Umubano mwiza usobanura neza hagati "fata no gutanga", ariko bakurikiza iri tegeko, ikibabaje, ntabwo bose. Niba kandi ubwumvikane bwacitse, noneho umuntu akoresha neza umuntu cyangwa rwihishwa. Muri iki kiganiro, tuzavuga ibimenyetso 9 bizasobanura neza ko mubucuti uri ikintu cyo gukoresha.
Ingero zihoraho z'ibyaha byashize
Ntamuntu ucumura - ndetse n'ubwenge bukomeye bwakoze amakosa. Ariko uhora wibutsa umuntu kubyerekeye aho nigihe yari yibeshye - ikoreshwa nabi ya manipulation kugirango atere ibyiyumvo byo kubangamira. Niba igice cya kabiri gikunze kukwibutsa miss yawe, menya - ashaka kubona ikintu atagutwaye.Ibyerekeye inyungu zawe ntabwo ikomeje
Avuga umunezero mwinshi kubishimisha bye, ariko akimara kuza kubanyeshuri ukunda, ahita agaragara mubibazo byingenzi kandi byihutirwa? Iyi ni iyindi mpamvu yo gutekereza. Mu mibanire yuzuye, ni ngombwa kubafatanyabikorwa gushishikazwa nubuzima bwumukunzi wakundaga, kandi ni ikibazo rwose uko aribaza - kubyerekeye kuboha amasogisi cyangwa kubyerekeye amafaranga yo gusana imodoka.
Igihe cyose kwihesha agaciro kwegera zeru
Umubano ntabwo ugarukira gusa ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, ingengo yimari hamwe nimyidagaduro. Nibyinshi, umubano wemera buri wese mu bitabiriye gukura ukurikije iterambere ryayo. Iyo umuntu azi imbaraga n'intege nke - ikora kwiyuhagira bihagije muri yo. Kandi umurimo w'abitabiriye hamwe - gufashanya kwimuka muburyo bwiza. Niba usanzwe utibuka, igihe iheruka yumvise ibisingiwe ukundwa cyangwa ishimwe kuri aderesi yawe, ariko burigihe bamagana ibiganiro byigihe kirekire mubidukikije - bimuhunga, biragukoresha neza.Abavandimwe bafite uburambe
Kubera ibyumviro, abakobwa bakunda kudahinduka umufatanyabikorwa, ariko abandi ntibazabikora. Isesengura ryumubano kuruhande rimwe na rimwe rigufasha kubona intege nke zose, kuko nta bihuru bibangamiye "byijimye". Ntabwo ari ngombwa gukurikiza byimazeyo inama zose kuruhande, ariko biracyakwiye kubatega amatwi, cyane cyane kubantu batitaye kubabyeyi, abavandimwe na bashiki bacu. Birakomeye cyane kumenyeshwa mugihe, utiriwe usaba abantu, abantu bagerageza kwerekana ukuri kumwe kuri wewe - gerageza kumva ingingo kandi utekereze neza, kandi birashoboka ko ari byiza?
Umufatanyabikorwa agira ati: "Rero rwose bizaba byiza"
Mubihe byose, umukunzi wawe ashimangira ko ibintu byose bimeze nkuko ashaka, gutongana mugihe kimwe igitekerezo nigitekerezo cye nuko "abantu bose bagomba kuba beza"? Ntamuntu ukuyemo ko hari umuntu wihariye kuri wewe, utubahiriza 100% 100% bihanura iterambere ryibyabaye byose, ariko biracyafite amahirwe make cyane. Kenshi na kenshi, amagambo nkaya, umuntu yakira gusa icyamugirira akamaro gusa. Kugirango umenye neza ko ukeneye kumusaba kuzana byibuze impaka nke, kuki bizaba byiza kuri buri wese? Niba kandi ibi bikaba bikurikira: "Yoo, byose, kora wenyine, nkuko ubizi" cyangwa ikintu nkicyo, ntugashidikanya - imbere yawe manipulator.Umufatanyabikorwa atitaye rwose kubitsinzi byawe no gutsindwa kwawe.
Niba umuntu ukunda adasubije muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose kuri fiasco no gutsinda - ivuga ikintu kimwe gusa - urabyitayeho. Kandi mubucuti nawe, arashobora kuba afite akamenyero, cyangwa kubera ko amerewe neza. Birashoboka ko akureba nkumushyitsi ufite impano, ariko nkumugore udashimishijwe.
Ntashaka kugufasha
Ntabwo ibibazo byose umuntu ashobora gukemura nta bufasha, cyane cyane umugore. Mu mibanire isanzwe, umugabo afata inshingano kugirango akemure imirimo itoroshye kandi igafasha umugore we, kurwana no kuyirinda no kuyirinda. Niba ufite ikibazo runaka, uhamagarira umukunzi wawe kugirango ubafashe, kandi ntabwo wihutira gufasha - iki nikindi kimenyetso cyuko umubano uri gukoresha."Oya" ntacyo bivuze
Birumvikana ko hari ibihe aho gutsindwa byose bigomba gutangwa n'amatwi, ariko ibyo byihutirwa byihutirwa. Niba "oya" ari ijwi rihoraho kubafatanyabikorwa, nibikorwa byayo bijyanye nawe bimaze gutangira kumera nkihohoterwa - guhagarika iyo mibanire vuba.
Uhora utanga "uburenganzira"
Gahunda yumupaka "nukuri" ni "ikoreshwa nabi" ikoreshwa muburere bw'abana mugihe bagerageza gucengeza imyitwarire isanzwe muri societe. Iyo ibi bikoreshwa mubucuti, ubu ni inzira yuburyo. Ngiyo intego nkizo - kora umufatanyabikorwa uko byoroshye kuri wewe. Niba kandi umukunzi wawe ahora akubwira uko wabikora, kandi uko bidakenewe - kubitekerezaho, kandi ntugukoreshe?