Nthawi ndi nthawi, lingaliro labwino limakonza "Health Check" la ubale wanu. Mwina, palibe chinsinsi kuti ngati mukunyalanyaza zibwenzi, mavuto zingamubwerekere, ndipo posachedwa banja lizindikira kuti siligwirizana ndi izi zisanachitike. Kuti mukhalebe ogwirizana ndipo onetsetsani kuti zonse ndi "zolondola" mu maubale, muyenera kudzifunsa mafunso otsatirawa.
1. Kodi mumakhala mukulumbira kawirikawiri kapena kukangana ndi mnzanu?
Ngati wina anganene kuti zoposa zambiri, muyenera kudzifunsa, zomwe zimatsutsana. Ndi ntchito iyi kuchita nawo isanakhale vuto lalikulu. Ngati mungalole vutoli kukulitsa munthu wanu, zimatha kubweretsa malingaliro anu kwa malingaliro ena.2. Kodi mukuwona kuti zosowa zanu sizikwaniritsidwa?
Funso ili ndilofunika kwambiri. Ngati wina wochokera ku zibwenzi akuwona kuti zosowa zake zakukhosi zake sizikhuta, ndi nthawi yoti musinthe. Ngati mukukonzekera kulinganiza mmodzi, ndipo mumapezanso ina, zimasokoneza ubalewu. Nthawi yomweyo, bweretsani kukayikira kuti munthu wina akadali chete, ndipo mumayamba kuchitapo kanthu kwa mnzanuyo "Ngati izi sizinachitire ine, ndiye bwanji ndiyenera kumuchitira." Izi zimabweretsa mavuto akulu. Muyenera kukhala ndi mnzanu ndikupanga zinthu zitatu kapena zisanu zomwe angachite kuti mukwaniritse zosowa zanu. Yesetsani kuchita izi pafupipafupi kuti mubwezeretse zabwino muubwenzi.
3. Kodi mwakhumudwitsidwa mwakuthupi?
Zophatikizika ndi gawo lofunikira muubwenzi. Kusapezeka kwathunthu komanso kukonda kumabweretsa chotupa, kumvetsetsa awa kapena ayi. Ngati kulumikizana kwabwino kwachepa, muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mutsimikizirena. Mukadutsa mnzake, dinani phewa ndikuyang'ana kwambiri kuti muyambenso kuyankhulana kale komanso kumva kuti ndiyandikire. Ngati kulibe bedi kwanthawi yayitali, ndikofunikira kuwongolera ndikuyesera kukonza chilichonse, kuyambira osakhudzidwa.4. Kodi mukuganiza kuti mnzanu amaika ntchito yake kapena zinthu zina zoyambira inu?
Munthu akapanda kumva muubwenzi kuti iye ndi wofunika kwa mnzake, malingaliro ake akuyamba kusintha, ndipo amapeza njira zina zomvera zofunika. Nthawi zambiri njirazi zimatha kubweretsa mavuto ambiri. Kambiranani malingaliro anu ndi wokondedwa wanu - amathanso kuzindikira kuti mukumva. Yesetsani kunyengerera ndi kupeza njira zoledzera kuti zonse zitheke. Mapeto ake, aliyense amakonda, pamene chidwi chikuwonetsedwa kwa iwo.
5. Kodi mukuwona kuti mukugwiritsidwa ntchito?
Ngati mukumva zogwiritsidwa ntchito zivute zitani, zimalimbikitsa vutoli mokhulupirika. Muyenera kudalira nzeru zanu. Ngati mnzanuyo anyalanyaza zosowa zanu ndipo nthawi zonse amadziyika nokha pamalo oyamba, ichi ndi chizindikiro choyipa. Maubwenzi aliwonse amafuna kuti "azitengedwa" okha, komanso "adapereka".6. Pomva kuti, kukhala muubwenzi, kuphonya kena kake m'moyo
Kodi mumakhala ndi nkhawa? Yang'anani kwa anthu ena ndikuganizira zomwe zingakhale mgwirizano ndi iwo? Nthawi zina amazichita izi akakwiya ndi wokondedwa wawo, koma ngati izi zikachitika nthawi zonse, ndiye mavuto. Muyenera kudzifunsa ngati pali zinthu zina zomwe mungachite limodzi monga banja. Komanso oyeneranso kuyesera kuchita zinazake kamodzi pamwezi kuti muthandizire "spark" mu ubale.
7. Kodi muyenera kusiya kukhala nokha kuti musunge dziko lapansi muubwenzi?
Mukasiya kukhala nokha, mumayamba kukhala ndi bodza. Izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri pamene mnzakeyo amayesetsa kukusintha, kukangana kuti simuli bwino. Kuyesa kukhala munthu yemwe si choncho, mosayenera ndi wotayika - aliyense ayenera kukonda yemwe amafunikiradi. Izi ndi zomwe aliyense akufuna kupatula. Sizingatheke kusinthika, koma mutha kunyengerera ndikusintha mitundu yamikhalidwe.8. Kodi cholakwa cha chinthu chachikulu kwambiri muubwenzi wanu?
Ena amapitilizabe kukhalabe paubwenzi wawo ku tanthauzo la zolakwa kapena pazifukwa zina. Ngati palibe chikondi ndi ubwenzi, zitha kuti zimakhalira kukayikira pazolinga zawo. Vutoli siliri chifukwa chabwino chopitirira ubale, ndipo maubale athu nthawi yayitali amadzimva kuti akumva kuti ali ndi mlandu sangadzetse chilichonse chabwino.
9. Kodi pali malingaliro oti "kupatsa", ndipo mnzake "amatenga"
Ndikofunika kudzifunsa kuti - ndani amayesetsa kuchita chibwenzi chanu? Kupatula apo, ubale uliwonse, popanda kupatula, ndikofunikira kuti mupange ndikuwasamalira, apo ayi ngakhale chikondi chachikulu kwambiri chomwe chingafanane ndi duwa lopanda madzi. Ngati mukuwona kuti ndinu nokha amene "amagwira ntchito" paubwenzi, ndi nthawi yoti mulankhule m'miyoyo. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosamveka, ndipo chilichonse chikangokambirana, mutha kupeza njira yotulukira.10. Kodi muli paubwenzi chifukwa chongokhalira kukhala wotetezeka mu "malo otonthoza"?
M'malo mwake, izi ndi zakutali ndi chitsanzo chimodzi ndipo pali anthu ambiri omwe amakhalabe muubwenzi osati chifukwa ali osangalala chifukwa ali osangalala, koma chifukwa ndi zonse zomwe amadziwa. Amangowopa kuti sakudziwika ndipo amakonda zomwe amadziwa. Palibenso chifukwa chololeza zikhulupiriro zake zochepa kuti zisokoneze moyo wonse. Khalani olimba mtima.
Ubale ndi ntchito yoona. Kupatula apo, anthu ali ndi zidziwitso zosiyanasiyana, komwe adachokera. Kunyengerera, kulumikizana ndi kusamalira kumathandizira kuti ubale wabwino ukhale wabwino. Ndikofunikiranso kukulitsa zokonda zanu, ndipo izi zimathandizira kutenthetsa kwa mwayi wocheza nawo.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikusangalala ndikulankhulana pafupipafupi, komanso osapatsanso zowonjezera, koma lankhulani poyera ndikufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu. Ndipo, zachidziwikire, pezani nthawi yosamalira nthawi. Ngati pali nyumba zochulukirapo kuzungulira nyumbayo, monotony ndi chizolowezi, ubalewo uyamba kufa.