Chitonzo chodziwika bwino kwa amuna ndi mawu: Palibe amuna abwino. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la mawu oti "lezani", chifukwa mzimayi aliyense mndandanda wazomwe amafotokoza za munthu wina kapena wina. Kwa ena, mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe zimazindikira kuti mawuwa ndi akulu kwambiri, omwe amakhala ndi mfundo 30 mpaka 50, ndipo chifukwa cha zokwanira ndi 5 - 6.
Mndandanda wazomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kwa akazi kwa amuna enieni:
1. Amayi amafuna kuti apereke maluwa ndi mphatso. Zonse zili bwino, chikhumbo chakwaniritsidwa, koma pali m'modzi "koma", omwe nthawi zonse amadalira mkaziyo. Kutha kuchita chilichonse, fotokozani mwachimwemwe ndi kuthokoza, zomwe azimayi ena amabisa.
Mwamuna aliyense amafuna kupanga zisankho zako, kuti athe kuwawa kwambiri, omwe amayembekeza kuti awone pa nthawi yopereka mphatso. Koma ngati, m'malo mokhala osangalala, amawona nkhope yowawa yomwe imatsutsa izi, palibe chisangalalo chomwe sichidzalandira munthu ndipo pambuyo pake amakumbukira phunziroli mpaka kalekale. Chifukwa chake, kaya tsogolo lingakhalepo mwayi wopatsa mayi mphatso, aliyense amadzisankha.
2. Amayi amafuna kuti alemekezedwe. Pankhaniyi, funso lotsatirali ndi lofunika kwambiri: "Kodi azimayi amakanana?".
Nthawi zambiri, yankho la funsolo lilibe chiyembekezo. Ponyoza, kunyoza ndi kufotokoza zolakwa za oimira pansi ofooka, azimayi nawonso zimapanga chithunzi cha staryypical kwa munthu yemwe amangowabwereza.
3. Amayi amafuna kuti amuna enieni aziwakonda, omwe amasamalidwa, amawasamalira ndikupukuta. Pankhaniyi, odabwitsayo ndi omwe akazi okha nthawi zina sadziwa momwe angadzipezere, kudzisamalira ndi chikondi. Ndiye munthu ayenera kuti achite bwanji?
Zachidziwikire, sikuti ndife onena za oimira onse a kuweta (wamphamvu?), Koma zonena pankhaniyi zidzachitika.
Kukhala olinganizidwa bwino, kumvetsetsa kwawo komanso zokhumba zawo, azimayi omwe amadziwa kukonda, amuna nthawi zonse amakoka.
4. Vuto ndilolimba komanso lodziyimira pawokha. Chitonzo ndicho chakuti amuna sathandiza azimayi pabanja: Sambani mbale, zopukusa fumbi, kusamalira mwana, koma osayamikira thandizo.
Matekezo kuti zinali zofunika kuti musachite monga momwe anachitira, kapena anachita zolakwika kwathunthu. Osalimbikitsa kung'ung'udza zomwe azichita zonse zomwe angachite ndipo pakufunika, amaphedwa mu "munthu" aliyense wofunitsitsa kuthandiza.
5. Amayi amafuna akalonga okongola, ndiye kuti "zenizeni" zomwe amachita zofuna zawo. Zokhumba zomwe sizinatchulidwepo kapena zonena, koma osakhala wamba monga zidzudzulo siziyenera kukhala.
Lamulo losavuta kuti azimayi azikumbukira kuti zikhumbo zawo ziphedwe, zikunena kuti munthu molunjika, wopanda malingaliro, kotero kuti adamvetsetsa bwino zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa iye. Ndipo zokhumudwitsa zomwe sizingakhumba zikhala zochepa.
Mwachilengedwe, kwa mkazi aliyense, monga tafotokozera kale, njira yonse yomvetsetsa munthu "weniweni" ndi wogwira. Monga momwe zinthu zimapangira. Zitha kukhala zovuta zamaphunziro, vuto la kumvetsetsana lokha kapena anthu, komabe amathandizira kukopa kwa mkazi popanga "munthu weniweni" ndikofunikira kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri, abambo amangochita komanso kuchitika kwa akazi.