Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze bagaragaza ubwoko butanu bwo guhinduka, aho buri wese afite ibisabwa. Kumenya ibyabo, urashobora kubuza ubuhemu bwuwo ukunda, gusa wiga mugenzi wawe.
Ubuhemu "Urukundo"
Kuri ubu bwoko bwimbaraga ni ubs kubaturemereye ibibazo byubuzima, ahubwo byubahiriza amarangamutima, ibitabo bimwe. Kamere ntabwo aribintu nkubu uruhinja, uhora wimuka mugushakisha ikintu cyiza.
Nkibitabo byanyuma, akenshi basanga abantu bashaka nkana umubano nkuyu, kandi ijanisha ryabantu gusa ryabitswe muri bo kubushake bwarwo.
Ibishushanyo by'ibitabo byaganiriye cyane cyane - ibinezeza byose byibanda ku mibanire myiza - ibintu bishya, abantu bashya, ibibazo byose bihita biguma mu wundi mujyi. Abantu barashobora kubohora rwose mubikorwa bya incognito. Urukundo ruzakomeza kuzura nyuma yikiruhuko, kandi ntamuntu uzamenya umubano.
Ubuhemu nk'imyigaragambyo
Ubuhemu nkibi bibaho mugihe umufatanyabikorwa yimura icyifuzo cyo guhambira uwatoranijwe. Akenshi, ubuhemu nkubwo budakorwa, ntabwo bwije, ariko biragaragara cyane - umuntu arashaka ubugambanyi, igihe nacyo bibaho, hanyuma ibintu byose bitangwa kumufuka wibirundo.
Ubusanzwe iyi myuburo ni uko nyuma yibyo byagezweho, gushimirwa ntabwo bimuhamya, kandi atwara inshingano zose kumufasha we "yazanye".
Ubuhemu nkuburyo bwo kurangiza umubano
Ibihe nkibi nigihe umubano unaniwe rwose, ariko upima impamvu zo kuyirabira, oya. Bikunze kubaho ko mu bitabiriye amahugurwa ya kabiri mu mibanire ntibibone ko byose ari bibi cyane, kuko mubihe bisanzwe ibintu nkibi byakemuwe no gutandukana nigice cyakurikiyeho, niba ntakintu gishobora gukosorwa. Ariko aramutse ahisemo kurangiza byose kandi ntagwa mubiganiro, biramworohera gukora ubuhemu.
Birasekeje, ariko n'umubare urambiwe kandi urashaka kubahagarika, ubuhemu bwatangaje kandi budashaka gufata inshingano kubibera, bityo ibyiringiro byimaze ko uwo afata kuri buri kintu kandi azatangiza icyuho. Ubu bwoko bwo guhemukira akenshi nikunda abantu bikunda kandi bafite ubunebwe bashaka kwirinda amakimbirane no kuganira bitameze neza mubiciro byose.
Ubuhemu nkibisubizo byubusambanyi
Iki cyiciro kirimo ubuhemu hamwe nuruhare rwa ba nyina imyitwarire yoroshye. Muri iki gihe, tuvuga abagore basanzwe, bazahora babona urwitwazo rwo kudahemukira. Kuberako imibonano mpuzabitsina ari ibiyobyabwenge, bitabayemo ibyo badashobora kubaho, kubandi ni inzira yo kwiyemeza. Ariko icyo aricyo cyose cyibibera kiba bidasanzwe.
Kandi kuruhande rwumuntu urekura ruhenze cyane - ntabwo bizakosorwa, kandi amashami n'amashami gusa bizahinduka amahembe yabafatanyabikorwa.
Ubuhemu kugirango ukurura ibitekerezo byumukunzi
Kandi ubu ni ubuhemu bushimishije bwa bose, hejuru byatanzwe, kandi ikibazo nyamukuru ni ukumenya ubuhemu cyangwa bufunze. Nibyo, uko byagenda kose, guhindura bizaguma mumwanya watsinzwe. Niba ubuhemu bufunguye, noneho iyo umufatanyabikorwa yiga kubibera, birumvikana ko azagabanya ibitekerezo byose kumuntu wahisemo, ariko ntibizaburira umubano, ahubwo bizana. Hamwe nubuhemu bwibanga, mugenzi wanjye nta kintu na kimwe azamenya, ntabwo bizakurura ibitekerezo bye hanyuma noneho ni iki?
Abashaka gukurura ibitekerezo byumukunzi wakundaga, bagira inama yo kutajya mu ntambwe ikomeye nkikirere. "Kubyuka" umufatanyabikorwa azaba abere munzirakarengane kuruhande, bizatera ishyari.
Ariko iyi nama ni umuntu ku giti cye kandi biterwa nibiranga umuntu. Niba umufatanyabikorwa afite ishyari cyane, kurugero, gutya rero azabura gusa, azatera igitero kandi gishobora gutera ikiruhuko. Kubwibyo, no mu rubanza rwo gukundana ku ruhande birakwiye koresha ubwitonzi hanyuma ugatangira "dosage".