Sikuti ana onse okhala ndi mawonekedwe akuwoneka mu kanema wonena za "munthu wamvula" kapena akuyenda ku America. Nthawi zambiri ena amaganiza kuti mwanayo amangofunidwa, samayesa, kukwezedwa bwino. Iwo amene ali ndi chidaliro kuti makolo sadziwa momwe angachitire mwanayo akhoza kuyamba kuona ndi upangiri, ndemanga komanso monyoza. Zotsatira za kusintha koteroko kungakhale kosiyana ndi mkwiyo komanso mantha osavuta, mpaka dongosolo lamanjenje likuphulika, lomwe limakhala lolimbikitsa m'makhalidwe.
Tidafunsa mayi angapo, omwe ana awo akuwoneka kuti amakhala ngati barobists's Barobists's Bandism's ndi momwe amakhalira ndi mwana wamba padziko lapansi pano akutsutsidwa nthawi zonse.
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Ndili ndi mwana wamwamuna wazaka zisanu ndi "anzeru." Kuchokera kwa iye ndi kudikirira kuti azichita zinthuzi: "Palibe" Chifukwa Chake ", mtundu wina wa mitundu ina. Ndipo samachirikiza kukambirana komanso pamavuto (ndiye kuti, ndi akunja) pafupifupi amapita ku echolalia.- Kodi mumakonda ayisikilimu?
- Ndimakonda ayisikilimu.
- Kodi mukufuna kukhala ndani?
- Mukufuna kukhala.
Apa anthu amawoneka achilendo ... mwa ine. Ndipo popeza sakhala atyna zomwe zikuchitika, ndipo ngati ndikunena kuti "Autism" - amaganiza kuti ndi mawu oti "anzeru," akulankhula za pang'ono ndi a Mwana, kapena kwa munthu wachikulire yemwe sanatenge, kapena mankhwala ena sanayipeze - ambiri, mpaka momwe ana amathandizira ana.
Ndimamvetsera malangizo otsatirawo, koma kwa zina palibe amene palibe amene palibe amene palibe amene amamvera anga - momwe angaphunzitsire bwino kulumikizana ndi mwanayo, ndipo sakhala opanda kulumikizana.
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Mtsikana wina wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi amawerenga mwachangu, amadziwa buku lina la ana angapo, amachulukitsa ndi kugawa m'maganizo. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo, mavuto apabanja nthawi zina amatha kuiwalika ndipo amafotokozabe ngati zotayika, zokhala ndi mabatani okhazikika ngakhale mabatani, ndizovuta, zimakhala zovuta kukanikiza momwe zimakhalira. Mukhoza kulira mwadzidzidzi, monga ana akatopa. Itha kuyamba kubwereza mawu amodzi ndi munthu, monganso chosamveka kapena chachilendo ndikuwazungulira mozungulira.
Amakwiya kwambiri ndikandiuza kuti zidasokonekera chifukwa ndidamupangitsa kuti aphunzire. Sindinakakamize, iye ndikuwerenga, ndipo kuchulukitsa mwanjira ina.
Posachedwa kuyika kwa ife Autism, koma fotokozani mtundu wanji wa ma autism ndi, zili ngati kuyankhula ndi osamveka. Nthawi yomweyo, ma Aufism zidachitika chifukwa mwanayo adaphunzitsidwa kuwerenga.
Amafunikanso kupotoza m'manja nthawi zonse kuti azikhala odekha, ndipo akuyesera kutenga zoseweretsa zake kuti apange, kuti asakhale a Ider.
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Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kotero kuti anthu okwiya amaumiriridwa ndikuyamba kufuula.Nthawi zina amatha kumvetsetsa ("mwana wanu wakwera mwana wanga pakhosi"), nthawi zina palibe ("chifukwa chiyani mwana wanu amalavulira pansi pa sitolo ?!")
Mwana wanga wamwamuna akadangoimba mlandu, ndiye kuti sindikulakwa, ndikupepesa, ndikupemphani zomwe anthu akufuna.
Mwambiri, mukamanena mofatsa kuti "mwanayo ali ndi kulumala," nthawi zambiri anthu amakhala chete, amapepesa okha ndikuchokapo. Koma nthawi zina ayi, pitilizani kungofuna kuti zikhale zolondola pakadali pano. Muyenera kufunsa "ndipo mukutanthauza chiyani?"
Koma anthu ovuta kwambiri ali pachipongwe. "Umu ndi momwe Mulungu adakukhudzirani," kapena chifukwa makolo [brud] adabadwa, ana oterewa adabadwa, "Kunyumba kumeneko kunali" kunyumba komweko si kachisi, ndipo Chilichonse chidzatha, ndipo ziwanda zake zidzamasulidwa. " Apa nthawi zambiri ndimasweka padenga ndipo ndimayamba kulankhula ndi zoipa kwenikweni, monga "thanzi labwino, makamaka lokonda." Ndibwino kuti anthu otere samapeza tsiku lililonse.
M'malo mwake, kuona mwachilendo, mwana "wolungama" ndi wopanda pake, wopanda chidwi komanso wopanda ulemu; Zojambula zoterezi zimapereka ku Cuba. Kapena nkhope, ngakhale payekha, kapena m'njira inayake, kapena m'njira yopanda tanthauzo m'moyo sizimasamala.
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Za msungwana wanga zaka zimenezi ananena kuti sanayese pano osayesa pamenepo. Chifukwa chiyani mukukumana ndi nkhope yauberekero, bwanji osamvetsetsa nthabwala, mungachite bwanji mantha kwambiri ndi tchuthi, bwanji muli ndi misozi yonse ya misozi, mumangolankhula, sonkhanitsani, werengani, Yankhani Zonse Njira ndikumwetulira, ndipo mudzakhala anzanu ndipo simudzakhala anzanu ndipo simudzaseka.
Kodi simungamvetsetse bwanji kuti muli ndi njala, kudwala, kodi mumakupwetekani, muli ndi chiyani, chitsiru? Awa ndi mafunso.
Mwinanso zidawoneka kwa iwo kuti chilichonse chinali chosavuta, chifukwa mtsikanayo anali wanzeru komanso wokongola, amawerenga kwambiri (ndipo tsopano, amawerenga). Koma zochulukirapo ndipo tsopano sizophweka. M'mbuyomu, mtsikanayo a Kamenene, tsopano amayamba kufunafuna momwe angapume amapuma, ngati atathedwa nzeru, kapena kuti usatsirize. Kwa zaka zambiri, njira zawo zayamba.
Komano, mosamveka konse, monga munthu angaganizire zopusa komanso zanzeru nthawi yomweyo.
Amadziwa momwe angamwere kumwetulira, mukangovuta pazifukwa zina, sizikuwoneka bwino, ndipo ndizomveka. Ndipo misozi yake ndiyofunika kwambiri, sangakhale ndi manyazi, misozi imawumitsidwa pamene iye ali osachita izi mwa iye yekha, koma kuyesera kupitilizabe kuchita, kumayankhula ndi anthu ndi izi chifukwa cha izi. Samayenda ngakhale, m'makona a diso kumalembedwanso. Monga momwe mungatengere misozi, sindimamvetsetsa.
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Mnyamata wanga ndi wocheperako, kuphatikiza kukula, komanso othandizira kwambiri. Ndizotheka kuti chifukwa chake ndemanga zomwe zimaperekedwa makamaka zomwe zidaperekedwa zomwe zimachokera kwenikweni mwanjira ina sizimapitilira. Mobwerezabwereza, mulimonse. Anthu ambiri akumwalira - mwana wanga wazaka pafupifupi zisanu ndipo nthawi zina amachita chimodzimodzi.Chovuta kwambiri ndi zoyendera pagulu. Pazifukwa zina, chiwerengero chachikulu kwambiri chokwanira kukwaniritsidwa. Abwana amodzi osasangalatsa sanakonde kuti mnyamatayo ali wodetsa kumbuyo kwa mpando patsogolo pake. Kuyesa kwanga kukadana ndi azakhali a anyamata, kotero kuti ndikanakhazikitsanso kalikonse, a Auntie adanyalanyaza, ndikunamizira kuti sanali pano. Mnyamatayo adafuula nthawi zonseyi (amangokalipira nthawi zonse). M'malo mwake, khuminkino ndicholinga kwambiri, koma iye anali woipa kwambiri.
Ena nthawi zambiri amachitira umboni kuti mnyamatayo agona pansi, omwe samakhudza aliyense.
Mwambiri, mavuto onse ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna akukhudzana ndi kasamalidwe ka gululo. Pafupifupi samvera magulu amawu, samayankha akamamupempha ndipo amakonda kuthawa m'sitolo. Zowona, mafuta ndi kukhala pagululo, nthawi yomweyo amayamba kuukira kwa msasa wozungulira uja ndikuwonetsa kuti ndiwe wopusa, ngakhale anali wokhulupirika kwa iye.
Koma kwenikweni, ndikukayikira kuti anthu akungomaliza kumene mfundo zathu zokongola, chifukwa cha mwana wathu wonse maphunziro, ntchito zakale zanzeru "sizingagonjetsedwe ndi chisokonezo - mutu." Ndipo ine mutu. Nthawi zambiri timayang'ana mosamala ndipo nthawi zina timasaka, kukwawa ....
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Mwana wanga wamwamuna wapakati adapezeka ndi vuto lalikulu la ulesi ali ndi zaka pafupifupi 7, mochedwa kwambiri, koma anali atakhala osakwiya kusukulu, mawonekedwe, ndipo adasokonekera chifukwa chopanikizika. Ambiri mwa zonse zomwe ndidakhudzidwa ndi akatswiri amisala, zomwe ndidamlemekeza kale, ndipo zimamukhulupirira. Ananenanso ndiye kuti mwana wanga wangochotsedwa ndipo ndikofunikira kusuta.
Tsopano ndi khumi ndi zitatu ndipo zimalipidwa, ine ndi bambo anga timakhala nazo zambiri. Koma pali anthu omwe akhumudwitsidwa ndi mawonekedwe ake, koma zomwe sanachite, alibe chidwi ndi izi, sizimayendayenda nokha. Ndipo mayi m'modzi wa mwana yemwe ali ndi mpikisano womwe ndidandiuza, kuyerekezera naye, kuwoneka: Muli ndi kanthu kena kake.
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Mwambiri, mwana wanga (ali ndi vuto la Spectrom Spectrum) osati lokha kuti salankhula komanso akupanga nkhope zoseketsa, amayendanso ngati zombie mufilimu: akuyendanso , zochepa) kuposa agalu owopsa. Ndi odutsa tsiku lamdima.
Koma ambiri, zomwe ndizodabwitsa kuti zikungoonekeratu kuti zonse sizabwino kwambiri, koma siziletsa anthu konse, kuti avomereze zochulukira, kuti musafotokoze ndi kufotokoza kwa iye kuti ndizosatheka kukhala ndi moyo.
Ndipo sizipanga china choletsedwa, chimangofanana ndi buku lomwelo, zomwe anthu amalankhula, kapena kuseka popanda chifukwa chodziwikiratu. Kapena nkhope imadzimanga, iye ali ndi cholembera komanso chowonekera kwambiri. Nthawi zina amalira.
Mwambiri, motsimikiza motsimikiza sikuti, koma dziko la maupangiri kudziko la Asoviets. Orthodox amalimbikitsa kupita kuma kilomita chikwi kuti aphatikize kapena kucheza ndi akulu ku china chake. Pomvetsetsa kwawo, chiwopsezo cha moyo wa mwana chimayenera kulanga china chake ndikupanga chozizwitsa. Ndimanena mwaulemu kuti "Zikomo", chifukwa pofotokozera chifukwa chomwe sindikufuna kuzunza ndikuwonetsa kuopsa kwa pachimake ndi khunyu yomwe ndidafuwula. Mitundu yosatheka.
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Ndili ndi mwana wovuta kwambiri, komanso ngakhale ndi vuto la zamaganizidwe. Ndipo inu mumakhala motsimikiza nthawi zonse, chifukwa aliyense amayesetsa kufotokoza malingaliro ake pamene muli ndi dongosolo la zaka zisanu mmanja mwanu kapena pamene mtsikanayo ayamba kulira chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa senyu. Samasunga chitetezo, "Palibe vuto, ndipo mwadzidzidzi wasweka kale. Nthawi zambiri ndimamvetsetsa vuto.Ndipo mkazi wachikulire akabwera kwa inu, ndipo mudzamuyankha kuti: "Koma sindinapemphe malingaliro ako," - "Zikomo kwambiri, tidzalimbana nafe," pozungulira iwe ukukhumudwitsa mkazi wokalambayo . Zowona, palibe mkazi wokalamba atakhala chete. Nthawi zambiri kapena kuyamba kufuula, kapena kuwukira kuti: "Ndikuwona momwe mukumvera!"
Nthawi zambiri pamakhala zochitika zomwe akuluakulu a anthu ena amayankhira mawonekedwe a mwana yemwe wasankha nkhope yake ndi zikwangwani, mwachitsanzo. Chifukwa cha izi, ndikakhala chete, mtsikanayo amatha kumva tsiku lonse ndikulira asanagone.
Ndikutani?
Ndikuphunzira kusankha malire anu, popanda kusamukira kuzindikiridwe kwa amene amatiululira. Timaloweza mawu. Ndipo ndimamufotokozera mwana wanga wamkazi zomwe zikuchitika. Zomwe ubale wathu ndi iye omwe anthu amachita molakwika, kufotokoza malingaliro awo za ife, ndipo ndidawafotokozera.
Sizingatheke kukhala chete. Choyamba, owukirawo sangokhala chete, ngati mukukhala chete, chachiwiri, zomwe sindinaziime naye, mtsikanayo ndi wovulala kwambiri.
Moyo wanga wamatsenga muchuma ndiokhazikika pamalire. Zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi Hypepica, momwe ndimanenera nthawi zina. Chifukwa ndimayankha poyankha zowonekera.
Chilengedwe chikakhala bata, mavuto amathetsedwa mosavuta. Kutonthoza mwana, perekani gingerbread, chokoleti kapena chikwama mkaka, ndipo ndi chimenecho. Koma zonse zodetsa zimadutsa nthawi. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala kufuna kuyankhula.
Nthawi yomweyo, mtsikanayo ndi wopanda mavuto, aulemu komanso wotchedwa.
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Ndili ndi mwana yemwe samagwirizana ndi pasipoti. Ndiye kuti, amayang'ana zaka 2 wamkulu kuposa pasipoti yake, ndipo amatsogolera kwa achinyamata awiri. Nthawi yomweyo, malinga ndi kuzindikiridwa ndi kudziwitsidwa, sikuti olemba, koma mtundu wina wa zinyalala. Mwalamulo - abusa.
Ndipo uku ndi kusagwirizana kwa zomwe anthu amawona, ndi momwe amakhalira, owazungulira amayamba kuchita nawo. Chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti patsogolo pawo mwana wa giredi 3, ndipo tidali chaka chino kusukulu. Ndipo zokhudzana ndi anthu nthawi zambiri zimakonzekera zaka zisanu. Zotsatira zake, pamakhala muzakhali nthawi zonse ndi kufanana.
Nkhani za Gid Lilith Mazikina
Mafanizo: Shuttlando