Pezani masana anu masana aliwonse amalota. Ena amakhala pazaka zambiri, akuyembekezera "kalonga" wamaloto awo: Wanzeru, wokoma mtima, ndi zina zotero. Koma zimachitika kuti osankhidwa koteroko anali atakwatirana kale. Komanso, ana adangokhala kuchokera ku banja lapitalo (kapena angapo).
Kumanga maubale ndi bambo - abambo siophweka kwambiri. Kupatula apo, kusiya naye, mkazi ayenera kulimbikirana ndi mwana wake, ndipo nthawi zina ndi mkazi wake wakale.
Kulowa maubwenzi oterowo, nthawi yomweyo muyenera kuyankha moona mtima nkhani zina zofunika. Kodi mungakonde mwana wa munthu wina? Kodi mwakonzeka kuyandikira ndi mfundo yoti yosankhidwa yanu idzagwira gawo la sabata ndi tchuthi ndi ana awo popanda inu? Kodi mwakonzeka kudzipereka muubwenzi uno ndi chiyani? Ndi choti mubwere nawo? Ndikofunika kupewa zolakwika zazikulu zomwe azimayi amavomereza zoterezi. Zonsezi ndikuyankhulanso zina.
Choyamba muyenera kuzindikira kuti wosankhidwa wanu sudzakhala maola makumi awiri ndi anayi patsiku okha. Ali ndi ntchito zina za Atate, amene iye, monga munthu wodalirika komanso wokonda ana ake, ayenera kukwaniritsa. Kusudzulana ndi mayi wa mwana sikutanthauza kuti mwamunayo ndi mfulu kwathunthu. Kuti akhale ndi udindo kwa ana awo ndikuwasamalira, iye akadali wokakamizidwa. Ndipo ngati mnzanuyo abwera motere, amadziwika kuti ndiomwe angawone bwino. Funso ndilakuti ngati mwakonzeka kuchita zinthu zoterezi?
Ngati yankho lake ndi loipa, ndiye kuti silimveka kupitiliza ubalewo. Mwina mudzakhala ndi mantha nthawi zonse bambo wanu akakhala nanu. Kapena yesani kuwononga ubale wake ndi ana kuti aletse misonkhano yofananayo (mwatsoka, machitidwe oterewa ndiofala). Omaliza ali achisoni aliyense aliyense.
Ngati simukusokoneza kuti muyenera kugawana mwamunayo ndi ana ake, ndiye kuti mutha kuyembekezera "zovuta" zina. Ngakhale a Bapulors safuna kuyambitsa zosankha zanu mwachangu ndi abale anu. Iwo omwe ali ndi ana ochokera m'maukwati akale, amachepetsa nthawi yayitali yopezekanso kwa nthawi yayitali. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri pa izi.
Zofala kwambiri - mantha kulepheretsa ana awo. Ngakhale mutatha kuugwiritsa ntchito makolo, ana ambiri amakhulupirira kuti abambo ndi amayi awo akadali limodzi. Muyenera kudikirira. Ndipo ngati mkazi watsopano akuwonekera m'moyo wa Atate, ndiye maloto awa sayenera kuchitika. Nthawi zambiri pakati pa mkazi watsopano ndi ana a bambo wina kuchokera ku banja lapitalo limayamba kukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Nthawi zambiri zonse zimachitika chimodzimodzi. Ndi kupewa zoterezi, munthu womaliza womaliza womaliza. Chifukwa amamvetsetsa - padzakhala mavuto ambiri kumbuyo ichi.
Chifukwa china chosatha kudziwira mkazi ndi ana awo ndikuti mwamunayo sakudziwa zakukhosi kwawo. Nthawi ina adamwalira kale. Ndipo tsopano akufuna onetsetsani kuti zana, lomwe silinalakwitsa. Ndipo mpaka pano nthawi ino ikuwona tanthauzo la kudziwa mkazi wokhala ndi ana - mwadzidzidzi palibe chomwe chidzachitika? Ndipo angadziwe kuchuluka kwa kusankha kwake kusadziwika.
Khalani oyembekezera pomwe mnzanu ndi ana ake "okhwima" akukumana nanu, sangathenso mkazi aliyense. Zowona kuti mukubisala kwa abale, si aliyense amene amakonda. Kodi mumakhala oleza mtima kwambiri kuyembekezera chibwenzi ndi amuna anu amphongo?
Chinthu cha zinthucho ndichofunikira muubwenzi uliwonse - ngakhale wina akanena kuti sichoncho. Poyamba kulowa maubale ndi ana, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti gawo lawo la ndalama zipitilira. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti malo odyera ndi ma cafs, mphatso zamtengo wapatali komanso maluwa, komanso maulendo oyendera alendo, ngati kuli kofunikira, kupereka ndalama zogwiritsidwa ntchito chifukwa cha zosowa za ana. Inde, ndipo bajeti yodziwika bwino pamwezi, yokhala ndi moyo wolumikizana, iphatikizanso nkhani yogwiritsidwa ntchito pabanja lakale. Ndizotheka kuti china chake chiziyenera kudzidalira - sichakupanga azimayi ambiri. Ndipo ngati banja latsopano lidzaonekera mu banja latsopanoli, lomwe lidzafunikiranso ndalama, zinthu zofunika kuzipeza mwapadera.
Funso loti padzakhala malo okhudzana ndi mwana wamba muubwenzi wanu, muyenera kuyang'anitsitsa. Ngati muli, ndipo wosankhidwa wanu wazindikira kufunika kwa ubalewo komanso wokonzeka kutsanulira mwalamulo, ndikofunikira kuphunzira kale, ndipo ngati munthu akufuna ana ambiri. Nthawi zambiri yankho la funsoli ndi loipa. Mwamunayo, atazindikira m'banja lakale, kuti mwanayo si chidole, sangafune kukhala olowa nawo. Ndipo ngati watsopano watsopano akulota za banja lalikulu ndi ana, padzakhala mkangano wosangalatsa. Chifukwa chake, funso lotere lokhudza ana amtsogolo ndi zofunika kunyadira pomwe zingatheke.
Ngati mphindi zonse zapitazi siziyambitsa mavuto, ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndikutha kulumikizana ndi ana, mwina ndi mkazi wakale. Ngati ana ali ochepa kwambiri, ndiye kuti kucheza nawo ndi zinthu mosavuta kuposa kwa achinyamata. Koma amayi awo nthawi zambiri amaphatikizidwa ndi ana aang'ono. Koma sindimatha kuyenderana ndi mkazi waluso. Ngati azimayi onsewa amakonzedwa osati kujambulidwa kwa wina ndi mnzake - ndibwino. Kupanda kutero, mtundu woyenera kwambiri umakhala waulemu, koma wovomerezeka. Ndipo osadandaula ndi munthu kuti amvetsetse mgwirizano ndi mkazi wake wakale. Amuna sakonda kusokoneza mikangano ya akazi. Kukuthandizani, sadzakuthandizani. Koma zimadziona kuti simungapeze njira yoyenera.
Pezani kuchokera m'masiku oyambirira a m'chinenerocho ndi ana a munthu wanu ndizovuta kwambiri. Izi zimafunikira nthawi yambiri komanso kudekha, kuthekera kudutsa mikangano ndi kunyalanyaza, komanso mikhalidwe ina yambiri ya mayi wanzeru yemwe angasungire chitonthozo cha banja komanso bata. Zolakwika ndi zovuta panjira imeneyi sizingapeweke. Koma ngati zonse zili zodetsa chilichonse, mphothoyo idzakhala banja lalikulu. Ndipo, inde, bambo wokondedwa wayandikira.
Zonsezi pamwambapa zimagwirizana ndi zomwe zimachitika kwa ana osakhala ndi amayi ake, koma ndi abambo ake. Kusiyana kokha ndikuti simuyenera kulankhulana ndi mkazi wakale wa mwamuna wanu. Koma, poganiza zokhala limodzi, mudzayesa gawo la amayi opezawo ndipo mudzayamba kusamalira otchi osati osankhidwa anu okha, komanso za ana ake.
Pali lingaliro kuti ndikosavuta kumanga ubale ndi munthu wamkulu yemwe kale anali mbanja nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi omwe sanakwatirane. Amakhulupirira kuti munthu akalawa zosangalatsa komanso zolakwika zonse za banja zidziwa momwe angapewere zolakwika mtsogolo. Ndipo munthu wamkulu wokhala ndi chikhalidwe chotchuka, omwe alibe zokumana nazo, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kumanga ubale wolimba. Ndipo pano kulephera kuti asapewe. Koma sikuti zonse ndi zosagwirizana kwambiri. Zodabwitsa zoyipa, zimapangika kamodzi, zitha kubwereza munthu nthawi ndi nthawi. Inde, ndipo pezani kumvetsetsana ndi anthu ku "moyo womaliza" wa munthu ndi kovuta. Zachidziwikire mutha kunena chinthu chimodzi chokha. Kusankha ubale ndi mwamuna ndi ana, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuzigwiritsa ntchito kwambiri kuti muwapulumutse kuposa kumvetsetsana ndi Bachelor.