Ubucuti nikintu cyagaciro cyane, ariko ntabwo buri gihe kungukirwa, kandi ntabwo buri kintu ari ubucuti, kimenyekana kubisanzwe. Bikwiye gushimirwa, ariko mubihe bimwe na bimwe no ku bucuti burebure kandi "bukomeye" ukeneye gushyira ingingo. Nibyiza niba mumibanire yawe ninshuti / umukunzi hari ikintu kiva kurutonde rukurikira.
Nyuma yo gutumanaho hamwe ninshuti / umukobwa wumukobwa, umwuka wawe uratonyanga
Ntabwo turi muri izo manza iyo umuntu asangiye akababaro ke nawe nawe, amuhanganye, yatakaje umutima. Bifatwa nkibibazo aho umwuka mubi uhinduka mugenzi wawe usanzwe witumanaho. Kurugero, wahise ubona ko nyuma yo gushyikirana numukunzi wawe, uhita utangira kwiyubaha - nyuma ya byose, burigihe kivuga ko abantu bose, bitandukanye nawe, nibibazo.Ku nshuti yawe, uri "ugutwi", uhora wirata
Akim imyitwarire umuntu ubifashijwemo nujuje ibyo akeneye kuri Narcissism, kandi iyi myitwarire ivugwa cyane mubucuti bwumugore. Ariko mubyukuri, nubwo "byiza" bigaragara byubuzima bwinshuti, aragerageza kubuza ibiganiro nkibi. Birashoboka ko atizeye umubano numugabo we, kandi birashoboka ko yarubatse cyangwa igihe kirekire ntabwo atumante ibihano - hashobora kubaho impamvu nyinshi. Ibyo ari byo byose, umuntu, nuko yaro yerekana gusa ibintu byiza byubuzima bwe, agerageza guhisha indwara zabo zumwuka.
Inshuti buri gihe itanga inama zitoroshye, zikaze kandi zikomeye
Akenshi, imyitwarire nkiyi iraranga abantu bataba mubucuti. Noneho rero, mugihe hahuye ninshuti buri gihe itanga ibyiciro: "Kandi nigute ushobora kwishimira? Bagiye impande enye zose! " Abakobwa bakundana hafi kuva mumibanire nimiryango, kandi nta bucuti bwiza rwose buzayobora ikintu cyiza.Kubwinshuti ukina uruhare rwa psychotherapiste
Niba buri nama yawe cyangwa uvuga kuri terefone ni nkisomo rya psychotherapy, iki nikindi kimenyetso cyuko ubucuti bwari bwuzuye. Uhora ugomba kugumya umukobwa bakundana, komukonya no gutuza? Ntabwo ari byiza. Umuntu arashobora gutongana ati: "Ubucuti bukenerwa kuri ibi?". Muri byose, kuringaniza birakenewe - kubahiriza ubwumvikane hagati "gufata no gutanga".
Niba inkuru zawe zerekeye ibibazo, uhereye kuruhande rwumukobwa uhoraho uhagera ari mugufi: "Yego, ntugirire akamaro kandi gusa," Irashobora kuvuga ku kintu kimwe - icyibandwaho cyose cyamwihishe. Ntabwo yitaye kubikubaho, kandi aragukoresha nka vest. Kubwibyo, ukwiye kwerekana ibyihutirwa, shima wenyine, umwanya wawe kandi uhitemo witonze inshuti zawe.
Inshuti irabishaka igihe cyubusa wamaranye nawe
Imyitwarire nkiyi mubucuti itangazwa cyane mumungimbi, ariko abantu bakuze bahuye nibi kenshi. Hano hari ukurenga ku mipaka yawe - inshuti iragerageza kugenzura buri ntambwe zawe: "Urajya he? Kandi ryari? Ninde? Kuki ujyayo? Kandi ni ukubera iki utansabye? " - Iyi ni hypercontrol, ariko rwose ntabwo ari ubucuti.
Ubucuti bukurura hepfo
Umuntu wese afite ingeso mbi, gusa ntabwo ari bibi cyane kubityarira. Ariko niba ari inshuti imeze neza mubuzima, ntabwo ishaka kwiteza imbere no kubaho nkumuntu usanzwe, nawe, mugihe muri societe ye wumva ko uruhande rubi rukoreshwa iruhande rwe - twiruka mubucuti nkubwo. Kugeza ubu, ubukangurambaga buracyaboneka kandi ntikiba agishyiraho byose.Ubucuti bwawe ntibwomeze budashimangirwa, kandi ufite indangagaciro n'ibitekerezo bitandukanye.
Iyi ni imwe mu bihe bike iyo ubucuti butagomba guhagarikwa cyane - birahagije kugirango bigabanye buhoro buhoro itumanaho ninama byibuze. Ntukeneye kwirengagiza nkana umuntu, kumuhisha - mugihe mugihe cyibiganiro, reka ibisubizo muri make kandi murubanza, ntugambaze ibibazo utabanje gushushanya mubiganiro byigihe kirekire. Inzira irababaza, ariko ubucuti nyabwo hagati yabantu batandukanye ntibazigera bakora.
Inshuti yaguhemukiye kandi yitwara nabi
Imiterere ya kera mubucuti bwumugore ninshuti kandi iragerageza kwerekana ko arushimishije, igikundiro, cyiza kandi muri rusange, kukurusha muri byose. Kandi kugirango ibyo bimenyetso bigaragare bishoboka, birahora ugerageza gukurura ibitekerezo byumukunzi wawe / umugabo wawe. Niba kandi imyitwarire yayo ivugishije ukuri imbere yawe, biroroshye rwose kwiyumvisha ibizaba umugongo wawe.Inshuti ni amakimbirane ataziguye mu muryango
Kugenda mu muryango wawe, gusenyuka, inshuti nk'iyi yahoraga irahagurukira umugabo we maze atangira kumuteho bimwitayeho. Kurugero: "Kuki umuririra cyane? Ufite ibyiza nk'ibyo! ". Muri uru rubanza, umukunzi ayoboye urwango rwihishe - aragerageza kwerekana ko aruta ubucuti bwe, budaranga cyane ubucuti nyabwo.
Inshuti yanze igihe cyose ujuririye ubufasha
Iyo umukunzi asanzwe afasha, ariko rimwe na rimwe ko adafite ubushobozi bwo gufasha - ibi nibisanzwe. Ariko niba munsi ya Guese yinshuti, hariho umuntu uhora "uhuze", ntabwo yigeze yinjiza, ariko mubyerekezo bisaba ibinyuranye na we - ubu ni bwo kumukoresha kwari kuri we.