Tiyeni tiwone pa diso: kuda nkhawa kapena nkhawa yomwe ndimakonda anthu ochepa. Ngati nthawi zonse mumadandaula za zomwe zingachitike kapena sizichitika mtsogolo, zimayambitsa kupsinjika. Panthawi yotchedwa mavuto azaka zapakati, nkhawa zimawonekera pafupifupi anthu onse.
Yankho la mavuto awiriwa ndi lovuta kale, koma ngati muphatikizana limodzi ... Chifukwa chake, bwanji, momwe mungathanirane ndi vuto la zovuta zapakati.1. Amamvetsetsa kuti zovuta zapakati ndizabwinobwino
Zachidziwikire, ndi anthu ochepa omwe sanamvepo za chikondwerero cha chisangalalo cha chisangalalo. M'malo mwake, lingaliro lotere monga chisangalalo laphunzirira kwambiri, ndipo mapesi owoneka ngati omwe adatulutsidwa m'maphunziro ambiriwa, ndipo pafupifupi dziko lililonse. Iye akuti chisangalalo cha munthu chitha kufikira gawo lofunikira kwambiri panthawi yamavuto azaka zapakati.
Vuto lokhala ndi zaka zapakati ndizofala kwambiri kuposa wina aliyense amene amaganiza. Pozindikira izi popita ku langizo lachiwiri.
2. Kudziwa kuti si inu nokha amene amalimbana
Poyamba, ndikofunikira kulingalira kuti woyendetsa aliyense wa moyo wake. Mafashowo amagona poti munthu akuyendetsa ndege ndege yodzaza ndi anthu (banja, abwenzi ndi anthu ena kuti akhale). Cholinga chachikulu cha aliyense ngati woyendetsa ndege ndichakuti okwera ake ali ndi lingaliro loti zonse zikuyendetsedwa bwino komanso kuti zonse zimayenda bwino komanso moyenera. Chowonadi ndi chakuti aliyense ndi ndege za ndege zawo, ndipo nthawi zonse nthawi ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri paulendo.Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti aliyense ndioyendetsa ndege, ndipo aliyense akuyesera kuti apange malingaliro oti zinthu zonse zatha. Koma zenizeni, woyendetsa aliyense amakumana ndi mavuto okwana ndege. Izi ndizomwe zimapangitsa kuti ikhale yowoneka bwino ya curve. Palibenso chifukwa choganiza kuti ndizosiyana ndi mantha anu, enanso sasankha kuwonetsa alar a alar a alar ndi nkhawa.
Muyenera kudziwa kuti palibe amene ali yekha pazomwe mwakumana nazo, ndipo anthu ambiri padziko lonse lapansi amakhudzidwa ndi nkhawa pazaka zapakati. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kukuuzani za alar anu kuti mutseke anthu.
3. Musadziyerekeze ndi munthu "ayenera kukhala"
Ndikofunikira kwambiri. Anthu ena amathera moyo wawo wonse, kuyesera kutsimikizira zomwe makolo amayembekeza, anzawo, magulu, ndi zina zambiri. Amagwira ntchito tsiku lililonse ndipo pamapeto pake amakhala osasangalala.
Ndikofunikira kusiya kuyesera kunena zoyembekezera zomwe sizigwirizana ndi zosangalatsa kapena zolinga za moyo. Awo. Ndikofunikira kusiya kudziyerekeza ndi munthu yemwe "ayenera kukhala", ndikuyamba kukhala yemwe mukufuna kukhala.
4. Dziwani zomwe mukufuna pamoyo
Funso "Kodi mukufuna chiyani kuchokera kumoyo?" Zofala kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri yankho lake limakhala lanzeru kapena kuphatikiza kwa zinthu zotsatirazi:- kupambana; - Muzimva kuti mumakukondani; - kukhala ndi zotsatira zabwino; - mwayi.
Zikuwoneka kuti zonse ndizomveka, chifukwa sakufuna kumva kuti wokondedwa kapena kuchita bwino. Koma ndikofunikira kufunsa, ndipo chifukwa chake ndimafuna kuti zonse zachitika m'moyo. Mutha kunena kuti aliyense abwera kudzayankha kuti: "Ndikungofuna kukhala osangalala."
Mwachidziwikire, zolinga zonse m'moyo wathu zimakhala pokhapokha chifukwa pali chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti mudzakhala osangalala mukawafikira. Komabe, anthu ambiri samamvetsetsa zomwe muyenera kukhala wachimwemwe mukamakwaniritsa zolinga izi.
Moyo ndi waufupi kwambiri kuti ungoyang'ana pa chisangalalo chokwaniritsa. Muyenera kuyamba kukonda zomwe mukuchita panobe, ndipo osapitiliza kugwira ntchito kuti "mukwaniritse" chisangalalo.
5. Tulukani ku malo otonthoza
Nthawi zambiri, munthu akadziona kuti ali pamavuto, osatha kubwerera ku moyo wake wodziwika, amazindikira kuti iye ndi zomwe akufuna. Ndi kwenikweni mukamaganiza za izi. Koma ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito ntchito zawo, amangosambira. Sakaikira kusankha komwe kumadzipanga okha, kapena omwe akuwachitira. Amangogwedeza ndikupita kunjira iliyonse komwe oyang'anira wawo, ogwira nawo ntchito ndi abwenzi amafuna kuti apite. Zotsatira zake, pafupifupi aliyense amafikira gawo, pomwe limazindikira kuti zomwe adachita, sizomwe akufuna kupitiliza kutero.
Ndikofunika kuyesera kutengapo gawo kupitirira malo anu achitetezo ndikuyesa zomwe sizinachitepo kale. Mwachitsanzo, m'malo mongoganizira za ntchito yanu, mutha kulipira nthawi yambiri yosangalatsa. Ndipo mutha kupita ku ulendo wamasiku angapo.
6. Kukhala wothokoza chifukwa cha zomwe zilipo kale
Muyenera kuganizira zomwe mwapeza kale, osati zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti kufunikira kwachitika kale ndipo alipo m'moyo wa aliyense. Muyenera kuganizira za zomwe mwakwanitsa, za anthu omwe mumakhala nawo, za moyo womwe muli ndi zabwino. Izi ndi zinthu zonse zazikulu zomwe muyenera kukhala othokoza. Anthu ndi ovuta kusangalatsa. Nthawi zonse amangofuna zambiri, koma osayamika zomwe ali nazo. "Umbombo" uwu ukhoza kukhala wovuta kwambiri kukhala wachimwemwe.Upangiri wabwino kwambiri uzingoyang'ana zinthu zabwino zomwe mumapanga mukada nkhawa za mavuto anu azaka zapakati. Nthawi yomweyo, musaiwale kuti chidwi chomwe chimawoneka ngati chosalimbikitsa mu mwayi uliwonse, pomwe chilimbikitso chimawona mwayi mu zovuta zilizonse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuganizira kwambiri zomwe zilipo kale, m'malo mosowa.
7. Tengani diary
Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti zojambulazo zimangofuna atsikana ang'ono okha, koma zili kutali ndi njira. Kuyang'anira diary kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa zambiri za inu ndipo zimapangitsa kuti kuyendayenda bwino nthawi yovuta.
Mu diary ndiyofunika kulemba zomwe muli nazo nkhawa za zomwe sizikusangalala, zomwe mukufuna kuchokera ku moyo, momwe mungakwaniritsire.
Nthawi zonse mukamva nkhawa, mutha kutsegula diary yanu ndikuwonjezera malingaliro aposachedwa pa izi. Kapenanso mutha kuwerenganso malingaliro anu akale kuti mumvetsetse bwino zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa.
8. Pezani Psy plusherapy
Mwina upangiriwu ndi wambiri ndipo sanayembekezere kuwona apa, koma ndiophweka. Mankhwalawa amatha kuthandiza kuthana ndi nkhawa panthawi yamavuto akulu. Nthawi yomweyo ndikoyenera kusungitsa - palibe chifukwa chowopa kupita ku psythetherapist. Kupatula apo, palibe chiletso chamkati choyendera dokotala wokhazikika mukakumana ndi zowawa zakuthupi, ndiye bwanji chifukwa chodera nkhawa kuti muchepetse mankhwala.
Chofunikira kwambiri ndikuti muyenera kukumbukira mukakumana ndi nkhawa panthawi yamavuto akulu, zimadziwika kuti palibe amene ali yekha. Maganizo Olakwika omwe akukumana ndi vuto, zosavuta, ndipo anthu ena ambiri akuwakumana nawo. Apanso - muyenera kusiya kudziyerekeza ndi zomwe ndikufuna kudziwa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera ku moyo, tulukani mu malo otonthoza kwakanthawi ndikuyesa china chake, yang'anani pazinthu zabwino ndikuyambitsa diary.