Tidapeza kuchokera ku katswiri wazamisala wa Boma wa Zygmantovich kuti adzakupulumutsani ndalama zambiri, nthawi ndi mitsempha, ngati mukuganiza zonena za mafunso: "Kodi ine ndimkazi? Kodi ndi nthawi yakukula mkazi weniweni ?! "
Wowerenga anati: "Ndinkafuna kufunsa chilichonse (buku, nkhani) pa kukula kwa mkazi weniweni."O, funso lodziwika bwanji. Nthawi zonse mufunseni kuti munene momwe mungakhalire mkazi weniweni kapena mwamuna weniweni. Amadziwa kufunsa zomwe sizingatheke ...
Izi ndi zomwe ndidalemba poyankha kuti: "Ndidzakhala wokondwa kuvomereza - kuthamangitsidwa ndi mabuku onse, masamba ndi nkhani zomwe zimakuwuzani momwe mungapangire mkazi weniweni."
Ndipo pali zifukwa zoyankhira pa yankho loterolo.
Gegemon, Gegemon
Katswiri wazomwe aku Australia aku Australia a Revin coglall adayambitsa mwanjira ina yosangalatsa - hegemonic masculity (Egemomonic Masculity). Izi ndi zodziwika bwino komanso zothandizidwa ndi kuchuluka kwa zomwe mwamuna weniweni ayenera kukhala (akatswiri amisala, mwa njira "mawu oti" jenda "amagwiritsidwa ntchito komanso tsatanetsatane).
Mawu oti "hegetonic" sindinakumane ku mabuku achi Russia, koma mu Chingerezi-kuyankhula mawu oterewa amabwerabe, ngakhale nthawi zambiri.
Kulankhula mwa amuna osavuta, hegetomoni ndi "munthu weniweni." Modziwikiratu - amene amafanana ndi chithunzichi, yemwe amayamba kukhala mafupa a Hegemoni, kuti "mwamuna weniweni."
Ndipo amene akugwirizana ndi "mwachitsanzo komanso oleredwa ndi ambiri" pazomwe mkazi woyenera ayenera kukhala, omwe, "akazi enieni".
Ndipo zikufika kuti "kukhala ndi mkazi weniweni" ndikosavuta. Tiyenera kuchita masitepe awiri okha:
- Mvetsetsani momwe "hegetonici imawoneka (kapena masculity - kwa iwo omwe akufuna kukhala munthu weniweni).
- Oyenera kukhala oyenera mu ulalikiwu.
VIAILA, aliyense wakhuta, aliyense ndi wachimwemwe, "azimayi adafuula kuti agwetse ndipo wam'ng'onoyo adaponya mlengalenga."
Ndipo zonse zikhala bwino, koma pali vuto ...
Simungathe kukankha mgulu limodzi ...
Mbali yayikulu ya hegement iyi ndikuti ali otsutsana kwenikweni. Ndikugogomezera - kwenikweni.
Mwachitsanzo, mu Hemonireni, ndikofunikira kukhala wathanzi, ngati ng'ombe yamphongo, koma ofooka okha amapita kwa madotolo. Kapenanso pano - amuna ayenera kukhala ndi abwenzi enieni, koma bambo sayenera kukhala osavomerezeka. Zikuonekeratu kuti izi ndi zofunika kwambiri.
Hafu ya anthu yomwe imamubisa, mwachitsanzo, ili ndi vuto lanyumba (bandwii syndrome). Mzimayi akuwoneka kuti akhala kunyumba ndipo sagwira ntchito, amatanthauza kupumula, koma - kumapangitsa kuti pakhale panyumba.
Ndikukupemphani kuti mulandire chidwi kwambiri - masculity a hegemonity / atsikana amatsutsana mkati
Ndichoncho chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa zonse ndi maudindo a amuna ndi akazi (ndimagwiritsa ntchito mawu ammutu, ngakhale ayandikira kwa ine), ndiye kuti, chikhalidwe, "okhala ndi zomwe muyenera kumva ndikuchita."
Monga malangizo ndi zoletsa zilizonse, izi zimachitikanso komanso zolimba - pomwe moyo weniweni umakhala wapulasitiki ndi pulasitiki.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti munthu sangathe kufanana ndi maudindo. Kodi mwamunayo angagwirizane ndi mahemoni. Kodi mkazi angafanane ndi hemonical femin.
Mwachidule, munthu sangakhale "munthu weniweni." Zonse zomwezo, pali china chake chomwe chingapangitse kuti sichili chenicheni. Komanso - ndi mkazi.
Izi zikutchedwa kuti kusamvana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) - mkhalidwe wophatikizidwa mwapadera womwe umawonekera pamavuto omwe ma geander amawonekera komwe maudindo a jenda amakhudza munthu ndi chilengedwe chake.
Chifukwa cha mkanganowu, anthu amayamba kufunafuna "chidziwitso chilichonse (buku, nkhani, nkhani) yokhudza kukula kwa mkazi weniweni." Kwa mwanjira ina kuthetsa mkangano ndikuchotsa kumverera kwa kusasangalala kwamkati.
Inde, ndi utopia. Njira yokhayo yochotsera mkanganowu sikuyenera kutsatira hegemon masculce ndi maudindo ena a jenda.
Muli kale / zenizeni
Ndinu amuna ndi mkazi. Mwachitsanzo, pamisonkhano ya amuna achimuna (ndiye zochitika pagulu), sindikunena kuti munthu weniweni ayenera kukhala wotani. Ine ndikuti - "Aliyense wa inu ndi bambo ndipo izi ndizofunika; Tonsefe titha (ndipo ziyenera kuchitika!) Kupanga maluso ndi mtundu wake, koma timachita kukonza moyo, komanso kuti tisalowe m'makampulo aliyense. "
Ngati ndikadakhala ndi misonkhano yachikazi, ndinganene zomwezi.
Ndinena izi ndipo apa - azimayi okondedwa, ndinu kale. Okwera, otsika, odzala, owonda, owonda, ma jeans, mabotolo ndi pa boloni komanso mu chitola cham'madzulo, muli paliponse akazi Ndipo simuyenera 'kukhala ndi mkazi weniweni.' Mulidi weniweni.
Mutha (komanso othandiza!) Pangani maluso ndi mikhalidwe, koma mulibe chifukwa cholimbikitsidwa ndi mkazi weniweni. Mukuwona kale.
Ndipo ndili ndi chilichonse, zikomo chifukwa cha chidwi chanu.