"Chifukwa chiyani mwasweka?" "Ndikupempha wazakanema kwambiri," "sanagwirizane ndi otchulidwa." Ndikukumbukira nthawi yomwe adakumana. Amakhumudwitsidwa ndi thupi kudzera m'khosi lakuya komanso kuchokera pansi pa mini mini yomwe adangochititsidwa khungu, komwe anali "kuwona" mawonekedwe ake ... ndipo
- Chifukwa chiyani mwasiyana? - Ili ndi funso lopanda mawu. Ife, hammester, maubale apadera. Ndife okonda bwino. Chikondi chimatifinya, kudya mafomu okongola kwambiri, ife ... - Ndikufuna yankho linalake ... - Adayesa kundiwononga pomwe sitinadyetse nthawi.
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- Battyhishka, adalitsike chisudzulo ... - Chifukwa chiyani mwakwatirana, mwana wanga wamkazi? - Inde, apa, wopusa anali ... Mukuwona, iye, Duru, adakwatirana, ndipo inu mumatha.
Chifukwa chiyani, tidagawana?
Zifukwa zake zimatchedwa mitundu yonse ya: kutaya mtima, zokonda zosiyanasiyana, zakuthupi, zachiwerewere, zosokoneza bongo, zosokoneza bongo, kutchova juga, kutcherako, etc.
M'malingaliro mwanga, zonsezi pamwambapa sizomwe zimayambitsa, koma chiwonetsero, zotsatira zake ndizotsatira zenizeni.
Tsopano sitiwona milandu yomwe imagwirizana, kugawana malingaliro a mayiko, kuimilira pazinthu zomwe atriarchate, amazunzidwa kwambiri.
Tilankhula za wamba, zabwinoko kuchokera ku malingaliro a munthu wamba, maubale a abambo ndi amai, omwe tili nanu, makamaka ndipo ali.
Choyamba, zotsatira za ubale wapakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi zimakhala zogwirizana kwambiri, zonse, komanso mayi ndi mkazi akuyika ndalama (zotsatira), ngakhale zitangochita zambiri.
Chifukwa chake, bambo sangafune kupirira zamkhutu wamkazi, ndipo mkazi safunanso kulemekeza mwamunayo ndi kumusamalira. China chilichonse ndi chotsatira.
Ndimayang'anatu kuti zinthu zomwe zikuchitikazi zitakhala kuti, zofuna zathu, ndiye kuti, munthu amalephera kumva kuti akufuna kuyanjana. Kunja kwathu kumangotsala pang'ono kufa ngati vuto losasokonekera.
Kuphatikiza apo, nthawi zambiri timaphwanya malamulo ofunikira paubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi yemwe angafotokoze ena chonchi: Ngati munthu akufuna kuyandikana ndi mkazi, ayenera kumukwatira; Ngati mkazi akufuna kukwatiwa, sayenera kukana mwamuna wake mwakuna.
Chochitika chapadera pa malamulo onse amoyo ndi chakuti amawaganizira popanda malingaliro athu (ngakhale tikukhulupirira kuti aliko kapena ayi, timawaganizira, Pitilizani kuchitapo kanthu komanso kukhala ndi chisonkhezero chake pa ife.
Kuphatikiza apo, nthawi zambiri timayiwala kapena sindikudziwa konse kuti mwamunayo ndi mkaziyo adapangidwa kuti azitsamirana, osapikisana wina ndi mnzake.
Ambiri aife m'chiwongola dzanja "ubale" ukhoza kulemba momasuka kuti: "Nthawi zonse ndimapeza." Kupatula apo, maubale awo adamangidwa pazifukwa.
Ambiri aife sitikhala wokonzeka ndipo sindikufuna kuyanjana ndi mtima wonse, safuna 'kugwira ntchito' pa iwo, kusintha. Ambiri a ife timavomereza kusankha kwa chidwi tikamasintha motsogozedwa ndi mahomoni, pomwe simuyenera kuchita chilichonse, kuti muchite chilichonse, chifukwa cha kutanthauza kuti "Perpeneum khalani ndi wina ndi mnzake komanso ngati ubale umakhala wosangalatsa.
Nthawi zambiri sitikhala okonzekera moyo weniweniwo komanso pomwe zochita za mahomoni zikangogwetsa, "timazindikira" kuti wopusa, komanso wopusa, ndi wopanda pake, ndipo pambali pake , "mbuzi".
Mkazi: - Ndakupatsani zaka zabwino kwambiri pamoyo wanga! Mamuna: - Chotsani kumbuyo, sindinayigwiritse ntchito!
Mitima yathu yasiyanitsidwa, pakati pathu imakula khomalo ndipo timakakamizidwa kufuula.
Timayiwala kuti abambo ndi amai ndi osiyana, akunena kuti ngakhale ndi mapulaneti osiyanasiyana.
Mkazi: - Inu, amuna, ogonana okha ndi osowa, ndipo ife, akazi, muyenera kuwayang'anira ... Mamuna: - chidwi! Tsopano padzakhala kugonana!
Ndife opanda ungwiro, koma titha kuchita chilichonse kuchokera kwa ife zimatengera ubale.
Choyamba, muyenera kusankha nokha komanso ndi mnzanu wamtsogolo (o), kuti mgwirizano wanu ndi "wowona mtima ndi woona mtima!"
Kachiwiri, pachiyambipo, muyenera kuvomereza kuti vuto lililonse liyenera kukambirana ndi kuwululidwa. Mavuto onse komanso chisangalalo ziyenera kuthetsedwa kuti zitheke limodzi.
Chachitatu, maubale ayenera kukhala ovomerezeka: muyenera kukwatiwa. Mu Cohabition, mkazi ndi "probe", monga mu dipatimenti yonunkhira, omwe amasuntha kuti asankhe, "kutenga kapena kusatenga". Mu cohabitation, ndi mkazi pachiwopsezo chachikulu. Kuti tisunge ndalama komanso kukhulupirika ndidzawonjezera kuti munthu amakhala wopanda nkhawa muukwati - choncho tili ndi zaka zapafupi mubanja. Koma ichi sichiri chifukwa ...
Chachinayi, "Mukufuna chibwenzi champhamvu, kenako pezanina wina ndi mnzake, kenako ndikugona.
Anthu anzeru kwambiri azikhala ndi malo okwera kwambiri kuposa kugonana, kuti azilankhulana ndi malingaliro a munthu wina wachigololo.
Ndi nzeru za Sefey. Malinga ndi Diana Rabb, dokotala wa nzeru za psychology, ubongo ndi thupi lalikulu kwambiri. Pulofesa Jeffrey Miller akuti pali zinthu monga chilankhulo, nthabwala komanso nzeru zasintha m'malingaliro onse awiri, chifukwa anali okongola ogonana onse awiri.
Chisangalalo chogonana chimakhala chosiyana kwambiri kotero kuti musafotokoze mawu. Mphamvu yosangalatsa kwambiri yomwe ife, anthu, tili nafe, tikutha kuganiza, tangoganizirani.
Chifukwa chake, musathamangira kukagona, werengani limodzi, werengani zopeka, onjezerani luntha lanu, sinthani mphamvu yanu kuti mukwaniritse masewera, sayansi, kuvina, ndi zina zovina, zina. Werengani zomwe agogo a astaud omwe amachedwa.
Nanga tili ndi chiyani?
Ife, mwa kwathu, sikuti konse mofuula komanso kusunga ubale. Takhazikitsidwa kwathunthu pa TV yathu ndipo tinali kukwaniritsidwa ndi mphamvu zosavuta, zomwe zimakhalapo, zogonana. Chidziwitso chochuluka kwambiri cha mzimu. Ndipo tikuyamba kudziwa thupi la linalo, osasuntha solo.
Maubale omwe amapangidwa pa mtima (kungokhala ndi malingaliro kokha pamaziko awo) adzawonongedwa. Mwa njira, pulofesa wa psychology Lisa Feldman Barles akuti zimati zimakhudzanso, izi ndi zomwe timadzipanga, zomwe sitingathe kupita kulikonse.
Chifukwa chake, zonse zili m'manja mwathu, mu mphamvu yathu. Ndipo ngakhale tikhumba kudzipanga tokha.