Kowane ma'aurata suna kara tsarin halaye a dangantakar su - daga yadda mutane suke rayuwa da juna, kafin su wanene ke jagorantar abincin dare ko kuma suke shirya abincin dare ko kuma suke shirya abincin dare. Kodayake shaci da halayen halitta na halitta ne ga dukkan mutane, da rashin alheri, ba dukansu suna da kyau ba. Wani lokacin wani halaye na farko na iya haifar da ƙananan haushi, amma bayan wani lokaci, fushin fushi, wanda ya cutar da dangantaka cikin sauƙi.
Muna ba da misalai na shaci na halaye masu guba na 7-mai guba daga abin da ya kamata a ki idan kuna son samun lafiya da na dogon lokaci.1. Model na clinging
Dangane da wannan tsarin, mutum daya yana jin cewa dangantakarsa tana da impecccccable, da kuma wani bukatar fewan sarari na sirri. Wanda yake buƙatar sarari, "Haɗin kai" da wannan abokin tarayya ya tilasta shi zuwa "jaddada" ga kansa ma karfi. A zahiri, yana daya daga cikin samfuran da aka fi sani a cikin dangantakar. Misali, mutum daya yana jin cewa yankin ta'aziyyarsa shine nisa, musamman bayan jayayya, ɗayan kuma yana jin cewa yana buƙatar magana a yanzu. Don gyara shi, masana ilimin mutane suna ba da shawara don sadarwa akan samfuri na abokin aikinsu. Misali, zai fi kyau kawai ka tambaya: "Me kuke so ku yi magana akai?" Don ba da lokacin abokin tarayya don tunani game da lamarin.
2. Ya sanya laifi a kan abokin tarayya
Tabbas, mutane da yawa suna sanannun halin da ake ciki game da batun abokin tarayya a yawancin yanayi. Wasu nau'i biyu suna da dabi'un zargin juna a cikin kuskurensu, komai. Wannan al'ada ce mai guba sosai, saboda lokacin da abokan tarayya suke yin tsaro kawai da zargin juna, sun rasa damar da za ta kyautata wa juna da kuma jin daɗin kusanci. Akasin wannan yanayin shine ɗaukar nauyin ayyukan nasu, kuma wannan sigar fasali ne na balaguron lafiya da kwanciyar hankali. Sabili da haka, maimakon zama wanda aka azabtar da wannan al'ada, yana da mahimmanci Gwada alhakin ayyukanku kuma ya tattauna shi da abokin tarayya, in ba wani abu da zai lalace.3. miji a Freenzone
Sau da yawa yana faruwa cewa biyu biyun za su yi hankali da yaransu, amma gaba ɗaya sun rasa sha'awar junan su. Dukansu sun fara bi da juna a matsayin aboki ko abokin aiki. Abin takaici, ma'auratan sun manta cewa ya kamata su zama masu ƙauna da abokan tarayya, kuma ba kawai iyaye da / ko maƙwabta a kusa da ɗakin ba. Wajibi ne a yi aiki don hana wannan, ko yana da mahimmanci a gwada samun mafi yawan jin daɗin jin daɗin jin "malam buɗe ido a ciki". Kuna iya farawa da aƙalla minti 10 a rana don tattaunawa "ba komai", kamar dai a ranar farko. Nazarin guda na binciken da aka nuna cewa matsakaita ma'aurata, wanda yake da yara, yana sadarwa mintuna 15 kawai a rana. Don haka ya cancanci ƙara aƙalla minti 10 don wasan kallo ko flirting lokacin da ba ku tattauna matsalolin ba, amma kawai kuyi "rabi" rana ce.
4. Gunaguni ga abokai, ba abokin tarayya ba
Yi la'akari da halin da ake ciki masu zuwa: Abokai suna fahimtar matsalolinku, kuma koyaushe a gefe. Ko da yake yana da girma, amma idan wannan ya faru yayin dangantakar, zai kawo mafi cuta fiye da kyau. Ja da rai kawai ga abokai, ta hanyar nuna abokin tarayya cikin mummunan haske. Bugu da kari, yana yiwuwa a yi zalunci da dangantaka da abokantaka. A lokacin da wani abu ba daidai ba, koyaushe yakamata ka yi tambaya kai tsaye ga abokin tarayya ka yi kokarin tattauna komai.5. Yaro da iyaye da haihuwa
Ka yi tunanin wancan daga cikin abokan ya manta da biyan kuɗi akan rancen, sakamakon abin da bankin ya tilasta azabtarwa. Ba abin mamaki bane cewa ɗayan na iya rasa jini-jini da kuma doke shi. Tabbas, wannan ya faru kusa da kowa. Don hana wannan, daga farkon kuna buƙatar ƙoƙarin ƙoƙarin gina halaye a daidai ƙafa kuma kada ku kula da abokin zama na girma kamar yaro. Yana da sauƙin tattaunawa da natsuwa koyaushe kuma yana ƙoƙarin magance matsalar.
6. Yawan alfahari a cikin hanyoyin sadarwar zamantakewa
Nazarin ya nuna cewa yawan amfani da hanyoyin sadarwar zamantakewa da kyau yana cutar da matakin gamsuwa da dangantakar mutane. Sakamakon haka, wannan yana nufin cewa mafi yawan nuna dangantakarku, da ƙarin buƙatunku zai tabbatar da cewa dangantakar tana da ƙarfi. Wataƙila wani yana jin daɗin kasafin dopamine bayan "likes" da "comments". Amma, wataƙila, dalilan suna zurfi. Wannan na iya rama ko ɓoye rashin tsaro a rayuwar ku tare da abokin tarayya. Ba tare da la'akari da dalilan ba, kuna buƙatar mai da hankali kan gyara matsalolinku, kuma kar a ɓoye wani abu a cikin hanyoyin sadarwar zamantakewa. 'Yan wasa masu farin ciki da gaske suna ciyar da lokaci don buga hanyoyin sadarwar jama'a da kuma ƙarin lokaci don ƙirƙirar tunanin mai daɗi.7. Yunkurin kiyaye komai a karkashin kulawa
Yawancin lokaci, a cikin irin wannan yanayin, mutum ɗaya yana so ya sarrafa ɗayan ko da a cikin trifles. Kuma don a kwantar da hankula cikin dangantaka, wani kuma kawai mutum kawai ya ba ka damar aikata shi. Amma duk wannan yana haifar da gaskiyar cewa mutum a karkashin iko ba zai ji kamar wanda aka azabtar ba. Kuma wannan, don sanya shi a hankali, ba zai jagoranci wani abu mai kyau a cikin dangantaka ba. Don hana irin wannan samfuri, ya zama dole don komawa zuwa sabis na masu ilimin halayyar mutum (ko duk wanda ya dogara) idan kun fara jin fushi a cikin dangantaka.