Kuti muchite bwino m'moyo ndi kuwonetsa kuchokera kumbali yabwino, sikokwanira kukhala ndi mawonekedwe osangalatsa komanso mawonekedwe okongola. Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mungayang'ane azimayi omwe adziwika ndi kuchita bwino, ndiye kuti zitha kudziwika kuti ambiri aiwo alibe mawonekedwe abwino kapena malingaliro oganiza bwino, koma kwa onse omwe ali ndi mphamvu zapadera, zomwe ambiri amatchedwa chithumwa kapena charisma.
Mkazi yemwe ali ndi charma akuwoneka kuchokera kutali, ndizosatheka kuti sazindikira. Akangopezeka, chidwi choyandikirako ndichofunika kwa munthu wake, ngakhale maonekedwe ake akhoza kukhala angwiro. Mkazi wotere ndi wokongola komanso wokongola, palibe chomwe chimakhala chilichonse mmenemo - ndichinthu chachilengedwe.
Ndi mkazi weniweni wotere, ndikufuna kulankhulana mobwerezabwereza, ngakhale azimayi omwe amalakalaka kuti adziwe kuti ndi chinsinsi chake kwa iye, koma palibe chinsinsi chimodzi - chimakhala chinsinsi chake ndikukhalanso munthawi zonse.
Kukhala mkazi wokongola kungangoufuna.
Ataphunzira akazi ambiri okondweretsa, mutha kugawa zizindikiro zisanu ndi zitatu zomwe aliyense amagwirizanitsa:
1. Mkazi wokongola sapemphera mokayikira, amakhala ndi chidaliro kuti sichingafanane.
2. Chinthu chachikulu mu mkazi wokongola ndikuti amakhala kudzikokha mwa iye. Osasokoneza izi ndi kudzidalira kopweteka, narcissism, yomwe imadziwika ndi umunthu wandar. Ndi chitsimikizo komanso chokhwima - amadziwa bwino kumene amasuntha, bwanji komanso chifukwa chake amatero. Kwa anthu ozungulira anthu, zimawoneka bwino komanso zosangalatsa.
3. Kulankhulana ndi mkazi wokongola. Anthu amatenga nyanja yabwino, ndipo zonse chifukwa cha mayi wotereyu akuimbidwa mlandu wokhala ndi zabwino, nthawi zonse amakhala pamalo abwino a Mzimu ndipo ali wokonzeka kugawana nawo izi ena. Ndipo zonsezi zimachitika mwachilengedwe kwambiri. Mkazi wotere samatsogolera zokambirana zolemera kwambiri, samakambirana aliyense ndipo satsutsa.
4. Mkazi wotere akhoza kukhala wofunitsitsa komanso wofunitsitsa nkhani ya mnzakeyo, ndipo tsopano, mwatsoka, khalidwe lotere mwa anthu ndi losowa kwambiri, lotero.
5. Mkazi wokongola samasokoneza wothandizirayo - amamumvera kumapeto, ndiye kuti tatsimikiza za zokambirana, zimapereka upangiri woyenera ngati pakufunika. Ndipo zitangoyambira zomwe zimangonena za iye zomwe zimayenera kuyankhula.
6. Chithunzi chake chakunja chimakhala chikuganiziridwa nthawi zonse kwa ma degales ambiri - amakhala omasuka ku nsonga za misomali, koma ndiofatsa, yomwe ndi bonton.
7. Liwu la mkazi wokongola ndi lokongola, chifukwa amuna amadziwanso momwe angamvekere "chikondi chikondi."
8. Ndipo mwayi wake waukulu ndilakuti zimalemekeza ena. Osalingalira wina.