ikintu kitoroshye ni ubwikorezi rusange. Kubwimpamvu runaka, umubare munini wibintu bitabaje bitera guhura muri tram. Nyirasenge udashimishije ntabwo yakunze ko umuhungu yanduye inyuma yintebe imbere ye. Kugerageza gutanga nyirasenge kugirango mfate abahungu inkweto, kugira ngo mu by'ukuri nari kuzuza ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose, nyirasenge yirengagije, yigira nkaho atari hano na gato. Uyu muhungu yavugije induru muri iki gihe cyose (ahari ari hafi gutaka). Ihame, icyifuzo cya tenkinkino cyari gifite ishingiro, ariko we ubwe yari afite nabi.
Ubusanzwe abandi bakoreye ko umuhungu aryamye hasi, mubyukuri atakora umuntu.
Muri rusange, ibibazo byumwana wanjye bifitanye isano na sisitemu yubuyobozi yubatswe. Ntabwo yumva amakipe yijwi, ntasubiza mugihe bamushimishije kandi bakunda guhunga mububiko. UKURI, guhuriza hamwe no kuba muri rubanda, yahise atangira igitero cy'abo mu nkambi akikije kandi agaragaza umuswa ukiri muto, muri rusange, mu gihe yari umwizerwa kuri we.
Ariko mubyukuri, ndakeka ko abantu banganya gusa couple yacu y'amabara, kubera amahame yose yuburezi hamwe numwana wanjye, ubwenge bwa kera akora neza "ntibashobora gutsindwa na karaba - kubigana." Njyewe. Dukunze kureba twitonda kandi rimwe na rimwe kunyerera, kunyerera ....
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Ugereranyije n'umwana wanjye usanzwe bamusanganye indwara ya autistique afite imyaka igera kuri 7, bitinze, ariko ntibyari byoroshye ku ishuri, imiterere itagaragara, kandi byaracitse intege ku mihangayihire, hanyuma bisuzumwa. Benshi muri bose nabwiwe numwe muba psychologue, nari nubahe, kandi wizeye. Yavuze ko noneho umwana wanjye yangiritse gusa kandi birakenewe kunywa itabi.
Noneho ni imyaka cumi n'itatu kandi ni yishyuwe neza, njye na data twashora imari muri yo. Ariko hariho abantu barakajwe nubusa, kandi muri rusange "ariko ibyo ntacyo bakora, ntabwo bishishikajwe nababi, ntabwo bifuza kugenda wenyine. N'umubyeyi umwe w'umwana hamwe n'ubwoko nambwiye, ugereranije na we, uko bigaragara: neza, hano ufite icyo ubimenya.
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Muri rusange, umuhungu wanjye (afite imvururu zidasanzwe) atari uko gusa atavuga kandi igakora isura isekeje, agenda agenda nka Zombie muri Filime: Gushyira ikiganza imbere, birasetsa no guseka kumaguru yombi (ubu, ariko , bike) kuruta gutera ubwoba imbwa. N'abahisi mu munsi wijimye.
Ariko muri rusange, ibyo biratangaje ko bisobanutse neza ko ibintu byose atari byiza cyane, ariko ntibibuza abantu rwose, kubisaba gukora byinshi, bitanga amaboko ahindagurika ubuziraherezo, kugirango udakoze kandi usobanure Kuri we ko bidashoboka kwitwara.
Kandi ntacyo bibujijwe, birabujijwe gusa kumvune gusa, ibyo abantu bavuga, cyangwa guseka nta mpamvu igaragara. Cyangwa mumaso yiyubakira, gusa afite groteque kandi agaragaza cyane. Rimwe na rimwe.
Muri rusange, reaction mbi cyane ntabwo aribyinshi, ariko igihugu cyinama cyigihugu cya soviets. ORTHodox irasaba kwitonda kujya ku birometero igihumbi kugirango ugerekeze cyangwa uganire nabasaza kubintu runaka. Mubyifuzo byabo, feat ifite ibyago kubuzima bwumwana bagomba guhongerera ikintu runaka no gukora igitangaza. Ndavuga mu kinyabupfura "Urakoze", kuko gusobanura impamvu ntashaka kubabaza no gushyira ahagaragara akaga k'ibanze na igicuri natakaje. Inshingano Ntibishoboka.
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Mfite umwana wunvikana cyane, ndetse nihahamuka mumitekerereze. Kandi utuye hafi yigihe cyose, kuko buriwese yihatira kuvuga igitekerezo cye mugihe uri gahunda yimyaka itanu mumaboko yawe cyangwa mugihe umukobwa atangiye kurira kubera kurenza urugero cyangwa inzara. Ntafite umutekano, "nibyiza, kandi mu buryo butunguranye yamaze kuvunika. Mubisanzwe numva ikibazo.Niba kandi umukecuru aramutse ikuza, uzamusubiza ati: "Sinabajije igitekerezo cyawe," - cyangwa: "Urakoze ubwacu," hirya no hino, wahise utera umukecuru . Nibyo, nta mukecuru nyuma yibyo biracecetse. Mubisanzwe cyangwa utangire gusakuza, cyangwa gutera kuri: "Ndabona uko ubyumva!"
Akenshi hariho ibihe abantu bakuru b'abandi batanga ibisobanuro ku mwana watoranije mu maso hawe ibimenyetso, urugero. Kubera iyo mpamvu, niba ncecetse, umukobwa arashobora kwibonera umunsi no kurira mbere yo kuryama.
Ndimo gukora iki?
Nize kwerekana imipaka yawe, bidakomeje umwirondoro wuwaduhishuriwe. Tufata mu mutwe amagambo. Kandi ndasobanura umukobwa wanjye ibibera. Mbega umubano wacu na we ni umubano wacu abantu bitwara nabi, bagaragaza ibitekerezo byabo kuri twe, kandi berekeje kuri bo.
Ntibishoboka guceceka. Ubwa mbere, abateye ntibiceceke, niba ucecetse, icya kabiri, ibyo ntamuhagarariye, umukobwa arakomeretse cyane.
Ubuzima bw'ababyeyi bwanjye muri Socium ni umurimo uhoraho. Ntaho bihuriye na hyperopica, nkuko rimwe na rimwe mvuga. Kuberako nsubiza gusa kubitero bigaragara.
Iyo ibidukikije bituje, ibibazo byakemuwe byoroshye. Guhumuriza umwana, tanga Gingerbread, Shokora cyangwa umufuka wamata, kandi nibyo. Ariko utuje ibintu byose bigenda mugihe. Kenshi cyane hari ibyifuzo.
Muri icyo gihe, umukobwa afite ibibazo byinshi mu buntu, ikinyabupfura kandi nitwa kure.
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Mfite umwana udahuye na pasiporo. Ni ukuvuga, ashakisha imyaka 2 kurenza pasiporo ye, kandi ayobora akato imyaka 2. Muri icyo gihe, hakurikijwe isuzuma ryemewe, ntabwo turi abanditsi, ahubwo ni imyanda imwe. Ku mugaragaro - abanyamaguru b'abana.
Kandi ubu ni bwo buryo butavuguruzanya kubyo abantu babona, nuburyo yitwara, bikikije buri gihe batangiza ubwugaze. Kuberako bizera ko imbere yabo umwana wicyiciro cya 3, kandi natwe uyu mwaka gusa ku ishuri. Kandi imibereho ni gahunda yimyaka itanu. Nkigisubizo, hariho nyirasenge buri gihe hamwe nibisa buri gihe.
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