Ndikufuna kuti achikulire kapena ayi, amakonda kapena ayi, achinyamata amagonana. Ndipo inu simungathe kuchita chilichonse pa izi. Koma mutha kuwaphunzitsa kutetezedwa ndi kufunsa kuti mnzanuyo avomereze. Koma kodi ndi zachiwerewere nthawi zonse - kodi ukukhudza kugonana? Kodi zolinga zakugonana achinyamata ndi chifukwa chogonana?
Tiyeni tiyesetse kudziwa kuti, kuphatikiza pa kugonana, zikhumbo, chilakolako chofuna kusangalala ndi thupi lanu, kuwonjezera pa chikondi ndi munthu wina wolankhulana.
Zomwe zili pamwamba
- Chikhumbo chofuna kuvomerezedwa ndi gululi - abwenzi, atsikana, kalasi, atsogoleri. "Nanga bwanji sunatero? ..." Ndipo mudakhala ndi atsikana angati? " "Ndidakali namwali ?!"- Chidwi.
- Kwa kampaniyo. Chani? Kodi mudachitapo kanthu kena kake? Sanasambe usiku? Sanasute? Sanamwe? Sanazindikire ku konsati kapena kuphwando? Sanaseka ngati wamisala? Ndipo sanathetsedwe mokhazikika, amathanso kugonana ka kampaniyo (kusonkhanitsa achinyamata omwe ali pachiwopsezo, ndiloleni ine pa kampani yonse).
Ndipo ngati mumatha mwakuya? Kodi chimawankha achinyamata "m'mabatani a kugonana"?
Kuti mufune kuvomerezedwa ndi anzawo (osati kuti akhale othamangitsira munthawi yake) nthawi zambiri pamakhala nkhawa kwathunthu m'zaka.
Pazomwe nkhawa zikugwiridwa ntchito m'mbuyomu, wanena kuti waluso a Abrayava:
"Achinyamata amakula. Amakula mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro. Pakadali m'badwo uno, mahomoni "amatumiza ndi mphamvu yoopsa." Thupi limasintha, kuthana ndi zatsopano zosadziwika, ndikufuna kena kake. "Mabuleki sagwira ntchito." Izi zimaphatikizidwa ndi kutopa kwakuthupi komanso kopitilira muyeso nthawi imodzi. Chiwiri choyambirira salimbana nawo.
Zikuwoneka kuti amadziona kuti ndiopanda ulemu, limodzi nawo limodzi ndi iwo kuti aziopa zolakwa zakuthupi, mantha a infnvency.
Ndipo ndikufuna kuvomerezedwa, kukhala "pamlingo", ndikufuna kukhala "ngati wina aliyense."
Ndipo makolowa amadziwika kuti ali ochepa nthawi imodzi ...
... ndipo sakhala okonzeka kudziyimira pawokha, koma amafunikira, koma chifukwa choopa ana asanakulitse ana (osasowa m'miyoyo yawo) akuwonjezeka, kapena kuwakhumudwitsa ndi nkhawa zawo.
Inde, makolo nthawi zambiri amakwiyitsa ana pogonana moyambirira: mantha awo asanakhale ndi HIV asanakhale ndi kachirombo ka HIV, polephera kukambirana za izi, kusunga zoyesa zawo kuti azigonana.
Kugonana nthawi zambiri kumakhala koyambitsa nkhawa. "
Kotero kugonana ngati Kuchepetsa kuchepetsa kumatanthauza.
Kugonana monga kudzipereka: Aliyense amauzidwa, koma ndilibe chondichitikira, monga zaka zayandikira kale, koma sindikudziwa. "
Kugonana ngati chizolowezi chaukalamba.
Kugonana ngati barnquible. Tikulankhula za kusokonezeka kudzera mu kugonana.
Kugonana ngati psychostimulator . Zolankhula za kuthawa kuchokera ku zenizeni: wina amamwa, wina amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, wina akuchita zogonana.
Kugonana ndi kunyoza chilichonse ndi chilichonse chimapangitsa ntchito yawo.
Kugonana ndi kusanza kwa anyamata kapena akazi omwe ali pachikhalidwe chachikulu komanso kutsatsa kwa moyo (komwe kuli moyo waukulu) kumayikidwa ngati mtundu wofunikira wa munthu. Kuzindikira kwawo kumayamba kuchuluka, kupezeka kwa chiwerewere - muyeso wachuma - muyeso.Chikhumbo ndi kukonzekera kugonana ndikofanana ndi chikondi. Maubwenzi okhala ndi pansi pamunsi samaletsedwa popanda kugonana ndikuchepetsa.
Kugonana kumatenga nawo gawo lodziyimira pawokha. Ndi zotsatira zonse zomwe zikutsatira, monga cholinga, i.e., ndikufanizira amayi ndi atsikana mthupi ngati munthu wogonana, komanso amuna omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi "mphamvu". Nanga, zimapangitsa kuti pakhale kulephera kumanga ubale wanu ndi kukhala muubwenzi.
Kira Weber, anddagog, ophunzitsira ammudzi, omenchete:
"Achinyamata a kugonana koyambirira amakankha nthawi zambiri kufuna kulankhulana molankhulirana, umodzi, kufuna kudzipeza pankhaniyi. Ichi ndiye chofunikira kwambiri kukwaniritsa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, ndipo pali zambiri. Pazovuta zogonana ndi zolaula, achinyamata akufuna kukwaniritsa izi "osati malo."
Zingadzetse chiyani? Kugonana ndi njira yabwino yolankhulirana (kudziwa kalosa katswiri wa katswiri wa katswiri wa zamaganizidwe a Likhail Litvavaka). Ndiye kuti, mtheradi wapamwamba kwambiri, ndipo ndi ubale wambiri. Ngati kugonana kumachitika pamaziko olimba mtima ndipo adapanga maubale, osati chifukwa cholumikizana ndi mgwirizano, amatsitsa - m'malo molumikiza. "
Kugonana ngati cholowa m'malo mwa chikondi ndi ubwenzi
Ludzu la kutentha, kutenga nawo mbali - kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe - kumatha kukhutira chifukwa cha kuyandikira kwa thupi. Ndipo tikulankhula za mwana wosachedwa kubereka m'banjamo, komanso zomverera zosawoneka ndi kupatukana kwachilengedwe.
Matenda ochulukirapo amasungulumwa, munthu akakhala wopanda abwenzi apamtima, "angamkakamiza kuti andilipirire.
Kulephera kukhala abwenzi ndipo ambiri amalankhulana movuta ndi kugonana kwadzuwa kungapangitsenso kugonana kokhazikika.
Kulephera kukhala abwenzi ndi vuto lodziwika bwino la ana amakono. Makalasi a Ana ambiri (zonse chifukwa cha chitukuko ndi maphunziro abwino), kusowa kwa moyo wopupuluma komanso "wotsekedwa" m'mizinda yayikulu kunangika pakati pa ana.
Kuyankhulana kwa ana komwe kumachitika pakati pa ana kumachitika m'makalasi ambiri kuti agwiritsidwe ntchito, osati chifukwa chomvera chisoni komanso kungoyanjana kapena kukondana kapena ana akakhala zaka zambiri.
Anawo akadzakula, zimakaonekera kuti mtsikanayo akufunika, ndipo adatani naye, mnyamatayo sakudziwa ...
Mawonekedwe okonda
Nthawi yomweyo, mnyamata wamba adaphunzitsidwa kuti ayenera kukwaniritsa, kukwaniritsa, kupambana. Kuthana ndi nkhondo nthawi zonse, nkhondo, nkhondo ndi imodzi mwazoyambira zamphongo. Kugonana kwa anyamata ndi malo omenyera nkhondo, arena kuti akwaniritse.Katswiri wazamisala Harry Colman:
"Anyamatawa amati ndi anthu ambiri, ndipo chifukwa chokhala ndi chuma m'malo mwathu, ndiye kuti zonse zimabwera kudzagonana kapena kuchita zinthu zapamwamba, ndipo ndizosafunikira - kenako -" Osati munthu. "
Atsikana amagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zina kukhala oleza mtima, okoma mtima, amatsatira. Mpaka pano, atsikana ambiri akuwala okha, komanso amuna, kukhalapo kwa munthu m'moyo wamoyo kumatsimikizira kusasinthika kwa mayiyo.
Ndipo msungwanayo kuti azindikire kwa anyamata, otsika ... kapena sadziwa momwe angapewere kukakamizidwa. "
Katswiri wazamisala Takemova:
Ngakhale kwa amuna oganiza bwino nthawi zina zimachitika kuti ndi vumbulutso kuti kuphwanya malire ndi chiwawa. Amadabwa, akuganiza kuti izi ndizabwinobwino - kukakamizidwa komanso kuzunzidwa nthawi zonse. Pamwamba pa atsikanawo amalankhula kufunika kogwirizana ndi zotengera zina. Kukopa kwakunja ndi mphamvu yayikulu ya kukwezedwa ndi chidziwitso. Mwatsoka. "
Zoyenera kuchita nazo - ndi kuti ana amagonana?
Palibe. Mwana wakula. Mutha kutulutsa makondomu ndikungonena zoopsa. Ndi kukhazikitsa malamulowo. Pepani, kambiranani. "Ikani" ndi achinyamata sadzadutsa.
Kodi zoopsa izi ndi ziti?
1. Chiwopsezo chokhala ndi pakati wosafunidwa.
2. Chiwopsezo chotenga matenda ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana.
3. Chiwopsezo chotenga kachirombo ka HIV.
Ngongole ya zoopsa izi ndi onse awiri!
Komanso:
1. Chiwopsezo chogwiriridwa kwa atsikana.
2. Chiwopsezo chogwiriridwa kwa mnyamatayo.
3. Chiwopsezo chokhala wokonda mnyamatayo.
Udindo wa ngozizi nthawi zonse umakhala wogwiririra!
Kodi ndi malamulo ati omwe angakhale?
1. Makondomu, ngakhale njira zina zodzitetezera zimagwiritsidwa ntchito.
2. Kuvomereza mawu. Kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza kuti "Ayi" sichoncho. Ndipo kuti kusazindikira "inde" ndi "ayi". Izi zili choncho makamaka kwa anyamata.
3. Ndipo anyamata - musanyengerere, musapereke, "Ayi" sichoncho.
4. Ngati simukufuna, ngati mukuopa, ngati mukufuna, ngati simukonda malowo, ngati simuli, musatero. Izi ndizowona makamaka kwa atsikana. Ngati mnyamatayo akhumudwitsidwa ndi "ayi" - simuli ndi udindo pazomwe akumvera. Ngati akuwopseza kuti asiye "kukhala abwenzi" pambuyo pokana (kapena kuwopseza china chake) ndichabechabe, ndipo signal sikoyenera komanso osayenera. Ndi osatetezeka.
5. "Ayi" angatanthauze zonse zogonana komanso kuzikhulupirira.
6. Zoyenera, kugonana kokha chifukwa cha mutu wa sober. Munthu yemwe amamwa mowa amasintha mosazindikira, palibe funso la chilolezo chosazindikira komanso kuvomereza komwe kumatha kupita. Mtsikanayo adamwa - osakhudza. Ndinamwa ndekha - ndikanatero ayi. Adamwa iye yekha - samamatira. Msungwana wamwazi - nenani ayi.
7. Kugonana kokha pansi pazinthu wamba - ndi manja oyera ndi matupi okhudzana ndi kugonana panyumba yoyera pa ma sheet oyera.
Mukufuna kapena ayi, achinyamata amagonana. Ndipo zabwino koposa ndi momwe mumaganizira izi. Komanso zosintha pafupipafupi za makondomu apamwamba kwambiri m'thumba kapena chikwama mwa mwana ndikukambirana malamulo omveka bwino okonda kugonana.
Mafanizo: Shuttlando