Musanaganize pa chinthu chotere, zingakhale bwino kuganizira zotsatira za ubale wofanana. Maulalo ngati amenewa atha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zowononga. Ndipo zotsatirapo zake sizidzadikirira.
Chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi ofanana ndi owopsa kwa aliyense?
Ubwenziwu nthawi zambiri umabuka ndi chilolezo cha mnzake. Wotenga nawo mbali zofanana ndi maumboni amamva modekha komanso molimba mtima, monga momwe mnzake sakutsutsana ndi zibwenzi zotere. Komabe, izi ndi zovuta kwambiri pakugwirizana kwa onse awiri. Zotsatira za maubale omwe ali ofanana amawonongeka kwa aliyense amene amatenga nawo mbali. Zimakhudza izi ndi gulu lachitatu, lomwe limakhudzidwa kapena mosazindikira.Chifukwa chiyani ubale womwe ukufanana?
Nthawi zambiri, maubale ofanana chifukwa cha kuti munthu akusowa tsiku ndi tsiku. Nthawi zina izi zimachitika chifukwa cha kunyada koyenera kuti ziwonjezeke. Nthawi zambiri anthu amakumana ndi "zisa zopanda pake." Ana amakula ndikutuluka mnyumbamo, makolo mwadzidzidzi amakumana ndi zochitika zachilendo. Tsopano maudindo ochulukirapo komanso nthawi yambiri yaulere, yomwe nthawi zina ilibe chodzaza. Ndiye anthu okondedwa amayamba kukhala pafupi, koma osati limodzi. Ndipo wina wochokera ku mnzake amathetsedwa pa ubale wofanana ndi kuyesa chatsopano, kudziwitsa munthu wokongola. Misonkhanoyi iyamba kukusangalatsani, kuti mupange chiyembekezo kukhala ubale wabwino mu mtima. Mapeto, mudzazindikira kuti maubalewa atha kungokhala patali. Ndi kulumikizana kwa nthawi yayitali, kutopa komanso kutopa kumachitika. Kodi ndizokwanira kwa inu zokwanira? Ndipo zichitika mpaka liti? Zimakhala zovuta kunena.
Kodi ubale womwe umafanana ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, kudalirana pakati pa okwatirana kumavutika. Maubwenzi pakati pa anthu oyandikirali ndi olamulira. Kenako muthanong'oneze bondo, kuimba mlanduna, kumenya nanu. Mwina zingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa kuti m'magulu akufanana, ophunzirawo adayamba masewera achinyengo. Ndipo amene adayamba masewerawa ayenera kuzindikira kuti amakwaniritsa zosowa ndi zofuna zake zokha. Ndi kukonda - malingaliro osangalatsa kwambiri m'moyo wa munthu - palibe chochita.