Kukhumudwa sikumangokhala kovuta, chifukwa ndichikhalidwe, komanso chifukwa chabwino chokumana ndi psychotherapist. Kalanga ine, zama psychotherapist ndi "okwera mtengo, kutali kwambiri komanso waulesi kwambiri, motero nthawi zambiri timakonda kulira mu vest kwa abwenzi. Ndipo nthawi zina zimathandizadi. Ndipo nthawi zina ayi. Ndi chiyani chomwe chingakhale choyipa kuposa momwe mmalomo umathandizira masitampu - wopusa monga mpweya m'mawa ndi makoma, monga makoma mu chipatala cha ana?
1. Anthu ambiri ndi oyipa kuposa inu Ndipo ambiri ali bwino. Kodi vuto langa limasowa izi? Kuyesa kuyerekezera kumawonedwa ndi zopweteka ngakhale munthu wathanzi, ndipo patsogolo panu tsopano munthu amakhala pachiwopsezo. Simungathe kuthandizira, kukhala chete. Kapena kumwa chakumwa chotentha pa upangiri wa Sldon Cooper.
2. Mawa mumamva Kodi mukuganiza kuti kuvutika maganizo ndi kovuta kwambiri komwe kumagona ndipo sikubwerera m'mawa? Mutha kuperekanso tiyi - muzowerengeka nthawi zambiri zimathandiza, koma machitidwe amawonetsa kuti nkhawa sizidutsa tsiku lililonse. "Mwina simudzakhala kosavuta ndipo mawa, koma ndili ndi ufulu wolankhula," - zikumveka pang'ono, sichoncho?
3. Moyo ndi wopanda chilungamo Inde. Kodi ndiyenera kukhala bwino? Lumikizanani ndi zokumana nazo za anthu, musafunike ziwerengero za kubzala.
4. Muyenera kuthana ndi izi Inenso ndimalimbana nazo. Mukufuna kumvera, ndimadzilimbikitsa bwanji kuti ndilowe mdziko lapansi? Izi zimayitanidwa kuti muthane ndi nkhawa. Iwo omwe sanakane nawo amatchedwa mosiyana. Iyenera - mawu oyipa, zingakhale zofunikira. M'mawu awa, chitonzo chosavuta, chomwe chimawerengedwa kuti ndi "inu osavuta kuyesa." Pakukhumudwa, kukakamizidwa kunyada si wobwereketsa bwino kwambiri. Apa mukufuna msambo wopanda ungwiro.
5. Moyo ukupitiliza! Choonadi? Tsopano lotchedwa The New Circler. Musanene mabungwe, amayambitsa mseru. Uwuzani nkhaniyo, aloleni akhale abwino komanso osangalatsa kwa mnzanu. Ndikofunikira kuti ali ndi cholimbikitsa kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, kufika kwa gulu lokondedwa ndi konsart kuli nkhani yabwino kwambiri.
6. Ndikudziwa kuti mukumva, ndinali ndi nkhawa dzulo Kukhumudwa sikosangalatsa. Ndipo ayi, simudziwa zomwe ndikumva. Osati kuyesa koyipitsitsa, koma tiyeni tisiyeni. "Ngakhale kuti posachedwapa ndakhala ndi nthawi yovuta, ndikungoyerekeza zomwe mukumva."
7. Mumakhala odzikonda Chophimba chomwe amalira kwa zaka khumi, nthawi zina chimathanso kuwulula. Pachikhalidwe chokhumudwitsa, munthu ali ndi zochulukirapo ngakhale zokha. Kodi sichiri pa gawo lanu tsopano kuti muchite chisamaliro?
8. Muyenera kuchotsa bwino: Pitani pa bwato ndikuyendetsa. Ndipo ndi masabata angati muyenera kugwira ntchito kuti mugwire ntchito? Osati. Ayi. Mwamvetsetsa kale.
9. Ndine wachisoni kuti muwone Ndili wachisoni kumva izi. Chisoni ndi vuto lanu. Ndipo mumasuntha pa bwenzi - "Tengani ndi inu china chake chomwe ndinali nacho chabwino kuti ndiwongolere." Tiyeni tiyesenso kuti: "Sindingayerekeze zomwe mukumva, koma zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti ndikumva zanu."
10. Kodi mukuganiza kuti ichi ndi chifukwa cha kukhumudwa? Kodi mukuganiza kuti kukhumudwa ndi chisankho chomwe munthu amafunitsitsa? Nthawi zina amangochitika. Ngati kuvutika maganizo kunachitika - inde, ichi ndi chifukwa cha kukhumudwa. Koma osati chifukwa chake.
11. Tambasulani! Ndipo? Kenako mudzanong'oneza bondo? Sikuti nthawi zonse mwamuna wokhumudwa amakhala amadzimva kuti amadzimva kuti amadzimva kuti amadzimva kuti amadzimva kuti amamva chisoni. Nthawi zina amangofuna kudziwa zakukhosi kwake komanso kumalimbikitsa kwambiri. Palibe cholakwika.
12. Muyenera kusewera masewera Kodi mungandilere pabedi? Masewera angathandizedi. Koma nkhawa kwambiri nthawi zina zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosatheka ngakhale kutuluka mnyumbamo. Osamafuna nthawi yomweyo chochita kuchokera kwa munthu, ndibwino mumupemphe kuti akhale wothandizira. Lekani kungogwira choyimira kuti muyambe. Sonyezani chitsanzo, ndipo, nkhalango idzathamanga, musakaikire.
13. Muyenera kutuluka pafupipafupi Inunso. Mutha kupita pakali pano. Pano chododometsa chimagona. Kumbali ina, gwero la nkhondo yolimbana ndi kupsinjika limapatsanso mayanjano ochezera, enanso - iwonso amawotcha ndi kutopa kwambiri. Kulankhulana kuyenera kukhazikitsidwa ndikupewa anthu oopsa. Palibe kukakamiza kwa kulumikizana sikuyenera kukhala, kokha kuyitanidwa kuti apange kampani.
14. Ena amachokera chifukwa chomwe simungathe? Chifukwa ndikhozanso. Zomwe sangathe kuchita. Anthu onse ndi osiyana. Tili ndi dongosolo lina lamanjenje, kuvulala kwa ana osiyanasiyana, moyo wosiyana, pamapeto pake. Komwe wina amatsikira, winayo ndi woyenera. Koma tsiku lina atopa ataimirira, adzathyola ndipo adzayeretsedwa. Izi sizitanthauza kuti wosweka ndi wofooka. Mwina iye, m'malo mwake, ali ndi mphamvu kwambiri. Zovuta zowerengeka zowerengeka.
15. Ndinu olimba, mutha kupirira Inde. "Gwiritsitsani" ndi zonse izo. Mawu ofanana - kuyesa kuchotsa malingaliro osokoneza thupi. Chithandizo chikuwoneka kuti chikuwonetsedwa, imasankhidwa kukhala olimba, muloleni. Koma kwenikweni, mnzanu akufunika thandizo. Chifukwa chake, ingopatsani. Kuchita pang'ono mtima kwaubwenzi kudzakhala kokwanira.