Maubwenzi abwino amatanthauza kusamala pakati pa "tengani ndikupereka", koma amatsatira lamuloli, mwatsoka, si onse. Ndipo ngati mgwirizano wasweka, ndiye kuti wina amagwiritsa ntchito bwino munthu kapena mwachinsinsi. Munkhaniyi, tinena za zizindikilo za 9 zomwe zidzadziwitseni kuti muli paubwenzi ndiwe chinthu chogwiritsidwa ntchito.
Mavuto amuyaya pamachimo akale
Palibe amene alibe chimo - ngakhale malingaliro akulu kwambiri amalakwitsa zinthu. Koma chikumbutso chokhazikika cha munthu komwe ndi pamene anali kulakwitsa - kusimidwa bwino - kusabisika kobisika kuti apangitse kumva kuti ali ndi mlandu wochokera kwa interloor. Ngati theka lachiwiri nthawi zambiri limakumbutsa zomwe mwaphonya, mukudziwa - akufuna kupeza china popanda kukuwerengerani.Za zofuna zanu sizikupezeka
Amalankhula mosangalala ndi zomwe amakonda, koma akangofika m'makalasi omwe mumakonda, nthawi yomweyo amawoneka ngati zinthu zofunika komanso mwachangu? Ichi ndi chifukwa china choganizira. M'bale yathunthu, ndikofunikira kuti okwatirana akhale ndi chidwi ndi moyo wa wokondedwa, ndipo mwamtheratu nditakhala kuti ali m'lingaliro - lokhudza masokosi kapena pokonza galimoto.
Nthawi iliyonse kudzidalira kwanu ndikuyandikira zero
Maubwenzi samangogonana, bajeti yolumikizirana ndi zosangalatsa. Ndizachikumbutso, maubale amalola kuti aliyense mwa onse akule malinga ndi kukula kwake. Munthu akadziwa mphamvu zake ndi zofooka zake - zimamupangitsa kudziona mokwanira. Ndi ntchito ya ophunzira muawiri - thandizirani wina ndi mzake kuyenda m'njira yoyenera. Ngati simukukumbukira kale, pomwe nthawi yomaliza imveka kuchokera ku matamando kapena kuyamikiridwa ku adilesi yanu, koma nthawi zonse amayamikiridwa ndi milingo yayitali pamilingo yawo - kuthawa, kumakugwiritsani ntchito motsimikiza.Achibale akukumana nazo
Chifukwa cha mphamvu, atsikanawo amakondana ndi mnzake, koma ena sadzatero. Kusanthula kwa maubwenzi kuchokera kumbali nthawi zina kumakupatsani mwayi kuwona zofooka zonse, chifukwa kulibe "magalasi apinki". Sikofunikira kutsatira malangizo onse ochokera kumbali, koma ndikofunikabe kuwamvetsera, makamaka kwa anthu omwe alibe chidwi ndi makolo, abale ndi alongo. Ndiwofunika kwambiri kuti tisachedwe ndi anthu, popanda kunena kuti anthu, anthu akuyesera kufotokoza chowonadi chomwecho ponena za inu - yesani kumvera mfundo ndikuganiza, ndipo mwina akunena zoona?
Mnzake akuti "Chilichonse chikhala bwino"
M'mikhalidwe yonse, mnzanu amaumiriza kuti zonse zikhale momwe iye akufunira, kodi malingaliro ake ali "chifukwa chake aliyense adzakhala bwino"? Palibe amene amapatula kuti pali munthu wapadera pafupi nanu, omwe ali 100% amalosera za zochitika zonse, komabe pali mwayi wochepa kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri, mawu otere, munthu amangolandira zomwe zimapindula kwa iye. Kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukungoyenera kumufunsa kuti abweretse mfundo zochepa, bwanji zidzakhala bwino kwa aliyense? Ndipo zikatsatira izi: "O, chiriwe, monga mukudziwa" kapena china chonga icho, musakayikire - pamaso panu munthu wosanja.Mnzanu alibe chidwi ndi zolephera zanu komanso zolephera.
Ngati munthu wokondedwa sakuyankha mwanjira iliyonse kupita ku fiasco yanu ndi chigonjetso - amalankhula chinthu chimodzi - mulibe chidwi kwa iye. Ndipo mu maubale ndi inu, amatha kukhala pachizolowezi, kapena chifukwa amakhala omasuka. Mwina akukuyang'anani ngati gulu laluso, koma ngati mkazi amene mulibe chidwi.
Sakufuna kukuthandizani
Sikuti mavuto onse omwe munthu amatha kuthana popanda thandizo, makamaka mkazi. Mu ubale wabwinobwino, bambo amatenga udindo wothetsera ntchito zovuta ndi kuthandiza mkazi wake, kuteteza ndi kuteteza. Ngati muli ndi vuto la mtundu wina, mumakondwera okondedwa anu kuti muthandizidwe, ndipo sizikuthandizani kuti muthandizire - ichi ndi chizindikiro china kuti mu maubale omwe muli ndi chinthu chogwiritsa ntchito."Ayi" sikutanthauza kanthu
Zachidziwikire, pali zochitika zomwe zolephera zonse ziyenera kudutsidwa ndi makutu, koma milandu yadzidzidzi ya mayunitsi. Ngati "ayi" ndi phokoso lopanda kanthu kwa mnzake, ndipo zochita zake mogwirizana ndi inu mukuyamba kale kukhala ngati chiwawa - siyani ubalewu posachedwa.
Nthawi zonse mumasankha "zoyenera"
Makonzedwe a malire a malirewo "owona" ndi "molakwika" amagwiritsidwa ntchito pakukula kwa ana akamayesa kugwiritsidwa ntchito pagulu. Izi zikagwiritsidwa ntchito muubwenzi, izi ndizofanana ndi njira zamaphunziro. Ndicholinga ndi maphunziro oterowo - mupangitse mnzake kukhala wabwino momwe mungathere. Ndipo ngati wokondedwa wanu amakuuzani momwe mungachitire, ndi momwe sizifunikira - lingalirani izi, ndipo musakuchitireni?