Urashaka kumenya uburyo umubano wawe na mugenzi wawe? Noneho iyi ngingo ni iyanyu! Hano hepfo nibimenyetso 9, ukurikije impuguke ziranga, biranga umubano ukomeye kandi ufite ubuzima bwiza, ucike bidashoboka.
Ukomeje guseka urwenya rwe
Ndetse na nyuma yimyaka 10 na 20 yo kubaho mubucuti bwuzuye birashobora kumanika byoroshye. Ntukavuge, barashobora gukomeza kuvugurura ibitekerezo bya buriwese, hamwe kugirango bagire akajagari kumuntu cyangwa undi kandi ntukarakare. Uratekereza ko iribamba? Ariko oya - ukurikije impuguke zivuga ko iyo mibanire iyo ari yo yose itangiye iyo urwenya rwabafatanyabikorwa ruretse kwishima mugihe kugerageza gusetsa umuntu bitangiye kurakaza undi. Niba kuba yarangije kukubona mwiza, ubu arabirukana - bivuze ko ibintu byose bikarangira.Urekura byoroshye ku mashyaka n'amashyaka aregwa hamwe n'inshuti.
Abashakanye bakomeye batandukanijwe nuko abafatanyabikorwa badafite ishyari muri bo kandi ntibumva ko bababaye niba umugabo ukuze yagaragaje icyifuzo cyo kuguma mu ruziga rw'inshuti ze cyangwa ngo ajye mu ishyaka rya sosiyete, aho abo bakorana rizaba badafite Halves. Niba kandi nanone utose utuje mu nama no kwiyamamaza utabanje kuboneka, ntumwita inshuro ijana kumunsi kandi ntutegure ibazwa hamwe nibiyobyabwenge - noneho wimuka muburyo bwiza. Izere umuntu ukunda kandi ukizera ko ashima umubano wawe kandi ntazabagira kubera gukurura igihe gito - Ubu ni inzira nziza.
Ukomeje kuvuga kubyerekeye ibyiyumvo bishyushye no gutegura amatariki
Vuga kubakunzi bawe ukunda buri gihe, nubwo haba hari imyaka myinshi mbere yimyaka. Muri babiri bakomeye banyurwa buri gihe hamwe nabandi bashimisha urukundo rwose kandi bakamenya neza ko bagiye kumatariki - hamwe, nta nshuti, abana n'abavandimwe. Kugira ngo ukore ibi, ntukeneye kugirana ubukungu bwinshi bwubusa - birashimishije kumarana umwanya hamwe ushobora no murugo mukora buji, twijimye kandi nziza cyane. Zimya terefone, kora amateka numuziki ushimishije, wambare no kwitangira.Ndetse ufite ibitekerezo ntibivuka kugirango urebe terefone cyangwa mudasobwa
Niba udafite ibitekerezo biteye amakenga mugihe ukunda guhamagara terefone cyangwa wakiriye ubutumwa mumiyoboro rusange, niba udahuye namabaruwa ye yumuyaga mu ntumwa ari nziza cyane. Niba umufatanyabikorwa nawe akureba - ibi bivuze ko wizeye, aricyo gipimo cy'imibanire myiza kandi yuzuye. Ariko hamwe niyi ngingo birakwiye kwitonda. Ntukizere kutitaho ibintu - hari isura yoroheje cyane hagati yabo. Niba uko uko bishoboka kose, ninde kandi ni iki cyanditse igice cyawe kimaze guhungabana.
Urakozenya undi, kandi ntacyo bitwaye
Mu mibanire ikomeye, abantu bahora bavuga amagambo yo gushimira, kandi ntacyo bitwaye na gato kubwicyo - kubwifuza, kubwurukundo, kubwo kwita kubitekerezo, nibindi. Kugaragaza Gushimira, uracyerekana uwatoranijwe - ufite agaciro ibyo aguha. Nubikora, umufatanyabikorwa ntazigera atekereza ko adakenewe cyangwa adashimwa. Ibinyuranye nibyo, kumva agaciro kayo, azaharanira kuba mwiza kandi kugirira akamaro umukunzi.Ntabwo wakoze imibonano mpuzabitsina
Ikintu cyingenzi mubucuti, akenshi kiganisha ku gusenyuka. Niba hashize imyaka myinshi, uzi uburyo bwo kunezeza abashakanye niba ubonye ko ari igitsina niba agukomeje, kandi urashaka kuvuga ko ari byiza kuza kuri buriwese. Niba muburyo bwuzuye hamwe nigitsina, ntabwo bizarushaho kuba byiza - kuki ureba kuruhande rwibirenze munsi.
Ntabwo utongana, ariko kora ibiganiro
Aho gukubita amasahani hanyuma ugategura ibyatsi, urimo uvuga ikirenge kimwe, ntuzamure amajwi kandi ntukajye gutukana. Mu kiganiro ugerageza kumva uwo ukunda, uzirikane igitekerezo cye. Uru nirwo rufunguzo rwumubano ukomeye, aho kubahana no gutera inkunga. Niba kandi umuyaga uhuha uracyanyerera mu mibanire yawe, noneho uratekereza gusa kubyo bibaho iyo umufatanyabikorwa azarambirwa ko asenyuka - azagenda asenyuka - azagenda. Niba umuntu afite agaciro niba imihanda ihenze, nubwo nibyiza gutangira gukora kwifata.
Uzi gutuza no gushyigikirana
Iyo ibintu byose bimeze neza, ntakibazo - umunezero umwe uri mubucuti. Ariko byageragejwe imbaraga zizana nibibazo. Niba uzi gushyigikira Umwe uri hafi, niba ushobora kubona amagambo yo gushyigikira, niba amaboko ukunda akora neza kuri wewe uriho - noneho uri kumwe nuwo muntu ukeneye. Kubwamahirwe, ubuhanga bwo gutera inkunga ntabwo ari babiri, kandi kumuntu nibisanzwe muburyo bwa rubanda "kurangiza" umufatanyabikorwa mugihe ataguyemo igihe cyiza. Ni muri couple - bisobanura kuba umwe, utatakaje umwihariko.Mu mibanire urashobora kuba ubwacu
Kuri hejuru byose bikwiye kuvuga n'akamaro ko kuguma mubucuti. Ntugerageze kubaka umuntu ubwanje guhora nkuwatoranijwe. Kurugero rero, ukunda gushushanya amashusho, kandi witeguye iminsi yo gukora ibi, ariko umuntu uri iruhande rwawe abona ko ari igihe cyo kugenda kitagira akamaro kandi buri gihe abivugaho. Cyangwa tekereza ko umukunzi wawe azahita agira uruhare mu guhinga indabyo - urabyemera? Nk'uko byatangajwe na psychologue, ntabwo ari ngombwa, nubwo byifuzwa kugerageza gusangira ibyo ukunda kwabafatanyabikorwa, ariko ntukabishime, nubwo ibyo akunda asa nubupfu kuri wewe.