Kuyenda: Momwe sindinakonera mayi wabwino

Julia Xiarto - wachichepere mayi ndi Dowla, yemwe malembawo okhudzana ndi kutopa mosamala (adakhudzidwa kwathunthu) tidasindikizidwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo adapitilira zikwizikwi. Ndipo nkhaniyi ikunena za momwe atsikana amakono amadziyendetsa okha mu ngodya, kuyesera kukhala amayi angwiro. Ndipo chifukwa chake kumavulaza kwambiri kuyesa kukhala kotere. Palibe chabwino. Iwalani mawuwa.

Pa nthawi yoyembekezera, ine, ndimakhulupirira kuti zonse zikhala kwa ine ngati luso la kubala ndi kholo. Kubadwa kudzachepa kwambiri, "pa zana". Nthawi yomweyo khazikani mwana pachifuwa ndipo adzagona kwa zaka ziwiri mwakukumbatira. Ndipo inde, kufera aliyense - komanso mabere, ndipo alibe maluwa. Ndipo tidzayendayenda ndi theka la theka patsiku, ndipo makamaka mu mpango! .. Nthawi iyi idayamba kubereka, malingaliro awa adagwera kale nthawi yachiwiri ya kubereka, pomwe nkhondozo zakhala zamphamvu kwambiri kotero kuti zinali zoipa Kukula ... Ndipo patakhala zaka zazitali za maola ambiri ndi mpanda. Onse amafuula ndi zowawa. Kubadwa kunakhala kovuta, osati pachabe mu Chingerezi, kubadwa kotchedwa "Kugwira" - Ntchito. Ndipo mwana wanga akabadwa bwino, anali wosangalala kwambiri 'atapachikidwa pachifuwa. Ndizongongokhala ine, kapena m'malo mwake, chifuwa changa sichinali chokonzeka kuti ndikhale wovuta, ndipo madzulo tsiku loyamba lomwe ndimabangula kuchokera kupweteketsa mtima. Kenako panatsatira mwezi wonse wokhazikitsidwa ndi kuyamwitsa komanso kwambiri, misozi yambiri ndi mano oyera pakudyetsa.

Masabata asanu adadutsa, ndikudya adakhala chisangalalo komanso ubale wapadera, koma sizinali zophweka kwa ife. Sindinataye mtima chifukwa ndinali ndi chidziwitso komanso kukhulupilira kwanga mwa ine ndikuchirikiza chilengedwe.

Ndipo ndi amayi angati omwe analibe ena? ..

Ndipo tsiku loyamba la moyo wa mwana wanga, 3 koloko m'mawa silinaime kutopa komanso kupweteka kwambiri ndipo adatulutsa kuchokera ngodya yayitali ya wina atapereka chiwindi. Kukula kwa "12 m +", chinthu chachikulu cha mphira, chomwe sichinaphatikizidwe pakamwa panga changa sichinalepheretse khanda lopuwala. Koma zomwe iye amadetsa pansi ndipo pamapeto pake anagona. Ndipo ifenso, zopepuka ndikusautsa pang'ono kuti ndife wolakwa.

Kenako tinatiphunzitsa m'malo ngati amenewa kupereka kuyamwa chala chanu kuti musawononge chojambulidwa, ndi mavuto athu ndikuyamwitsa zinali zofunika. Koma .. Kulanda kwakhala kukuyenda bwino, zovuta zomwe zimadyetsa zidaiwalika. Mavuto okhala ndi kugona ngati mpira wa chipale chofewa.

M'miyezi inayi, ndinayesanso kupereka nipple (kukula kale, chifukwa cha kugona, ndipo mwana wanga wamwamuna adayamba kugona, mwachangu komanso mosavuta. Ndi kugona nthawi yayitali. Tidafunsa ndipo tidasankha kuti mitsempha yanga ndi misozi ndiyokwera kwambiri kwa ife, ndipo tiyeni iwo ayake m'maloto, koma tidzakhala popanda zikwama- zopanda malire.

Tidali otsutsana ndi fumbi !!! Ndani amapatsa nipple - kungogwira ntchito! Inde, sitinatero! ... Ndendende mpaka usiku woyamba. Zomwe tinali oseketsa. Ndati - tinali kugona kwambiri pa nthawi yoyembekezera. Eya, ndipo, zolota zolumikizana ndi mtundu wa golide wa ubwana wachilengedwe. Ayi, ndimaganizabe kuti ndizosangalatsa kugona limodzi. Koma sitinagwire ntchito. Kwa miyezi iwiri yoyambirira sindinathe kudyetsa, ndinagona pambali panga. Kugwidwa sikunaphulitse ku Mawu konse, ndinapwetekedwa kwambiri, mwana wanga wamwamuna amakhumudwitsidwa komanso atakwiya. Amadyetsedwa atakhala, pilo, kenako nkusunthidwa pang'ono.

Sindinathe kugona nthawi yoposa ola limodzi ndi mwana pansi pa - chilichonse chosweka, ndidadzuka ndikudzuka ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna, zokha.

Kuphatikiza apo, ndinali ndi vuto lautotine wanthawi pambuyo pake (uku ndi vuto la chithokomiro), ndipo chimodzi mwazizindikiro zake ndi tulo, mavuto ake ndi kugona tulo. Chabwino, iwe ukumvetsa, inde? ....

Mwezi woyamba wa Mwana wagona pakati pathu kapena ku bedi langa. Koma tinasamukira kudera lalikulu mpaka kuti tisapatse Mulungu kusadandaula ndipo osadzuka. Kenako, atachoka kugona m'mawa kwambiri ndipo ndinalibe mphamvu yakumulankhulira (ndipo ndidakali ndi ma boob pa nthawi imeneyo, kuti ndikagone pamwamba pa ine), anayamba kugona pa ine pamwamba, mpaka m'mimba.

Ndinawerenga, ndinadziyimbira tokha, Tpayil to Faisbook, ndipo anagona - zonse zinali bwino. Usiku, adayamba kugona mwadzidzidzi mu Crib yake yokhala ndi mbali yobowola mbali yanga ya kama. Mitundu isanu kuchokera kwa ine, komabe padera. Ndipo ndinayambanso kugona usiku, mwina mwanjira ina. M'miyezi inayi, anali kugona pakagona ndi masana. Ndipo iye anagona pamenepo bwino kwambiri komanso motalikirapo, oundana kwambiri, mumdima ndi phokoso loyera. Ndipo ine ndinali mfulu, ine ndekha.

Chifukwa chake tinadzipereka molumikizana ndi kugona, tsoka ndi zosangalatsa. Chabwino, za zitsulo. Ndimavala mosangalala ma kilogalamu atatu kapena anayi a chisangalalo mu mwezi woyamba mu mpango. Kamodzi pa sabata. Kenako Mwanayo mwadzidzidzi anayamba kupenda kilosi imodzi imodzi, ndipo ndinangokhala ndi chithokomiro changa ndi kufooka kwake, kugwedeza manja, zowawa zamisala ndi m'mimba.

Kuphatikiza apo, mwana kwambiri sanakonde kuneneka, pomwepo adayamba kulira ndikuyamba kulira, ndipo ine - thukuta komanso mantha. Nthawi zina amakhotakhota kuti amakhomedwa mofulumira pamsewu, ndipo nthawi zina amakhala kunyumba. Kusaka mwadzidzidzi kunayamba kugwedeza ndi mphete. Mwansanga, kosavuta, kosavuta. Koma ndiye ... zisanu ndi zitatu sizikhala zodulira ma kilogalamu, paphewa limodzi, kutalikirana kuposa malo ogulitsira? ... ambiri, ndinakhala slipoma weniweni atakula.

Ndipo ndizapasesa, zomwe ndidasankha mwakhama ndikugula mu mimba ... Kunama. Komabe, posachedwa ndinayambanso kupita nawo ndikuphunzira ku Moti - nthendayo idatha, mwana adakula ndikudwala. Koma mabanki akadali A 95% a milandu. Ndipo abambo amawavala mosangalala.

Simukuganiza, sindidandaula. Kapena zomwe ndikuganiza kuti mayi anga alephera. Ayi, ndikudziwa kuti ndine mayi wamkulu kwa mwana wanga. Iye ndi mwana wokongola komanso wodekha komanso wosavutikira.

Ndipo ngakhale motsutsana - Ndine wokondwa kuti zonse zachitika kwa ine. Pofuna matenda a ana, mutu wa "woyenera kuchita ungwiro" mpaka kalekale.

Tonsefe timapanga kusankha kwathu, zabwino kwambiri pazomwe zili pachikhalidwe chilichonse.

Mzimayi wina angasankhe kudikirira kubadwa kwa ana kwa opambana, ndi enawo - "adadzipereka" kwa madotolo mu masabata 42, chifukwa zoopsa zake ndizosasandulika. Onse akhoza ngati mwayi osati. Chachitatu chidzapangana ndi zaka 38, chifukwa ali ndi matenda a shuga ndi a Pelvic. Chachinayi ndi zomwezo zidzakhala ndikudikirira kubadwa kwachilengedwe ndikupemphera.

Lachisanu livomera kale tsiku lomwe likuyenera kubadwa, "kuti musalole," ndi wachisanu ndi chimodzi - pa gawo la Cesareya, chifukwa "the ultraund lidakote." Amvera aliyense wopereka chidziwitso chonse, akuwonetsa zotsatira, kukumbatira ndi kuthandiza kutenga lingaliro lawo. Iwo analibe chisankho chabwino kuposa kuvomerezana ndi lingaliro la adotolo. Osangokhala.

Wina wasankha kubereka kunyumba ndi solo, ndipo wina akumva bwino ku chipatala cha amayi, atazunguliridwa ndi akatswiri a akatswiri. Zowopsa zoyambirira kukhala "kusankha kwachilengedwe", yachiwiri - wozunzidwa ankhanza. Alipo, komabe, pali mwayi wopambana komanso kubereka mwachilengedwe.

Mayi wina adzagula woyenda chete, winayo siwotsirizika. Wachitatu adzagula Kenguusku ambiri - anawerenganso kuti kuvala mwana kuti amathandiza kwambiri pakukula kwake! Pafupifupi erpomoni ovala erpothi kulibe mawu ndipo iye samadziwa zomwe zimachitika mosiyanasiyana. Kodi mukuganiza kuti kuti munthu amakhala ndi mwana ku Kingurus, kuti adziwitsidwa za kuvulaza kwa mwana ndi chiyani? yofanana kwathunthu komanso osayamwa. Chifuwa. Ndipo amake a mnzake sadzamupatsa munthu aliyense pamphasi, koma sadzapambana poyamwitsa. Kupatula apo, zimachitika.

Mkazi wina adzakopa chikopa choyambirira kwa lamulo la chachinayi, kumalimbikitsa mwamuna wake pamwala, ndipo winayo amakhala kudziko lomwe simungathe kugwira ntchito miyezi inayi. Ndipo ngati ali mayi wopanda mayi? Mwana wake adzapita ku nazale motetezeka, chifukwa amafunika kugwira ntchito, ndipo agogodawa akadali achichepere ndipo iwonso amagwira ntchito, ndipo nthawi zambiri palibe vuto m'dzikomo, ndipo ndizosatheka kutaya ntchito. Banja la mkazi wina likhala lomvetsetsa komanso lothandiza, okonzekera chidziwitso chatsopano komanso omasuka kukambirana. Amayi ake abwera, kutuluka, kuphika ndi kutenga mwana wamkazi monga momwe zilili. Amayi ndi apongozi ake amachepetsa ubongo wake wonse pazomwe sizikuphuka, sizipereka maswiti ndi nyama, samaluma osatenga njinga ya olumala. Ndipo ngati mkazi ayenera kukhala mwachangu kugwira ntchito kapena, Mulungu aletse, kupita kuchipatala, ndipo ndiokha chifukwa choyang'anira chikwama cha mwana .. Aliyense wa ife angakhale ndi zifukwa zake zokhalira chosankha chathu kuti wina angaoneke zolakwika.

Matenda anu, mwakuthupi komanso zauzimu. Malo ozungulira, okhwima osati kumvetsetsa. Kuperewera kwa chidziwitso. Zochitika zandale m'dziko. Kupanda thandizo. Ana ena amafuna chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro. Imfa ya okondedwa. Mavuto amisala.

Kuyesa ndi kuweruza mkazi wina pambali - kodi mukutsimikiza kuti mukudziwa zonse? ..

Iye ndi uyu aliyense - amadzipangira bwino kwambiri ndi mwana wake, womwe ungakhale panthawiyi. Samakhala mayi woyipitsitsa chifukwa choti anasankha kena kake, osati zomwe zikanasankha mayi "abwino" abwino ".

Zaka ziwiri pambuyo pake, zaka khumi, ndi mwana wina, komanso mwamuna wake, amatha kusankha chinthu chosiyana kwathunthu. Koma nthawi imeneyo adapanga chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe chingachitike. Zomwe ndimadziwa.

Inu, inunso, inde, inde! Inu, Amayi a Ili ndi mwana! Mukuchita bwino! Ndinu mayi wabwino chifukwa simumumenya, simumazipatsa uhule, musalire ndi njala, komanso kuvala nyengo yanu. Mumamukonda kwambiri, muzimusamalira ndikuchita zomwe mungathe, chifukwa cha moyo wake, thanzi ndi chisangalalo, choncho? Chilichonse! Ndi zokwanira. Ndiwe mayi wabwino! Bwerani pa zowerengera. Simudzakhala mayi wabwino, koma zomvetsa chisoni ndizosavuta ngati simusiya kuyika malingaliro. Muli monga momwe muliri. Ndipo mwana wanu adakusankha inu, adabwera kwa inu. Amadziwa zomwe mumadziwa mkati ndipo amakukondani chimodzimodzi. Kaya ndi iye, ndi iye.

Kukhala nokha ndi phunziro lofunika kwambiri kwa omwe mungamuphunzitse mwana. Osavala masks, osayesa. "

Inde, izi sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala pa sofa, kuti muchepetse ndudu ndi kuyankha zonena zake kuti: "Inde, ndine pano, ine ndine nkhumba!". Osati. DZIWANI, phunzirani, phunzirani, yesetsani kudzitukumula komanso dziko lapansi, ndiye mwana adzaphunzira kwa inu. Koma simuyenera kudziyerekeza ndi ena. Fanizirani nanu kale. Kodi mukudziwa lero kwa mawu atatu mu Chingerezi kuposa Lolemba lakale? Kalasi! Anadya maswiti amodzi? Super! Kodi simungalowe mu zokambirana za anzanu? Ngwazi! Ndipo ngati - adatha kubereka pambuyo pa Cesarean? Timadyetsa chifuwa cha mwana wachiwiri, ngakhale ndi woyamba "kunalibe mkaka"? Sindinaphunzire ku Spank ndipo osalira ana? Wow !. Ndipo monga choncho. Ndipo ana ang'onoang'ono awa, adzaphunzira kwa ife. Kuphatikizapo chisangalalo ndi kukhazikitsidwa. Ndi kufunafuna malingaliro a wina aliyense ndipo sanasangalale.