Ndi gawo la zovuta m'mabanja, ambiri amayamba kumanga mapulani a chisudzulo, osayesa kupulumutsa ukwati. Komabe, chisudzulocho ndi gawo lalikulu, ndipo ziyenera kuchitidwa pang'onopang'ono, mosamala komanso momasuka komanso "ndi" kutsutsana ". Ukwati ndi mgwirizano wa anthu ena osiyanasiyana, ndi zovuta zomwe zikuchitika - zachilengedwe. Pofuna kuti tisapute mitu, koma kuti timvetsetse ngati chisudzulo chifunika kwenikweni, chingodzitchulira mafunso 9.
1. Kodi ndimafunikira chisudzulo kapena ndikufuna ubale wosiyana ndi mnzanga?
Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati paukwati wa wachisoni ndi ukwati, womwe sudzasunga chilichonse. Mabanja nthawi zambiri amabwera kwa akatswiri azamisala omwe ali ndi mavuto ndipo omwe sangathetse popanda thandizo lililonse. Ngati muukwati wanu simugwirizana ndi chiyanjano pachokha, koma nthawi yomweyo munthu wa misewu ndipo mukufuna kukhala naye, ndiye kuti muyenera kugwirira ntchito zolakwa zanu ndikukambirana chilichonse. Kumbukirani kuti, chisudzulo ndichofanana kwambiri.2. Kodi mumawonjezera thandizo kwa akatswiri ndikuyesera kuthana ndi maubale?
Tsoka ilo, mankhwalawa amapulumutsa nthawi zonse amapereka zotsatira zomwe ndikufuna, koma ngati katswiri akapanda kuthandiza - ichi sichiri chifukwa chotsitsa manja ake. Ndikotheka kuti katswiri wosankhidwa sikokwanira chidziwitso ndi luso lothandizira - mutha kuyesa kusankha psychothepist. Komanso, aliyense wa iwo ali ndi njira zake. Ndipo, mwa njira, ngati katswiri akunena kuti ukwati sungathe kupulumutsidwa - zasinthidwa.
Komabe, ngakhale kwa katswiri wa kalasi yoyamba sayenera kuyembekezera zochitika zamatsenga - mphamvu ya machitidwe ake gawo lalikulu limadalira inu. Onse awiri ayenera kukhala otseguka ndipo okonzeka kusintha. Ukwati umakhala ndi mwayi uliwonse wobwereza pokhapokha ngati ochita nawo nawowo akufuna kukhala limodzi komanso kumverera momasuka kwa wina ndi mnzake.
3. Kapena mwina zovuta zambiri zidagwera posachedwapa?
Mayeso akulu ndi zovuta kwambiri posachedwapa kapena pambuyo pake zimabwera ngakhale kwa awiriawiri. Amphamvu ndi otchulidwa anthu, mavuto azachuma, kuwonongeka kwa ntchito imodzi mwazomwezi, mavuto okhala ndi pakati, etc. Izi zikafika, chiopsezo cha chisudzulo chikukula kwambiri. Ngati moyo wanu wadzazidwa ndi kupsinjika, ndiye kuti mavuto ang'onoang'ono mu chibwenzicho chidzawoneka kuti chachikulu komanso chosasinthika - kupsinjika, munthu amasiya kuganiza mwanzeru.Chifukwa chake, ngati malingaliro osudzulana adayendera ndi zovuta - musafulumire ndi lingaliro, amvetsetse vuto la mutu wozizira. Kuphatikiza apo, ndinu gulu, komanso mgululi kuti muthane ndi mavuto ambiri.
4. Kodi ndimazindikira kulakwa kwanga?
Mu mikangano iliyonse, zonse ziwiri ndizodzudzula onse, ndipo zilibe kanthu kuti, makamaka, mnzake amachita ndi momwemo. Palibe anthu angwiro komanso osalakwa kwathunthu, makamaka muubwenzi. Ndikosavuta kuyesa zomwe mwachita - mwina pena pake, musamasunge mawu anu, pangani zovuta zomwe zikuchitika, kenako ndikukhumudwitsidwa ndi chikumbumtima cha mnzake, chomwe sichikukhumudwitsidwa ndi mnzake.
Zindikirani mlandu wanu - sizitanthauza kudziimba mlandu mu mavuto onse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, khalani ndi udindo pamawu anu, zochita zanu, ndipo mnzanuyo ayenera kukhala ndi udindo wake. Kuzindikira komwe kunapangidwa cholakwika, mutha kupanga mapulani owongolera zinthu.
5. Kodi ukwatiwu poyamba udali kulakwitsa, kapena kodi kuchitapo kanthu kunali pamavuto?
Pali zochitika ngati mabanja omwe ali mbanja ndi omwe sanakonzekere maukwati, okha omwe samamvetsetsa. Chifukwa cha izi, mavuto awo amatuluka kuyambira pachiyambi cha moyo wabanja. Izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri pamene mgwirizano ukujambulidwa mwachangu ndipo onse analibe nthawi yophunzira momwe amathandizira. Kapena, ukwati utachitidwa chifukwa cha mimba yosakonzekera, pamene achibale onse amakakamizidwa pa zovomerezeka. Ngati ndi mlandu wanu, ndiye kuti musudzule, ingomvetsetsa phunziro lofunika kwambiri mtsogolo ndikuyesera kuti musamangoyang'ana.Ngati lingaliro laukwati lidapangidwa moyenera, atakhala paubwenzi wautali ndipo lingaliro silidakhudzire anthu a anthu achitatu, tsopano, tsopano, ndi nthawi ya mavuto, mukungofuna kugwiritsa ntchito zolakwa zanu komanso Mvetsetsani kuti sizidakali mnzanu "wolakwika".
6. Ngati chifukwa chosudzulana mwa kugonana kosauka, kodi panali kuyesayesa kokonza zonse?
Kuti athane ndi mavuto m'moyo wa moyo wapamtima, sikofunikira kulumikizana ndi akatswiri. Mavuto a pulani oterewa amathetsedwa bwino ndi gawo la awiri. Pamene ziwerengero zimawonetsa, maanja omwe ali ogwirizana moyenera pankhaniyi, nthawi zonse pamakhala china chake chokha ndipo sicholandirika kwa wina. Kumayambiriro kwa maubale, kugonana nthawi zambiri kumasinthana nthawi zonse, koma chaka chilichonse kumakhala kovuta kwambiri - koma ndikosavuta kukonza.
Lankhulani ndi wokondedwayo modziwikiratu, mwanzeru ndiuzeni kuti simukukhutira komanso zomwe mukufuna kusintha. Mverani Iwo. Pofuna kuti kukambirana upatse bwino, muyenera kukhala osachita bwino, osamunamizira kuti musadzudzule. Kusudzulana chifukwa chakugonana moyenera si chifukwa chabwino kwambiri. Kupatula apo, kuti asinthe pankhaniyi ndikukhazikitsa kuti muyambe kugonana mosavuta kuposa kuyang'ana mzimu wophunzitsidwa.
7. Kodi zoyembekezera zanga za moyo wabanja ndi banja sizikudalira kwambiri?
Munthawi ya wogula komanso nthawi yogula, awiriwo amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi mawonekedwe a wina ndi mnzake, zomwe zimawoneka ngati zikhala choncho. Mwamuna amapatsa mlungu uliwonse kupatsa maluwa, kulankhula kuyamikiridwa, kununkhiza mu mafuta onunkhira, ndipo mkaziyo amakhala pansi pa parade, alore kuyeretsa ukhondo m'nyumba ndikuphika ukhondo mnyumba ndikuphika. Ndipo zokhumudwitsa bwanji pamene zonse zili ndi kulondola kwake. Ndipo zonse chifukwa moyo wolumikizana sulinso holide ya tsiku ndi tsiku.Powononga gawo lake mu ubale wa zoyembekezera sizikhala kofalikira. Mzimayi akukonzekera kuti ngakhale atakwatirana, adzatha kupanga ntchito, yambiri yodzivulaza ndikukhala ndi ndandanda yake. Panthawiyo, theka la tsiku kuti liyime pa slab, ndikulimbikitsa msuzi ndi dzanja limodzi, wina kuti aphunzitse zomwe mwana amaphunzitsa ndi mwana. Sizokayikitsa kuti wina amayembekeza kwenikweni izi kuchokera ku mgwirizano.
Ambiri pamutu wa banja komanso mnzake ndi zomwe tikuyembekezera kwambiri, ndiye ndiyenera kuyang'ana pamutu. Ngati simunakonzekere banja kukhala limodzi, ndiye kuti mwina simunakhwimali ukwati, sianthu onse omwe ali ndi nyumba yosungiramo banja, ndipo palibe amene angaimbe mlandu.
8. Ndipo alipo gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu?
Pamene kung'ambika mu chibwenzi chinabuka chifukwa cholakwira ena, kukopana, malo ochezera - munthu ndi wovuta kwambiri kumvetsetsa komwe ndi momwe mungayenderere. Ndipo chinthu choyamba chomwe muyenera kuyankha - sichinali chochita kusakhulupirika kumeneku mwa kufunitsitsa "kuthawa" zomwe zili mu ubale? Nthawi zambiri, ndikuululira bwino ndi inu, yankho la funsoli ndi labwino. Pakakhala mavuto ambiri pabanja m'banjamo, ndipo okwatiranawa adayiwala chifukwa cha chikondi. Zikuwoneka kuti ubalewo wafika kumapeto. Ndipo kotero ndikufuna zachikondi ndi malingaliro achikondi ...
Wokonda / wokondayo amakupatsani chikondi chodzala ndi wachinyamata, chomwe chikuyenda patsiku, ndikuyembekezera msonkhano wotsatira. Koma musanaganize za chisudzulo chifukwa cha "chikondi" chatsopano ndichofunika kuyang'ana pa ziwerengero. Pafupifupi 75% ya maubale "kumbali" osayamba kukhala chinthu chachikulu. Nthawi zambiri, kumadzinyenga okha, kumachitika ngakhale chifukwa cha chifukwa chomwe ndimakonda munthu wina, koma chifukwa cha ludzu la chinthu chatsopano. Komabe, ndizotheka kupirira izi muukwati, mwakutumiza kakuda kwanu kwamkati kuti ubale womwe ulipo kale.
9. Kodi ndimakonda mkazi wanga?
Chikondi sichimatsimikizira kuti maubale adzakonzedwa kukhala 100%, koma pali mwayi wina ndi icho. Ngati mukukumana ndi mnzanu wocheperako, ndiye kuti simuyenera kutaya ubale - ingoyesani kumenya nkhondo, ndipo nthawi zonse mudzakhala ndi nthawi yothira.