Munthu aliyense ali ndi adani - anthu omwe amasangalala kumupweteka komanso kuvutika. Nthawi zina mdani amawoneka chifukwa cha kusamvana kwina pakati pa anthu, ndipo nthawi zina zipilala chifukwa cha momwe zinthu ziliri. Nthawi zina, anthu ena amadana kwambiri ndi munthu kulikonse popanda chifukwa chilichonse.
Mosasamala kanthu kumene adani awa, ndikofunikira kuganizira zifukwa zomwe aliri oyenera ... kuyamikira.1. Ndi maphunziro abwino kwambiri pamwambowu.
Kunena zowona, adaniwo ndi anthu abwino kwambiri omwe angakuthandizeni kukhala ndi mkwiyo. Ngakhale kuti palibe chinsinsi chomwe adani angakwiyitse munthu aliyense, ndizowonanso kuti angathandize pakukhumba mtima. Tikulankhula za zovuta. Kumbali ina, ndizosatheka kukwiya ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Koma pokhapokha ngati munthu atakwiya, adzaphunzira momwe angagwiritsire ntchito.
Kuwongolera mkwiyo kumathandiza kwambiri pakamachitika, osati mu lingaliro.
Chifukwa chake, adani ndiwabwino kuposa othandizira aliwonse, chifukwa amayamba kudana, ndipo motero, ndipo ndizotheka kupeza mwayi wowongolera zofuna zawo.
2. Uwu ndi mwayi wokhala ndi mpikisano wathanzi.
Mwina ambiri sakudziwa izi, koma adani amatha mpikisano wathanzi. Munthu amalimbikitsidwa kuti apikisane, ndipo akhoza kukhala ndi zofunika kwambiri kukankha.
Komabe, ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti sikofunikira kukhala mtundu woyipa kwambiri munthawi yoyesa yopitilira chilichonse. Kugwira ntchito ndi munthu yemwe ali mkati, ndipo ndikofunikira kuonetsetsa kuti sizingakumvekerere iye kapena chikhalidwe chake. Mpikisano wathanzi ndi chitsimikizo cha kuchita bwino.
3. Ndemanga zoyipa
Ndizowona kuti adani sadzanenanso chilichonse. Komabe, monga mawu awo sanagwiritsidwe ntchito chifukwa chonamizira, akhoza kutenga nawo mbali.Zachidziwikire, nthawi iliyonse mukamva zinthu zoyipa kapena zosasangalatsa ndi mdani, zimayesedwa mozama. Pali kuthekera kwa kuti mawu a mdani ndiowona, ndipo kuzindikira kuti izi ndi gawo lofunikira lomwe limathandizira kukhala labwino. Uwu ndi umboni wina kuti adani akhoza kukhala othandiza nyimbo.
4. Adani amatha kukhala olimba
Ngati munthu amakondedwa ndi mdani wake, ndiye kuti izi zikutanthauza kuti ayesa kuyanjana naye ndi kuyanjanitsa. Mapeto ake, ngati onse atha kupeza chilankhulo chimodzi ndikuwongolera zomwe zikuchitika, zingatheke kupeza bwenzi latsopano. Ndipo izi siziteteza aliyense.
Zimathandizanso kugwira ntchito ndi anthu omwe ali kutali kwambiri. Kupatula apo, munthu azikhala wokonzanso luso lake, ndipo izi zitha kukhala zazikulu pantchito yake.
5. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zitheke kukhala zabwino
Ngakhale mu mbiya zosasangalatsa nthawi zonse zimakhala supuni ya china chake chabwino.Nthawi zina kudziwa zakuti munthuyu ali ndi adani, angamuthandize kuyang'ana pa nthawi zambiri za moyo wake wabwino. Nthawi zambiri anthu amanyalanyaza zomwe amafunikira m'moyo. Ndipo zitha kukhala chifukwa chodera nkhawa kwambiri adani omwe ali nazo.
Komabe, kuzindikira kumeneku kungalimbikitse aliyense kuti aganize ndi kuwona zinthu zosiyanasiyana pazinthu ndi anthu omwe amazungulira.
6. Kusamvetsetsa Kwabwino
Nthawi zina zomwe zimayambitsa udani ndi munthu zingakhale zopanda vuto kwambiri. Mwinanso munthu sanadziwe chifukwa cha zifukwa zenizeni zomwe zawonongedwa, ndipo mdani wake angathandize kuphunzira momwe ziliri.
Kungoyesera kuyandikira kwa mdani, mutha kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe chapula. Izi, zitha kuthandiza kukhazikitsa ubale mtsogolo. Kusamvana nthawi zonse kumachitika, ndipo muyenera kudutsa.
7. Mutha kuphunzira kuyamikira chikondi
Chikumbutso mosalekeza kuti pali adani, nawonso sathandizanso kuti asatenge zoyenera kwa iwo amene amakonda munthudi. Chikondi ndi chidani ndizovuta ziwiri zosiyana, ndipo munthu akhoza kuphimba wina kwakanthawi.Komabe, ngakhale munthu amakhala adaimba nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse amakhalapo anthu omwe amamukonda. Anthu awa ayenera kulandira ulemu pazomwe amachita kwa munthu. Musalole kuti kuchitidwa komwe kunayambitsidwa ndi adani, kuti azikangalika pa anthu ena.
8. Kodi ndimafunikiradi chidani?
Mabodza Athunthu Chifukwa chakuti adaniwo amangobweretsa malingaliro olakwika okha ndikupangitsa kuti anthu azichita zinthu zoipa. Ngati wina akufuna kukhala ndi moyo wopambana, sayenera 'kunyamula katundu wathunthu onse amenewa ndi zokumana nazo. "
Kudana ndi koyipa, ndipo muyenera kuyesa zonse kuti muchotse. Mfundo zodziwika bwino ndizakuti palibe amene angakwaniritse zambiri m'moyo, ngakhale atanyamula katundu wambiri ndi iye. Ndipo chidani ndiye mtundu waukulu kwambiri wamalingaliro "."