Pomwe akulira kuti bungwe la banjali liwonongedwa, ena amati afala, poyankha mavuto, ndikukumbukiranso kuti banja lake, makamaka nthawi inayake ubale.
Apa zingatheke kuyamba kuchitapo kanthu, koma sitingatero. Izi zapitazo kwa ife sizidzathanso, ndizosangalatsa kukonza zomwe zikusintha mwachangu. Akatswiri achikhalidwe amalankhula za banja latsopano, banja la mayi wopanda mayi ndi mwana limabwera m'maganizo, lina - ukwati waulere, wachitatu - ukwati ndi wofanana. Koma pali mtundu wina watsopano. Idawonekera chifukwa cha kufalikira kwa masule. Tsopano, pamene kuthetsa ukwati ndi kuthetsedwa osati chifukwa wina ndi mnzake, akazi wakale zambiri, kale utithandize m'banja, Gona thandizo zabwino ndi mzake, ndi amayi okha ndi atate wa mwana kawirikawiri amakhala nyumba ziwirizo, kupeza chikondi wodzaza onse makolo ndipo ubwenzi ubwenzi ndi abale ndi alongo anagwirizana.Tidapempha azimayi anayi kuti anene za momwe mabanja awo okulitsira awiriawiri ndi ana awo amakhala.
Moka
Mwamuna wanga ndi ine tinasudzula zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo, zaka zinayi zapitazo ndinakwatirana, kenako anakwatirana. Tili ndi ana akazi awiri ali naye (wazaka 11 ndi 9), kwa mkazi watsopano wa mwana wanga wakale (wazaka 8), tonsefe tikuganiza za ana atsopano m'mabanja atsopano, koma sitikuwona mwayi wazachuma. Ndiwo ana akakula ndipo iwonso amagwira ntchito, mwanjira inayake amapatsa zosowa zawo, ndiye, ndikuyamba.
Akuluakulu onse ali ndi unansi wabwino, osati chikondi chimenecho - chikondi ndi ubwenzi, timangoganiza kuti banja limodzi lalikulu, ndipo ngakhale makolo athu amazizikira. Izi sizitanthauza kuti timakhala limodzi limodzi: ndi nyumba ndi zigamba zomwe tasiyana nazo. ana anga ogona pa mlungu, mwangwiro pali nthawi yocheza ndi m'bale Consolidated (alibe "Sunday Bambo" Palibe).
Ife tigwiritse maholide onse pamodzi (iwonso pa wakale wanga tili), ife onse angathe kubwera pamodzi thandizo wina ndi ana analankhulira, pa mpikisano masewera. mwamuna wanga anatulukira mu Zikatero kuvala bandans chomwecho, izo zimawoneka ngati ife tiri gulu munthu mafani mwana. Ana kupita ku mabwalo yemweyo (kusambira, aikido ndi kumutsatira dongo) ndi kusunga ochezeka kwambiri. Mwina banja lathu lalikulu nthawi zambiri limakhala lochezeka kuposa ine. Mwina mfundo ndi yakuti tikukhala pafupi ndi mzake, ndi makolo anga ndi mchimwene wanga - kumapeto wa Moscow.
Rostov-pa-don
Ife banja lake mwamuna wanga pafupifupi zaka khumi zapitazo, tili ndi mwana wamba (mwana, zaka 16) ndi ana kuchokera m'banja (ndili mwana wina, zaka 7, mwamuna wamkazi wakale, zaka 5). Onse mabanja athu ndi osasankhidwa, mwina mu nkhani iyi, koma zinali zovuta kuti ife tilandire kuti ndife ena digiri aliyense achibale ena. Kuphatikiza apo, tinazindikira mwachangu kuti ndizopindulitsa - kukhalabe ndi ubale wamabanja. Choyamba, ife ndi mwamuna wathu wakale tinali kanyumba; Sitinafune kuuza, koma mphamvu wamba analoledwa ndi kupumula m'chilimwe, onse pamodzi, kuphatikizapo mwana wa mwamuna wanga ku ukwati wake woyamba (zaka 11).
Mukatsogozedwa ndi chuma cholumikizira, chimakhala chopindulitsa kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndikugawa magawo a udindo, kuti asakhumudwene wina ndi mnzake, kutsatira kukhitchini, mwachitsanzo. Ife, monga mu timu, kambiranani chilichonse, lingankha msanga kuti ndani ndipo ndi chiyani, ndipo zonse zimamuyendera bwino. Titapeza kuti m'chilimwe, potaya ndalama zogulira ndi chakudya chophika, timawononga ndalama zochepa, tidaganiza zopanga malo ogulitsira chaka chonse, zochuluka. Komanso, zovala ndi zidole kuchokera mwana mwana, izo ndi yabwino ndi chuma. Mwana wamba pa mlungu si kwa ine osati bambo, koma ulendo kwa agogo ndi agogo - makolo anga, iwo amamukonda kwambiri. Mwana wanga wamwamuna wa amuna anga masiku ano, motero, adzagona. Ana amagwirizana wina ndi mnzake, ngakhale kusiyana kwa zaka za quadric kuti asokoneze. Koma onse amawona kuti ali ndi banja, anthu awo omwe nthawi zonse amathandizira, ndikofunikira.
Kwene
Ine ndi mwamuna zovuta, koma ine msanga camepring ndi alongo ake mlongo ndi banja, ali onse lotseguka, mokondwera ndi wochezeka, kuphatikizapo makolo a mlongo mlongo mwamuna wake ndi mphwanga. Ndi mwamuna wanga, ife odukaduka zoipa kwambiri, ndipo ine ndikadali Sizichita kukokera naye, ndipo safuna kukokera iye kulankhulana ndi mwana wathu (wa zaka 6). Koma pambuyo pa chilekano, mlongo woyambawo yomweyo anati kuti ine ndikhale bwenzi ndi mayi wa ana aakazi ake ndipo iye anali wokondwa ngati Ndidakhala ana ake (mwana wamkazi mmodzi - anzawo wanga, zaka zitatu akulu). Ndipo mlongo wake yemwe kale anali mbanja lake ndi mlongo wake wonse adatithandiza ndikutithandiza, koma nditangopeza ndalama, ndinakwatirana ndi zaka 18, sindinagwire ntchito ndi mwanayo - alipo maphunziro kwambiri), komanso.
Nthawi zambiri timafuna kupita mnzake bwenzi tikukhala munyengo nyumba yoyandikana nayo, kuthandizana kutuluka. Tili ndi chakudya chamadzulo ndi mwana wanga usiku kumeneko, chakudya chamadzulo ndi mayi anga ndi amayi ake ndi amayi ake tisonkhana, zimasinthana nkhaniyo. Kambirani nkhaniyo. Kambirani nkhani. Pafupifupi miyezi iwiri yapitayo, ndinali ndi chibwenzi, ndipo nthawi zina ankalandiridwa ndi chidwi kwambiri, nthawi zina amandilowetsa kukacheza ndi banja la mlongoyo sabata la sabata. Osati mu banja lirilonse kukhala labwino, ndikuganiza, koma ochezeka kwambiri komanso okondwa, monga chonchi - chisangalalo chenicheni. Chaka chamawa, ana athu aakazi apita kusukulu limodzi, tikufuna kuwalemba mkalasi imodzi.
St. Petersburg
Tili ndi nkhani yachilendo. Mwamuna wanga wakale komanso yemwe kale anali mnzake wapamtima, ndiye kuti adakwatirana, ndiye ... M'zaka zochepa adakondana wina ndi mnzake, yemwe ndi mkazi wanga wakale amakhala wokwatiwa ndi mkazi wakale wa mwamuna wanga. Poyamba, zinthu zinali zowopsa, koma nthawi zonse zidachepa, kusudzulidwa ndikumenyedwa. Ndipo iwo anazindikira kuti sitifuna kutaya mzake, chifukwa ndife anthu onse abwino amene amafunabe mankhwala.
Kukwatiwa koyambirira, tinali ndi ana, tsopano tatsala pang'ono kubala mwana, ndili ndi mtsikana, ndili ndi mwana wanga wakale, pafupifupi zaka zitatu. Tonsefe timakhala pabwalo lomwelo, ndipo timathamangira mkazi wa mkazi wanga mkazi wanga kuti tizisamalira ana, zidapatsa mwayi wopuma. Amuna adangosinthidwa kuphika. Kuphatikiza apo, timapanga gawo la zogulira limodzi, mwachitsanzo, amphaka athu ndiosavuta kugula chakudya chochuluka, zinthuzo ndizosavuta komanso zotsika mtengo kugula maphwando akuluakulu. Ana akakula, tikukonzekera kupita kukayikira kwina kwinakwake, kotero iyenera kukhala yotsika mtengo. Makolo athu adadabwitsidwa poyamba, koma makolo a kale anali abwenzi kwanthawi yayitali, ndipo akazi anga akale adaganiza kuti dziko loonda likhala bwino kuposa kukangana wina ndi mnzake komanso ife ndi aliyense. Sangatithandize kwambiri, ndipo tili nazo.
Chaka Chatsopano tikumana ndi kalozera: Ine, mwamuna wanga, mwamuna wanga wakale, mkazi wanga wakale, ndiye yemwe anali mwamuna wanga) ndi ana. M'malo mwake, likhala chaka chatsopano choyambirira, chomwe aliyense wa ife sadzakumana ndi banja la makolo. Ndikukhulupirira kuti ichi chidzakhala chiyambi cha miyambo yabanja. Nthawi zina timafunsidwa ngati sitigona kale, koma takhala tikugwirizana ndi ubale, sitimatikoka. Sitimangochita ngakhale anthu ena ndipo sitikufuna kuti zikhalebe.
Nkhaniyi yakonzekeretsa: Lilith Mazikina