Katswiri wazachipatala atvel zggmantovich amayankha nkhani yayikulu ya moyo, chilengedwe chonse: "Kodi amuna enieni azunzidwa kuti?"
Amuna abwinobwino amamasuliridwa ngati kuvomera? Azimayi ambiri amagwirizana. Ndipo ngakhale kuganiza kuti m'mbuyomu zinthu zonse zinali zanzeru kwambiri. Ndipo ndikukumbukira ukonde "Moscow sakhulupirira misozi", komwe katherine (ngwazi ya atcheru) akudandaula chimodzimodzi. Mu 1981, panjira. Mu 1981! Malingaliro a Cramolt akudyetsa - mwina siamuna?Ndinkayesetsa kunena kuti funso lokha silimachita zolakwika. Amuna enieni sapita kulikonse (komwe angapite kwa iwo, ngati sianthu olondola ndi mawonekedwe omwe alipo, koma ndi chiweruziro chokha, chomwe chiri chotsatira? Vuto sikuti china chachilendo chinachitika kwa amuna.
Vuto ndiloti azimayi ambiri amafufuza molakwika.
Momwe zimawonekera momwe zimakhalira. Mkazi amayang'ana pa mawonekedwe ang'onoang'ono, owoneka bwino kwambiri omwe amakopa chidwi chake. Ngati munthu apereka izi, amakonda. Sizipanga - sakonda (amuna, mwa njira, akulakwitsa chimodzimodzi, koma "amasunga" osankhidwa osankhidwa ndi osankhidwa).
Izi, mwa njira, ndichikhalidwe chololera - ngakhale ena ndi ogawana bwanji pakati panu pakati pa khamulo? Timayang'ana wina yemwe angakhale ndi mnzake wosiyana naye, amalumikizana ndi njira inayake yomwe imakhala kwinakwake m'mutu mwanga, ndipo timapirira chigamulo - ndi choyenera kapena ayi.
Komabe, pali anzeru - osati nthawi zonse bambo akhoza kupereka izi.
Khungu kwakanthawi
Nachi chitsanzo. Amuna awiri ali oyenera kukumana. Mmodzi amachita mosavuta komanso mokongola - kuchepetsa chitsutso, mosamala pang'ono, mosalekeza, mosalekeza. Ndipo wachiwiri akuti mwachidule, amayi, sangathe kuthandizira kukambirana.
Ndani angakonde? Choyamba, zoona.
Ndani mwa iwo amene angakhale wokondedwa wabwino kwambiri? Funso lalikulu.
Choyamba ndichachidziwike mwangwiro, koma kodi zikutanthauza kuti adzakhala mwamuna wabwino? Ayi, sizitanthauza. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amadziwa bwino komanso. Eya, zitha kutanthauzanso kuti anali ndi chibwenzi chotere, kudziwa kumeneku - zikwi khumi ndi zisanu woyamba osati woyang'anira mapiri khumi ndi asanu ndi chisanu.
Ndipo munthu wachiwiriyo amayamba kuyipa, chifukwa alibe chidwi. Anadziwana kakhumi ndipo kamodzi kokha. Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti munthu wachiwiri adzakhala mwamuna woyipa? Ayi, sizitanthauza. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ali ndi chidziwitso chochepa pachibwenzi. Mwina (mwina!), Ndiye munthu wachiwiri amene akhoza kukhala bwenzi labwino. Koma mkazi wake - sangazindikire.
Chitsanzo china. Nenani, chipani cholemekeza tsiku lobadwa. Mtsikanayo abwera kwa bwenzi lake, pali anyamata awiri. Kunja kwambiri kapena kokongola pang'ono, koma wina amadzaza ndikukhala phewa pakona, ndipo yachiwiri ndi moyo wa kampaniyo. Choyamba usiku wonse ndekha ndinayesa kunena za mtsikana uyu, ndipo inatuluka Cormavo pomwe, yachiwiriyo idafikiridwa ndi malingaliro ndipo sanapite. Funso ndi ndani mwa iwo amene angakhale mwamuna wabwino kwambiri?
Apanso - palibe chitsimikiziro kuti yachiwiriyo ndi mwamuna wabwino kwambiri. Kuphatikiza apo, palibe chitsimikizo kuti wachiwiri ndi thanki yotere. Mwina zonse ndikuti amadziwa pafupifupi aliyense mu kampani iyi, ndipo mdani wakeyo - sadadziwe wina aliyense, kupatula ambuye a madzulo. Chifukwa chake, wachiwiri anali atawoneka, ndipo woyamba anasungidwa mthunzi.
Koma azimayi ambiri akuwoneka kuti wachiwiri ndi wozizira, ndipo woyamba kulibe. Ndipo saonanso woyamba. Ndipo pomwe wachiwiri ndi wokondwa, koma, tinene, zopaka, adzadandaula kuti palibenso amuna wamba.
M'malo mwake, ali. Amayi ena okha samazindikira.
Chinsinsi Chachikulu
Anthu ambiri (osati akazi okha, komanso amuna) sadziwa chinthu chachikulu - chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chaubwenzi ndi gawo loyandikira. Ngati anthu amagwirira ntchito limodzi kapena kukhala pafupi, kapena akuchita zolemba kujambula, mwayi womwe adzakumana nawo ndipo adzaapanga maubwenzi, koposa nthawi zina zonse.
Ndichoncho chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa nthawi yolumikizana ikhale pamalo amodzi pali nthawi yoyang'ana wina ndi mnzake. Panthawi imeneyi, anthu amapezeka m'mavuto osiyanasiyana ndipo amawoneka kale, omwe ali oyenera. Pali zochitika zochepa zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambapa.
Zotsatira zake, kusankha kwake ndikofunika kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, ndimalimbikitsa kuti ndikasanthule osati amuna a konkriti, koma malo omwe amayi ndi abambo palimodzi akuchita chilichonse.
Mwachidule. Zomwe ndikufuna kunena: Wokondedwa wachichepere, ngati mumadandaula za kusowa kwa anthu m'moyo wanu, yang'anani - momwe mungasankhire. Ndipo - ngati mungathe - mulole mwayi wa amuna amenewo omwe sanakusangalatseni.
Onani kwa iwo - Kukhala chete kwa amuna, kuvutika kuvutika, kulephera kulumikizana ndi zokambirana zakuthupi sizitanthauza za mwamunayo. Amuna ambiri anzeru sadziwa kusamalira - amakhudza kusowa kwa zokumana nazo komanso nthawi zina zokanamizira zachikazi. Koma kupatsa mwayi kwa munthu wotere, mutha kukhala mosangalala naye.
Ndipo ndili ndi chilichonse, zikomo chifukwa cha chidwi chanu.