Abambo ku Span: Zomwe MUKUFUNA KUDZIWA ZOKHUDZA NGATI NGATI NGATI NDINAKHALA NDI Mwana

Chisamaliro: Werengani pansipa, pokhapokha ngati (udali) ndi (kukhala) ndi mwana yemwe akugwira ntchito kunyumba ndi mwamuna wake / bambo wanu si mwana wabwino kwambiri Kugona komanso kugona yekha, sikungokhala pachifuwa masiku ozungulira, mabodza komanso kumasewera tsiku lonse, ndipo muli ndi nthawi yopanga chilichonse, kuwonjezera pa mwana.

Eya, ndipo ngati mulibe agogo / nanny. Ndikofunikira. Ena sangamvetse.

Mwana wanu sadzatsika ndi manja, "amagona ndi mabere pakamwa", "osagona kwa miyezi itatu popanda ine," ndipo "ulibe nthawi ndipo ulibe nthawi komanso ndatopa kwambiri.

Mu sabata yoyamba mwana wanga wamwamuna atabadwa, ndimakhala kwambiri pamaneti ochezera. Kodi ndakhala bwanji ndi nthawi? Chabwino .... Masana adagona pamwamba pa ine, m'mimba kumaso. Ili ndi nkhani yosiyana, chifukwa chake zidachitika, tsiku lina ndidzakuuza. Koma pachifukwa ichi, theka la tsiku lomwe ndidagona naye. Ndipo theka lachiwiri, akupitilizabe kulowa pamimba, ine, "TUPUS mu Faphabuch". Ayi, ndinayesa kuwerenga moona mtima kuwerenga mabuku poyamba. Koma timayika mumdima, ndi kuunika komwe sanagone. Ndipo ine ndinakanikiza e-bukulo ndi chiwongola dzanja chanu sabata yachiwiri yowerenga. Sanalangedwe, motero anali chipulumutso chimodzi - foni, ndi mmenemo - malo ochezera a pa Intaneti.

Imodzi mwa magulu omwe ine ndimawerenga anali kuyankhula kwa Chingerezi, za pakati ndi ana. "Ali ndi" m'mizere yozungulira ya amayi - pafupifupi zonse ngati ife. Kuvutika pang'ono ponena za lamulo losaulitsidwa ndi mafunso pang'ono pang'ono a momwe angachepetse. Koma zokambirana chimodzi zimakopa chidwi changa. Za kuchuluka kwa miyezi yoyamba yomwe mzimayi yemwe amakhala yekha ndi mwana watopa kwambiri, pakutha kwa tsikulo kuphedwa kwathunthu - kukhumudwitsidwa kwathunthu - kumasulira kwa mkonzi. Ndipo mfundo yoti amuna samvetsetsa izi ndipo sakhumudwitsana, kukondana, kusakonda kukumbatirana ngakhale pabedi.

Unalidi lingaliro latsopano kwathunthu kwa ine. Anayamba kukumbukira kwambiri, ndipo ndimaganiza za izi ndikudziwa nthawi yayitali zitatha.

Kupatula apo, kwenikweni. Mkazi amene amadya, nthawi zonse "amadzipereka." Ndipo ngakhale osaganizira pachifuwa, thupi lake limangokumbatirana nthawi zonse, kupsompsona, makina osindikizira. Amamugwira nthawi zonse, amakhudza mwana, kukumbatirana, kumavala, kumasewera ndi mthenga, ndi mtima wonse. Tsiku lonse! Ndipo ngakhale ngati ndiri kolota kwambiri padziko lapansi ... Kodi satopa nazo? ..

Nthawi zonse ndimakhala kukumbatirana. Ndipo ndinakwatirana bwino - mwamunayo ndi chimodzimodzi. M'mbuyomu, m'malingaliro mwanga, tinali m'thunthu ndi nthawi yonseyo yomwe anali kunyumba. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikuchigwira, osasungidwa kumbuyo, kukumbatirana, kupsompsona. Tinagona "mu Oakha". Koma mwana wathu wamwamuna akugogoda kwa miyezi itatu, ndipo mwamunayo adadandaula kwambiri chifukwa chosamalira chidwi, sindinadziwe kuti amalankhula koyamba pazinthu zakuthupi ndipo ndinayamba kumvetsera.

Ayi, inde za ine!.

Mwadzidzidzi "momveka 'kuti m'masabata amenewa nthawi ino nthawi zonse amapewa kuti kuyankhulana, ndiye kuti kulumikizana ndi anthu. Ngati kuti ukukonda kupsompsonana kwa sabata. Usiku, nthawi zina amasunthika mpaka theka la kama. Anacheza ndi mwamuna wake m'masiku onse akukhitchini, koma mwina sindinamukhudze. Nthawi iliyonse yaulere yomwe ndimasamala za ine - anagona, komanso za nyumbayo , Chakudya, kutsuka, kutsuka ... koma osati za kukumbatirana.

Zinali kumverera kuti ndinali ngati kuti 'zitaimitsa'. Iwo adatulutsa mabatire kuchokera pansi pa nkhungu wanga wamkati, yemwe moyo wake wonse adandikakamiza kuti ndiwakumbatira anthu, asunge manja, ndikuwakhudza. Ndipo inde - Gwirani phokoso lamphamvu kwa iwo.

Tsopano ndafunikira kuyankhulana. Ndinkafunafuna kwambiri, kwambiri ndipo ndimalankhulana mosangalala ndi mwamuna wanga, anzanga, abale anga, abale anga okha ... koma akukumbatirana pamsonkhanowu adakhala achisoni kwambiri. Ayi, zoona, panali nthawi zoyandikira, ndipo ndimakumbatirana ndi kupsompsona, koma makamaka kumapeto kwa sabata. Kapenanso tili ndi agogo (zikomo amayi anga, takhala miyezi iwiri! ...) Mu tsiku lonse, pomwe ndimakhala nthawi zonse ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna, chifukwa cha chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri ndimamwa zopweteka , Nthawi zambiri ndimangofuna kugwera pafupi, nthawi zina, mwina, kucheza kukhitchini, koma kotero kuti sandigwira, ngati sikuti ndi kutikita minofu. Kutikita kuti wokondedwa, kupumula ndikusintha mwachindunji kukhala loto. Chifukwa mtsogolo unali usiku ndi chakudya chake usiku ndi mabere owawa.

Kenako ndinalankhula ndi amayi ena achichepere, ndipo zinapezeka kuti atsikana azungu olankhula Chingelezi anali kulondola - ndife otero.

Ndipo ufulu ndi womwe amuna satimvera kwenikweni.

Amuna, abambo ... ngakhale zodabwitsa komanso kumvetsetsa (mwamuna wanga ali monga choncho!), Samakhala masiku, akumakumbatira ndi kunyamula ana, ndikudyetsa mabere ake. Inde, m'malo mwake bambo sadya kozungulira. Manja ndi mmbuyo wawo sadwala kwambiri ndikuzikweza ndi kubereka mwana. Pambuyo pobereka, samagwera m'magazi a estrogen, prolactin siyikuwukitsa, kubisa ena kapena libido. Palibe chomwe chinasintha kalikonse "Pamenepo, pansipa, chifukwa cha mipata kapena episitomy, sanamvere gawo la gawo la Cesarean. Sali owopsa ndipo osavulalanso kuti ayambe kupanga chikondi. Sindikufuna kugogoda pa mnzake panthawiyi kuti ndipange mwayi wowonjezera kwa ola limodzi la kugona. Amachokera kuntchito, mkazi kunyumba, mwana nthawi zambiri amagona, zonse zili ngati kale. Chifukwa chiyani masiku ano sali monga kale? .. Ndipo kuti mkazi wangotuluka mchipinda chimodzi atatsika maola awiri akusowa ndi nkhondoyi ,. ...

Pomaliza, nthawi zambiri samadziwa ndipo osaganiza kuti ndizotheka - safuna kukhala pafupi. Nthawi zina simukufuna, chifukwa aulesi kwambiri kuti muchepetse. Nthawi zina simukufuna, chifukwa ndikufuna kugona ndipo sindimagwira miyendo. Nthawi zina osafuna, chifukwa chibadwa chikufuula mkati mwanu - ayi ayi, ngati iye atero umuna, sunakhale wocheperako, simungakhale ndi pakati! ...

Ndipo nthawi zina - simungangofuna ndikunyansidwa, chifukwa mumakhudzidwa kwathunthu.

ASAFUNA KUTI AKUFUNA KUGWIRITSITSA NTCHITO NDIPO KUSANGALALA. Muli kale - zonse zidakukumba ndikuchiritsidwa lero nthawi zana. Mukufuna kukhala munthu, malingaliro, koma osati thupi. Thupi lanu likufuna kupumula ndipo osakhala pang'ono tsopano.

Ndipo ngati ndi choncho - masabata, miyezi? Kodi munthu adzapirira chiyani?.

Koma pali kukakamizidwa kwa akazi. Akuwadikirira kuti alowe mwachangu. Kuti kugonana kumachitika nthawi yomweyo. Kodi nthawi yolera mwana, ndipo nthawi yomweyo zonse zimachotsedwa bwino ndi kuphika chakudya chamadzulo cha mbale zitatu. Kukonda komanso kumvetsera. Ndikuwoneka bwino.

Zoyenera kuchita?..

Chofunikira kwambiri ndikuti muyenera kutenga chowonadi - simukakamizidwa. Muli ndi ufulu wokhala nokha. Kusakonda magazini okongola. Muli ndi ufulu "woponderezedwa" mukafuna.

Inde, muyenera kuyankhula, kuti mufotokozere. Apatseni mwamuna wake komanso abale ake kuti azisamalira mwana mpaka nthawi yambiri komanso mwayi. Kupumula kokha. Tengani nokha. Kumbukirani kuti ndi anu. Kubwezeretsa. Osayesa kukhala mayi ndi mkazi wabwino. Mulibe nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu, china chake chikuyenera kupereka china chake.

Ndipo inde, munthu wanu apirira. Chifukwa ndi munthu wokhwima wamkulu, ndipo amadziwa kukonda. Mvetsani ndi kuvomereza. Kupatula apo, chimodzimodzi kuchokera ku kubereka kotereku kwa ana? .. Ndipo chifukwa muyenera kudzizindikira nokha ndikutha kunena kuti "Ayi" mukatero - ayi. Mukakhala ndi chilichonse chopereka ngakhale. Mwana sadzadikirira, ndipo wamkulu angathe. Ana akukula msanga, adzavutika.

Mapeto ake, mukugwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri padziko lapansi tsopano - mumamwa ndi chikondi cha mwana wanu. Mwana wanu. Ndipo muli ndi ufulu wokhala mu ntchito iyi. Nelaskova, osati, osakumbatirana. Kapena basi - kukhuta.

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