Posachedwa, titafalitsa malingaliro athu a Columnist Ella Derzay pafupifupi kukula kwa mwana osati wamitsempha. Angathe! Koma momwe zimakhalira kwambiri - akuti psychotherapist Adrian izh. Mumtundu wa "makhonsolo oyipa".
Tiyerekeze kuti muli ndi mwana, ndipo mukufuna iye woyipa kwambiri. Eya, zidachitika. Amakupatsani. Ndipo mufuna malangizo momwe mungamuwonongere moyo - kamodzi kokha.Sayansi imabwera ku thandizo - mazana ambiri ofufuza amisala adagwira ntchito kutipatsa mwayi wogwira ntchito. Kukula kwa njirayi, ndidagwiritsa ntchito kuphunzira kwa ophunzira a Laura Welly ndi Schwartz Conrad (2005), ana a Kaisa Anola ndi 2009), Ashanins a Kochansk ndi iye Anzathu (2000, 2006), komanso kuwunikanso kwambiri maphunziro oposa 50 a masitayilo a Stoples Collins ndi ogwira ntchito (2000).
Ndipo kwa amayi osakhalitsa osangalala kwambiri omwe amafuna kuti ana awo akhale abwino, azaumoyo komanso bwino, kumapeto, tidzanena kuti ndi mitundu yanji ya ulamuliro zomwe zimabweretsa zotsatira zabwino. Chifukwa chake kunena, kugwiritsa ntchito kawiri - tizirombo kwenikweni onani momwe mulibe mlandu, koma, ngati sikokwanira, kapena m'mimba iyi) idzakondwera.
Chifukwa chake, pali mitundu iwiri yowongolera, yomwe, yotalikalika kwakukulu, idzawononga moyo wa mwana wanu - Samurai Wonse ndi Woyang'anira Umkulu.
Kuwongolera kwa Ninja
Njira yoyamba ndi yosavuta kwambiri: Kodi mukuwona kuti mulibe mwana. Pita naye, chabwino ... Pafupifupi, ngati gologolo paki - kusiya chakudya ndi zovala pamalo otchuka. Osalankhula naye, musakhale ndi zibwenzi, musamadzidandaula pomenya, musamachezeke akamakambirana, siyani nyumba imodzi, siyani nyumba imodzi pazaka zilizonse Ndipo kwa nthawi iliyonse - ndi zovala m'malo otchuka. Tsoka lina. Ngati atafika kwa inu - werengani chidwi komanso ndi Lenza. Ndipo, inde, osati nthawi yomweyo. Pakapita nthawi atatopa, ndipo adzasokonekera. Ndikwabwino kulumikizana kulikonse komwe kumadzinamizira ngati simukumbukira kuti ndi ndani, komanso momwe Iye analiri pano.
Ili ndi njira yotsimikiziridwa, yapamwamba kwambiri. Ana, ndi maphunziro oterowo, sakhulupirira aliyense, wowonetsa zotsatira zotsika kwambiri pa maphunziro, amakonda kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndikumwa kwambiri, makampani oyipa, maubale olakwika, odalirika. Ndipo zigawenga zikhala - ndi zochulukirapo. Mukuyerekeza, kuti uthe kukhalanso Gangster weniweni! Ngakhale atakhala ndi mwayi, adakwanitsa kukhala zaka makumi awiri ndi zisanu, palibe chowopsa. Zonse zomwezo, adzakhala ndi mitsempha, kukhumudwa, kudzidalira kochepa komanso chizolowezi chowopsa. Eya, ndikumva kuti safuna aliyense. Mwambiri, kuchita bwino.
Chiwongolero cha Helikopita
Njira yachiwiri ndi yolamulira. Choyamba, m'maganizo. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuyankhula nthawi yomweyo kuti mwana muli nawo kulangidwa pang'ono, palibe chomwe chingachitike. Potsindika kuti popanda inu, saphunzitsa maphunziro, sapeza maphunziro, sadzatsuka mbale, sadzakwatira, sadzakwatira, ndipo ngati ali pachiwopsezo. Monga mmodzi wa kasitomala wanga anati: "Mayi anga ndi batman, ndipo adzandipeza kulikonse."
Makolo oterowo amatchedwanso ma helikotuputala - chifukwa, ziribe kanthu kubisala, kuwonekera komwe kupezeka, ndi zowonera zanu zonse. Kholo loterolo liyenera kukhala kulikonse kumene mwana ali. Njira yoyenera siyilola ku mabungwe onse, koma ngati pali chosowa chotere - mutha kupita monga mphunzitsi mu kiyaurgarten ndi mphunzitsi. Kapena kapena osachepera. Koma izi ndi zotsukira. Amene amadziwa zonse zokhudza aliyense, ndipo zikadzabweretsa madzi oyera. Nthawi yomweyo, ndikofunikira, osati kufunsa momwe mwana amamvera kapena zomwe akufuna, inu ndinu mayi, kulibwino muzimva. Kukambirana kuyenera kumangidwa mu dongosolo lolamulira ndi kuwongolera: zomwe ayenera kuchita pamene, komwe angamunamizeni, kuyimilira. Palibe chifukwa choti mulibe chidwi ndi malingaliro a mwana. Ali ndi vuto, osati lingaliro.
Izi ndizachidziwikire, zotopa kwambiri kuposa zoyambirira, koma zotsatira zake zimakhala zabwino - ana awa sadziwa momwe angayanjane ndi okondedwa, kuti mwina asakwatire gulu lililonse, musakwatire ( Ndipo ngati akwatirana sakulephera), koma ali ndi mavuto akulu omwe amaphunzira, samakumbukira zoyesera, anyamata - osangalala amamwa ndi kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso matenda osokoneza bongo. Komabe, anyamatawo nawonso amavutika, zochepa zochepa.
Kuwongolera Kothandiza
Ndi mtundu wanji wa ulamuliro womwe umathandiza? Pali awiri a iwo, ndipo njira yopambana kwambiri - akamapita limodzi.
Mtundu woyamba wa ulamuliro umamangidwa Chidwi . Umu ndi momwe zimangokhalira kukonda mwanayo, ndipo amamutamanda chifukwa cha kupita patsogolo - ndiye mtundu wa ulamuliro. Mafunso osavuta "Kodi mudawakonda?", "Kodi mumakonda?", "Munatani kusukulu lero?", "Ndi maluwa okongola bwanji!" - Thandizo kwambiri ndikudziwa za moyo wa mwana, ndikupangitsa kuti azimuchita bwino komanso zomwe zingatheke. Njira yomweyo imaphunzitsanso mwana kuti azikhala ndi chidwi, amaphunzitsa ena chisoni, achifundo, omwe amathandizira bwino kuzolowera gululi, kuti akhazikitse zabwino komanso zachikondi chatsopano.
Chachiwiri - gulu . Mwanayo amafunikira kapangidwe kake, dongosolo, ma algorithms omwe angachite. Ndizopambana ngati atenga gawo pakukula kwawo, koma iye yekha amabwera nawo. Komanso zinthu zoterezi ziyenera kusinthika mokwanira, zimachokera kwa chuma cha mwana ndikusintha pakapita nthawi. Chifukwa chake timachirikiza mwana, timaphunzira kuti kungokhala pawokha komanso kusasinthasintha. Imapanga udindo pazomwe amachita, amaphunzitsa "pali njovu m'magawo" - sinthani mavuto.
Ana ochokera ku Mabanja Omwe Mitundu Iwiri Yolamulira Amagwiritsidwa Ntchito Ikugwiritsa Ntchito Mavuto A Makampani Oipa, Mowa ndi Mankhwala Ogwiritsa Ntchito Mankhwala Osiyanasiyana, Ngakhale Palibe Makolo Oyandikira, Amalankhula Zabwino Gulu - Amakhala lingaliro la kuchita zinthu zasayansi, mwachitsanzo. Nthawi zambiri ndimavutika ndi kukhumudwa, matenda a neurosis komanso kusokonekera. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna ana a ana anu - mudziwanso zoyenera kuchita.
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, ndi chiyani chinanso cha psychology? Werengani! Kodi mungadziyamikire bwanji - malingaliro a psychologak kuti muzimuzindikira - malingaliro kwa psychotherapistasm kwa mwana amafunikira bambo? Kuchokera pamalingaliro a psychotherararapt kukhala, ngati mutakhala mchikondi "osati"? Malangizo a psychorarapist