Mu 1961, wazaka 22 zakubadwa wazaka 22 amafuna ntchito. Adanenanso malo omwe ali ku Dipatimenti ya Urban ndi Deral Kukonzekera University, koma m'malo mwa "inde" kapena "Ayi" wolandiridwa kuchokera ku wothandizira wothandizira William DIAMESS DIVARD APHUNZITSIDWA NTHAWI ZONSE PAMODZI.
"Zomwe takumana nazo, ngakhale ndi ophunzira achikazi okalamba, adawonetsa kuti akazi okwatiwa ndizovuta kupeza ntchito yabwino yokonzekera, motero amawona kuti nthawi ndi kuyesetsa kuchita maphunziro. (Izi, zachidziwikire, zimakhudza mayendedwe onse a maphunziro apamwamba).
Chifukwa chake, chifukwa cha zabwino zanu, ndi kutithandizanso kuti tipeze chisankho chomaliza, simukadatha kutilembera masamba amodzi kapena awiri, akangoyankha, momveka bwino momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito Kukonzekera Kumataku ndi Ntchito Zanu Asanakhale ndi Mkazi Wanu Mkazi Wanu Ndi Banja Lomwe Anali M'tsogolo? "
Warchman adaganiza kuti sangakhale nthawi yotsimikizira kuti ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito ufulu kuphatikiza ukwati ndi ntchito. Patatha zaka 52 zokha, mu 2013, kukhala wolemba (agatha Christie ") ndi odyera, pamapeto pake, adapanga nkhani ya Debel. Ndipo tinasandukirako kwa inu, chifukwa tikuganiza kuti uwu ndi nkhani yopindulitsa kwambiri.
"Ndikupepesa kuti sindinayankhe kalata yanu kuyambira June 1961 kwa nthawi yayitali. Mukamaneneratu, ndinali wotanganidwa kwambiri. Posakhalitsa ndidasoka mu bulonde ndi mapepala, kukhumudwa ndi uthenga wanu ndikuzindikira kuti ngakhale tidakambirana pa msonkhano, sindinakuyankheni.
Kalata yanu mu 1961 inandigogoda chifukwa cha Rut, koma sanandimenye. Ngakhale kuti nthawi yanga ya nthawi yanga inkafunafuna ntchito zofunika pantchito, ambiri a iwo adayamba kugonjetsa zopinga panjira yawo. Mpaka kalatayo, sindinapezeke kwa ine kuti ukwati wanga ukhoza kusokoneza kuti ndinditengere ku Harvard kapena kuwononga ntchito yanga. Ndidakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri ndi yankho lanu lomwe sindinathe kumaliza yankho langa. Ndipo ine ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri kutsutsana nanu pamene tinakumana pangozi.
Panthawiyo sindinadziwe momwe ndingayambire kulemba nkhani yomwe mudafuna. Koma tsopano, zitatha maukwati awiri, ndi ana atatu ndi ntchito yabwino yolemba, ine ndingathe, pamene mukuyankha "momveka bwino kuti mwazindikira mu kalatayo.
Sindinakumane ndi mkazi wosakwatiwa, yemwe "angaganize kuti nthawi ndi zoyesayesa zomwe adazigwiritsa ntchito pophunzitsa ntchito zake." Sindinadandaule ndi aliyense za maphunziro amodzi. Mwambiri, ndidakhala pasukulu yapamwamba pafupi ndi zaka khumi ndi ziwiri, ngakhale atapumira, chifukwa mudasankhidwa ndi kumvetsetsa, pomwe iye adamaliza sukulu yomaliza, Ndipo inali ntchito ya zaka 10.
Itha kulimbitsa chikhulupiriro chanu muukwati ndi banja lanu zomwe zinapangitsa kuti ntchito yanga yaukadande, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndikaloledwa ku Harvard, ntchito yanga ingakhale yofanana ndi ntchito ya mwamuna wake. Ngakhale ndimakhala ndi moyo wogwira ntchito komanso wogwiritsa ntchito bwino, kalata yanu ikuwonetsa kuchuluka kwa Harvard, kuti ndisatchule za mabanja anga, ngakhale kuti inenso sindinayambe ndayamba kumene Mwanjira.
Mukamaneneratu, "banja lam'tsogolo" lidachitika zenizeni patadutsa zaka zisanu nditakwatirana ndi Alvin. Mwana wanga woyamba atabadwa, ndinapumula pantchito kuti ndichite. Analandiranso ndipo mkazi wanu woyamba, pomwe tidalankhula ndi inu mu 1961. Mwina simukumbukira, koma ndiye chitsanzo chomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pofotokoza chifukwa chomwe akazi sakhala pa maphunziro olakwika. Vuto, ndikukayikira, anali ndi malire pazinthu zosakhalitsa. Google imandiuza kuti mkazi wanu adalandira madipuloma awiri ndi kuchuluka kwa dokotala. Imayambiranso yochititsa chidwi, kuphatikiza kafukufuku, kusankhana ndi zochitika. Kodi mukuganiza kuti maphunziro ake anali kuwononga nthawi?
Mu 1970, tinasamukira ku Washington, ndipo ndinapitilizabe kugwirira ntchito dipuloma yambuye wanga. Koma ndinamuchepetsera, chifukwa ntchito yanga ya sayansi inakumana ndi chopinga. Kusamalira ana, ndinachita zambiri. Ndili ndi mwana m'modzi, ndimatha kumumanga ndekha ndikutenga ndi ine paulendo wamabizinesi. Ndinathana ndi ziwiri: Ndangophunzira malingaliro a madotolo kuti ndikayamyama, ndipo ndimatha kulemba, kusamalira ana pabwalo lamasewera. Ndili ndi ana atatu, ndinayesetsa kufufuza malingaliro a ana a mpikisano, koma adandiphwanya. Ndinafunikira nanny, koma nannies ankawoneka ngati wapamwamba, popeza sindinapange ndalama. Kenako ndinakhala ndi utoto m'nyumba mwathu, ndimamanga khitchini m'chipinda chapansi ndikupereka malo ogona kwa ophunzira aku koleji posinthanitsa ana.
Ntchito ya wolemba kumasulira, monga momwe ndidadziwira, ndizopambana pakulima kwa ana. Ndimatha kulemba kulikonse - paki, pomwe anawo adagwira achule ndi abuluzi, kapena kunyumba usiku, pomwe amagona. Ngati nditangoyang'ana pamitu monga kuwunika kwa ayisikilimu kapena kuyesedwa kwa nyumba ya ma microwave uvuni, ndimakhala ndi chidwi ndi kudyetsa ana, nthawi yomweyo kutola zinthu.
Mwamwayi, mukamagwiritsa ntchito wolemba, pansi ndizochepera kuposa ntchito ina iliyonse. Ma Freencers amayesedwa nthawi zambiri ndi zomwe amawona masamba kuposa china chilichonse. Koma ngakhale ntchito yanga itayamba kupeza mwayi, kusamvana ndi zogonana sikunasiye. Awiri mwa ana anga awiri adalembetsa muubwana kupita kusukulu yapayekha. Posakhalitsa ndinalandira ntchito yocheza milungu iwiri, kuwerenga malo odyera ku China. Mwayi wosowa wa 1980. Mwamuna wanga adaganiza zopita nane. Tinaitanidwa kuti tikawerenge komanso kuti tisiye ana athu. Ngakhale ndidapeza ophunzira atatu aku koleji kuti ndigwire ntchito ndi a Babi. Kuphatikiza apo, ophunzira anali okonzeka kusintha makolo anga ndi abale anga ndi alongo. Koma sukuluyo idanenetsa kuti ndasiya ulendowu. Palibe amene ananena mawu omwe amuna anga akupitabe paulendo.
Tonse tinapita ku China. Ana athu anapirira. Zotsatira zake, adakwaniritsa zonse zomwe ndikadakhulupirira - ngati akatswiri, nzika, makolo. Adakondwera kuchita zinthu zanga ndipo, mwina, tsopano, ndikapuma pantchito, mumawasowa kuposa ine. Nthawi yanga imatanganidwa ndi matenda osachiritsika, gawo latsopano la wolemba komanso woyambitsa waboma, mwamunayo (ndikuwunikira) ndi m'badwo watsopano wa zidzukulu. "
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